I like the GFE ladies and enjoy trying to be, what I think, is a BFE for them. The total package.....conversation, light touches, looking for some common experiences, etc... before the heavy breathing begins and cuddling after. It's common for me to take a small inexpensive gift, not money or gift cards, but something I think they would appreciate from the research i've done on them. After the date I will follow up the next day with a short personal note letting them know I enjoyed my time with them.
This approach works very well for me. Even though I'm fairly new to the hobby, I have spent some excellent time with a number of ladies. I have one GFE I see on a regular schedule and am actively looking for one more regular.
The "wham bam thank you mama" is fine for some, but it's not for me.
At the risk of sounding like a dope.....
You may have fun at the destination, but if you don't take time to enjoy the journey you miss a lot of the fun.