What do older typically men want?

tinman483's Avatar
Hey submariner that sux on the prostrate issues!

I also had mine worked on,but no cancer it was just enlarged a lot! And not being able to preform like we used to takes a toll.

Lot of providers say what!?
Also smaller than I used to be.
I'm not here to compare stories just that I have that problem also.
I just kinda hope other guys get it taken care of B4 I did!
They won't like the results I'm sure.
DallasRain's Avatar
I keep my nails trimmed eye short...gotta be careful in prostate play
LustyBustyGina38FF's Avatar
You just need the right ladies

I am in my early 40s and have battled various chronic illnesses since my 20s. I know the route from KC to Rochester, MN rather well. Honestly, my poor health has ruined a significant portion of my life, but at least it's been nothing contagious. Outwardly, I look reasonably healthy, aside from being overweight. That is when I'm not in bed for nine days straight like last month due a massive H. Pylori stomach infection that will likely turn into cancer and will probably cost me my stomach sooner rather than later. At least then I'm going to lose weight for sure.



As such, I have a fair amount of the "old man" problems and given all I have been through over the last 20 years, I am not at all confident in my chances to get to be an old man. But I'm 15 years and counting older than they thought I would ever make it. I have even outlived the doctor that dropped that one on me. Fortunately, I had the foresight to never drag a woman into this daily mess, so I have been single since my early 20s. I have been involved in this lifestyle since my late 20s. I have an auto-fill script for vitamin V, but frequently am not healthy enough to use it. However, I am a man that possesses a certain other set of skills. Luckily, before my health went to shit, I had a long-term girlfriend from the age of 16 to 22 that didn't mind me developing and honing those skills. And I have picked up others along the way. I am told that I give a better than average massage too.


So what do I want? To be around nice ladies who aren't up my ass to be fucked or give me a bunch of shit about it because a fair amount of the time I can't. Yes, I have actually had this happen with providers and on more than one occasion. Personally, I don't see the problem with a nice, polite, and clean, albeit portly gentleman giving a nice lady a reasonably good massage and making them cum three times over a two hour period. To put icing on that cake, they probably won't even have to fuck him and they even get paid. And if they are real nice, I'll even take them to dinner. Originally Posted by Enchanterlingum
JRLawrence's Avatar
Well I don't know exactly what is considered older but my wife recently passed away and I will be 40 soon. Anyway I would enjoy telling someone about my wife and look at pictures while I lay behind a woman. Many of the things I did with my wife turn me on to think about her. I would also love to be able to have someone laying beside me when I sleep but I can afford that like I can afford to buy a new car, it's just not going to happen.

Right now I am just not up for any major type of relationship but I still desire the connection with someone and to enjoy the intimacy and for a short time try and fill the hole that has been left in my heart. Originally Posted by HornyWidower
Hell man, kick yourself in the butt and understand your emotions. You are a young guy, get up off of your ass. I have been through the death of two wives. After the first one, my highschool sweetheart and the mother of my two great children, I was sad and depressed and not interested in any other women. Then a close guy friend who I did a lot, a really big lot, of business with told me: "you just need to get laid". I took the courage and called a nice lady, and she came right out. Damn, my friend was right. After a few months of seeing her, I was ready to start looking for another wife. Good plan, I could date without thinking of sex. That is, until I found the right woman, not just jumping into the fire. The hobby allowed me to keep myself cool while I began looking for someone to be another life partner - don't even think of using the hobby for the area to search in for a life partner, and don't even think about fucking a real world woman until you are ready to get serious with her. A wrong move can affect the rest of your life.

Well, the second wife died too. Back to the hobby. Found another woman to truly love, but she was older than me - so what: I was lucky to find her. Now she is frail, and I take care of her, but no sex anymore. OK, I remember the hobby.

Got it, Think about your needs and seperate the needs into rational catagories. A life partner, or someone to help you get off and keep you from going crazy. I love all of my wives, and treasure the time I spent with the first two and the time I get to spend with this one and the time I spend doing the shopping and driving her to her doctors. I love my children, my step children, grandchildren, step grandchildren, and great grandchildren.

Your life is not over. Life is great: it is about how many people you love. Get up off of you ass and find someone to fuck, and then when you are calm, look for someone to love.
RetiredSubmariner's Avatar
Hey submariner that sux on the prostate issues!

I also had mine worked on, but no cancer it was just enlarged a lot! And not being able to preform like we used to takes a toll.

... I just kinda hope other guys get it taken care of B4 I did!

They won't like the results I'm sure. Originally Posted by tinman483
All men after age 50 need to get their PSA tested each year, just to make sure they have no prostate issues.
JRLawrence's Avatar
All men after age 50 need to get their PSA tested each year, just to make sure they have no prostate issues. Originally Posted by RetiredSubmariner
Yes! We all look forward to having the Doctor stick his finger up our butt!

Not:

I went to have that checked when I was in my 30s after my first wife died, it was just an irritated prostate. When the Doc. stuck that finger and touched the prostate, I thought I was going to die. Damn that hurt. It was a small infection but it took months for the antibiotic to reach into that space.

The Doc. asked me when was the last time I had had sex. Well, it had been over two years, and I didn't want to masterbate. (She died of breast cancer as a young woman.) He said that lack of sex had caused that irritation that had caused the infection. Then he told me that men need to have sex to empty the prostate.

I said: Can you write me a prescription for that.
He said: Of course, but it was up to me to find a woman to fill the prescription.

Now I try to empty that thing every so often.
tinman483's Avatar
Yes Lawrence I was kinda the same way, and I think that is true! I didn't start in the hobby until after something like 5 yrs and from the wife all I got was a no!
So I give her the credit, she cheated me first, B4 I ever, if ya wana call it cheating, went out on her!
I enjoyed reading this.
JRLawrence's Avatar
Yes Lawrence I was kinda the same way, and I think that is true! I didn't start in the hobby until after something like 5 yrs and from the wife all I got was a no!
So I give her the credit, she cheated me first, B4 I ever, if ya wana call it cheating, went out on her! Originally Posted by tinman483
The hobby was just inbetween marriages after my first two wives died: both women were wonderful, things just happen in life.

My wife now is past haveing sex, and I am not: so I have to deal with it. Love is more important than sex. There a lot of women having the problem of no sex, with or without a partner. The problem is finding someone you can trust. Independent, and not out to rob you or worse. Over a year ago I had an older lady on my list of possible ladies to see. And then! She was in the local newspaper: she got the information on a guy she was seeing: then she set him up for her "boyfriend" to kill him and share $100K worth of something that he had.

Be very selective, careful, about who you pick to see. As always, is the fucking you hope to get worth the fucking you might get?
RetiredSubmariner's Avatar
Yes! We all look forward to having the Doctor stick his finger up our butt!

Not:

I went to have that checked when I was in my 30s after my first wife died, it was just an irritated prostate. When the Doc. stuck that finger and touched the prostate, I thought I was going to die. Damn that hurt. It was a small infection but it took months for the antibiotic to reach into that space.

The Doc. asked me when was the last time I had had sex. Well, it had been over two years, and I didn't want to masterbate. (She died of breast cancer as a young woman.) He said that lack of sex had caused that irritation that had caused the infection. Then he told me that men need to have sex to empty the prostate.

I said: Can you write me a prescription for that.
He said: Of course, but it was up to me to find a woman to fill the prescription.

Now I try to empty that thing every so often. Originally Posted by JRLawrence
Every sub I have served on, has included a quarterly lecture from the doc, to the entire crew about proper prostate maintenance. Whatever your 'regular' periodicity is you need to maintain that same periodicity when we deploy.

If you normally have an ejaculation every night in port, then you need to have an ejaculation every night underwater.

Enflamed prostates are NOT something that corpsman want to massage.

Enchanterlingum's Avatar
You just need the right ladies Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Oh, I have a shortlist of nice and understanding ladies who accept me as I am. Unfortunately I have not felt up to playtime for the last month or so.
JRLawrence's Avatar
Every sub I have served on, has included a quarterly lecture from the doc, to the entire crew about proper prostate maintenance. Whatever your 'regular' periodicity is you need to maintain that same periodicity when we deploy.

If you normally have an ejaculation every night in port, then you need to have an ejaculation every night underwater.

Enflamed prostates are NOT something that corpsman want to massage.

Originally Posted by RetiredSubmariner
Yea, as a part of the prostate problem, I had the doctor massage it several times to help empty the thing and whatever else. I remember, negatively, that I had a co-pay of $35 for a specialist office visit - after the insurance. That was in 1980 when the dollar had more value than the dollar today.

That was when pussy was $20.