While visiting a friend, our conversation turned to a particular message board. I can’t remember what it was we were talking about in specific. But, at one point, the topic of conversation shifted to one hobbyist in particular.
The exchange went something like this – Him: “Yeah, *blank* is such an a-hole.” Me: “Well, I really don’t pay attention to that type of thing. He’s never been rude to me, so…” Him: “Have you seen some of the comments he makes? His views are blah blah blah.” He then references something (I can’t remember exactly what it was because it’s truly not important to me) that *blank* said that he disapproved of. Me: “Well, I don’t pay attention to board personas, so…” Him: “Well, he really has the hots for you…” Me: “ Really? I don’t think so… He’s never said anything to me. We’ve never communicated…” Him: “He makes comments about you all the time. But, this guy is really a jerk…”
Seeing as how they’ve never met or even interacted, I found it strange that he was petitioning against him so adamantly. I got a sense that he was inadvertently trying to plant a seed in my head to never see this guy, so I politely stated that “I do not base my business on board personas. One of the sweetest gentlemen I have ever had the pleasure of meeting probably has one of the worst board personas I have ever witnessed. The guys in the men’s room would probably never let up on him if I told about my experience with him because it goes completely against almost everything he posts.” I then changed the subject and shifted his focus. But, when I got home, the FIRST thing I did was jump on my laptop to check this guy out. He made such a pitch to keep me away that it piqued a curiosity I didn’t know existed (well, it DIDN’T exist until he planted the seed). NOW, I’m freaking curious JUST BECAUSE, lol.
Now, I know the general feeling is that providers “cock block” in various ways (not answering reference requests, undercutting other ladies, etc.). But, it’s quite surprising to see it coming from the other end. Ladies, is this common? Gentlemen, have you ever tried to see a lady who refused? What if you found out that the reason she wouldn’t see you is because of male “cock blocking”?
The exchange went something like this – Him: “Yeah, *blank* is such an a-hole.” Me: “Well, I really don’t pay attention to that type of thing. He’s never been rude to me, so…” Him: “Have you seen some of the comments he makes? His views are blah blah blah.” He then references something (I can’t remember exactly what it was because it’s truly not important to me) that *blank* said that he disapproved of. Me: “Well, I don’t pay attention to board personas, so…” Him: “Well, he really has the hots for you…” Me: “ Really? I don’t think so… He’s never said anything to me. We’ve never communicated…” Him: “He makes comments about you all the time. But, this guy is really a jerk…”
Seeing as how they’ve never met or even interacted, I found it strange that he was petitioning against him so adamantly. I got a sense that he was inadvertently trying to plant a seed in my head to never see this guy, so I politely stated that “I do not base my business on board personas. One of the sweetest gentlemen I have ever had the pleasure of meeting probably has one of the worst board personas I have ever witnessed. The guys in the men’s room would probably never let up on him if I told about my experience with him because it goes completely against almost everything he posts.” I then changed the subject and shifted his focus. But, when I got home, the FIRST thing I did was jump on my laptop to check this guy out. He made such a pitch to keep me away that it piqued a curiosity I didn’t know existed (well, it DIDN’T exist until he planted the seed). NOW, I’m freaking curious JUST BECAUSE, lol.
Now, I know the general feeling is that providers “cock block” in various ways (not answering reference requests, undercutting other ladies, etc.). But, it’s quite surprising to see it coming from the other end. Ladies, is this common? Gentlemen, have you ever tried to see a lady who refused? What if you found out that the reason she wouldn’t see you is because of male “cock blocking”?