Phenomenologists

Attraction is a very strange thing. Inexplicable.

I am of an age when my dick does not get hard at every sight of an elegant ankle.

But it is generally hard when I wake up, so no issues physically.

But I observe, as a phenomenon, that if I am with some girls for 5 minutes, just having lunch or something, that my dick gets very wet and ready. I start having pre cum.

On most other occasions, with another girl, nothing.

So I let the state of my penis help me decide who I am really attracted to.

Funny thing, it is not necessarily anything to do with what is normally considered beauty. A beautiful girl can have no effect, a plain girl can have my cock dripping.

So I don't try to rationalise too much, I just enjoy the girls who make my cock drip with anticipation.

Something of it is to do with feeling very comfortable and relaxed.

Nothing makes my dick droop more than drama, upselling, false ooh's and aah's, stripper gps, etc etc.

I had two strippers the other night, great company, great dinner, lots of laughs, but when it came to the bed, nothing, then they started upselling, so my dick was much more discriminatory than my head. My dick told me the truth, had foresight.

On the other hand, I was rock hard with a girl this afternoon who looks much more ordinary, but we have an understanding.

So, are you a phenomenologist, do you decide based on the erectile state of your cock, and is it reliable?

I guess this is as much a question for ladies as the gents. Do some guys have your pussy dripping as soon as you see them? If so, why?

No I don't use my Dick as a dowsing rod.

So what you are saying is, Think with your dick?

That is what got me in trouble with the first wife.

Yes, I'm saying my little brain is a lot more reliable than my big brain. My big brain gets me into trouble with all those stripper flakes.

Long and short of it is, when she goes to the rest room after coffee, I check out my dick to see if it is wet or not, if it is not, it is goodnight sweet dreams call you later. If it is wet it is 'i'd better buy some condoms, I only have 6 left at home'.

Attraction is a very strange thing. Inexplicable.

I am of an age when my dick does not get hard at every sight of an elegant ankle.

But it is generally hard when I wake up, so no issues physically.

But I observe, as a phenomenon, that if I am with some girls for 5 minutes, just having lunch or something, that my dick gets very wet and ready. I start having pre cum.

On most other occasions, with another girl, nothing.

So I let the state of my penis help me decide who I am really attracted to.

Funny thing, it is not necessarily anything to do with what is normally considered beauty. A beautiful girl can have no effect, a plain girl can have my cock dripping.

So I don't try to rationalise too much, I just enjoy the girls who make my cock drip with anticipation.

Something of it is to do with feeling very comfortable and relaxed.

Nothing makes my dick droop more than drama, upselling, false ooh's and aah's, stripper gps, etc etc.

I had two strippers the other night, great company, great dinner, lots of laughs, but when it came to the bed, nothing, then they started upselling, so my dick was much more discriminatory than my head. My dick told me the truth, had foresight.

On the other hand, I was rock hard with a girl this afternoon who looks much more ordinary, but we have an understanding.

So, are you a phenomenologist, do you decide based on the erectile state of your cock, and is it reliable?

I guess this is as much a question for ladies as the gents. Do some guys have your pussy dripping as soon as you see them? If so, why? Originally Posted by essence

IMO this(in red above) has much to do with it for me...
There have been times when the "good looking" "perfect dick" guy walks in and half way through the session I feel I am not as wet as I would like to be.... then there are times when the average joe comes and just from the friendly convo on the phone, and that feeling of the "known" --- by the time my clothes are off and I am sucking... I am dripping, and I am certain, it is from being comfortable, having a connection of what ever sorts. I think you have to be comfortable to really enjoy and get to where you want or need to be... hobbyist or provider.

I think most guys are visual and that generates a lot of the cock feelings. With me its more the verbal and with eye contact. Do a verbal mind fuck and tease me with those eyes and I'm all yours, that all she wrote folks, I'm cummin babe..

I should explain a little what provoked this (apart from a bottle of wine).

My sb is not very experienced with a lot of guys, and she thinks there is something wrong with me if I 'leak', I explain to her it is just a sign she turns me on, no other girl has that effect on me, so I looked up pre cum on google to check it out, it seems it varies a lot between guys.

It's been a long time since a visual alone made me hard.

Ok essence..................... I am with you on all the standpoints in real everyday life dinner dating at strip clubs meeting the oppisite sex.. Or same sex too in my case,
What attracts me n personality and demeanor is NON FAKENESS.
In my job I have had on occasion where a younger quote un quote stud will call me and say Hello I am 26 and work out I look like such and such wouldn't you love to rub my body and I am like UHHHHH hell no...... bring me a any age guy with a beer belly any time.. BET I would love to spend an hr with his personality more than yours..
In my line of work however the dick reaction is NOT THE SAME. And it does not mean you are not aroused or turned on during the massage if the stress is being pushed in a certain area the dick will remain soft until the time comes to release the stress then it will act right.. lol
If You always go on how the dick and pussy acts you might be led the wrong way. I mean hasn't your dick ever been hard at an in appropriate place like a church a funeral? And hasn't ever been soft at a time where you wanted it to be in a different position? I was at a christening once and I had to leave the room I got so hot an bothered by some church braud GOODNESS....Then been in a room full of play house bunnys and was as dry as a bone.... So just a thought

At a funeral? No I don't think so. But maybe, with all those little black dresses and black shoes and black tights, and the little black hat sitting prettily on the glossy black hair, the heavy scent of flowers and all that emotion and everybody wanting to cry and celebrate life and create a new one....

Next time I go to a funeral I must check out my dick, it may be telling me something my big head had missed.

At a funeral? No I don't think so. But maybe, with all those little black dresses and black shoes and black tights, and the little black hat sitting prettily on the glossy black hair, the heavy scent of flowers and all that emotion and everybody wanting to cry and celebrate life and create a new one....

Next time I go to a funeral I must check out my dick, it may be telling me something my big head had missed. Originally Posted by essence

I know what to wear if you come see me...lol

Attraction is a very strange thing. Inexplicable.

I am of an age when my dick does not get hard at every sight of an elegant ankle.

But it is generally hard when I wake up, so no issues physically.

But I observe, as a phenomenon, that if I am with some girls for 5 minutes, just having lunch or something, that my dick gets very wet and ready. I start having pre cum.

On most other occasions, with another girl, nothing.

So I let the state of my penis help me decide who I am really attracted to.

Funny thing, it is not necessarily anything to do with what is normally considered beauty. A beautiful girl can have no effect, a plain girl can have my cock dripping.

So I don't try to rationalise too much, I just enjoy the girls who make my cock drip with anticipation.

Something of it is to do with feeling very comfortable and relaxed.

Nothing makes my dick droop more than drama, upselling, false ooh's and aah's, stripper gps, etc etc.

I had two strippers the other night, great company, great dinner, lots of laughs, but when it came to the bed, nothing, then they started upselling, so my dick was much more discriminatory than my head. My dick told me the truth, had foresight.

On the other hand, I was rock hard with a girl this afternoon who looks much more ordinary, but we have an understanding.

So, are you a phenomenologist, do you decide based on the erectile state of your cock, and is it reliable?

I guess this is as much a question for ladies as the gents. Do some guys have your pussy dripping as soon as you see them? If so, why? Originally Posted by essence

Dam straight on that part essence.

I usually try to think with my big head although it doesn't always work out.

Attraction is a very strange thing. Inexplicable.

I am of an age when my dick does not get hard at every sight of an elegant ankle.

But it is generally hard when I wake up, so no issues physically.

But I observe, as a phenomenon, that if I am with some girls for 5 minutes, just having lunch or something, that my dick gets very wet and ready. I start having pre cum.

On most other occasions, with another girl, nothing.

So I let the state of my penis help me decide who I am really attracted to.

Funny thing, it is not necessarily anything to do with what is normally considered beauty. A beautiful girl can have no effect, a plain girl can have my cock dripping.

So I don't try to rationalise too much, I just enjoy the girls who make my cock drip with anticipation.

Something of it is to do with feeling very comfortable and relaxed.

Nothing makes my dick droop more than drama, upselling, false ooh's and aah's, stripper gps, etc etc.

I had two strippers the other night, great company, great dinner, lots of laughs, but when it came to the bed, nothing, then they started upselling, so my dick was much more discriminatory than my head. My dick told me the truth, had foresight.

On the other hand, I was rock hard with a girl this afternoon who looks much more ordinary, but we have an understanding.

So, are you a phenomenologist, do you decide based on the erectile state of your cock, and is it reliable?

I guess this is as much a question for ladies as the gents. Do some guys have your pussy dripping as soon as you see them? If so, why? Originally Posted by essence

BINGO! She can be visually scintillating but if there's not much connection I find it half as exciting as with someone I do click with.
I've found that that precum...precursor that you mentioned is a good tell also.
Yes it's sort of like letting the little brain take the lead but to a point.

I should explain a little what provoked this (apart from a bottle of wine).

My sb is not very experienced with a lot of guys, and she thinks there is something wrong with me if I 'leak', I explain to her it is just a sign she turns me on, no other girl has that effect on me, so I looked up pre cum on google to check it out, it seems it varies a lot between guys.

It's been a long time since a visual alone made me hard. Originally Posted by essence

Wow, I love it when men seek to know more about themselves.

So what turns you on? Is it movement or expression, or maybe it's cerebral? I had a boyfriend who would ask my thoughts on things just to see my lips move. Once, I noticed him getting an erection, and saw the look in his eyes change, like he was getting his desired results. Turns out, he wasn't listening to a word I was saying. He said it was because I smiled when I talked. Who knew?

Physical attractiveness is what I look for first. Then I look for the connection. In the hobby there are few that have both. It's one of the reasons I hobby less frequently than others.
Now in RL, a less than perfect lady may not grab my attention right off the bat but if I start to notice things that intrigue me such as a sense of humor, a sexual nature. flirty glances, etc. then I will naturally find myself attracted to those things and my desire to get to know her better will increase. If a connection is made then yes the right touch or even a knowing stare will get me aroused.

I think if ur relaxed and comfortable with that person. It happens....your not being rushed or anything.