Guys, What If You Found Out You Were Dating An Escort??

I've been binge watching episodes of Secret Diary of a Call Girl and an episode in Season 2 got me thinking.

Hannah/Belle had been dating a gentleman named Alex and they had gotten somewhat serious. Long story short, he walks into her London flat, catches her with a handicapped client and finds out the truth. He was absolutely irate and it made me wonder, if you were dating a lady and in the process of getting to know her, what would you do if you found out she was actually a provider?

Would you be able to understand that she probably wanted to be sure things were going well before she divulged such personal information about herself, or would you be upset that she didn't tell you immediately?

I'm just glad I don't have to worry about a similar situation, because that could get messy!

I'm not sure how I would react to it if she told me, though I would definitely be upset if I found out by walking in on her with a client.

Many ladies have stated that their personal relationships are often the biggest casualty of the profession. I'm sure it can be hard to maneuver around in a relationship. Personally, I don't think I'd like my girlfriend actively working in the hobby, but I don't think that a past career in the hobby wouldn't bother me. If I were unknowingly dating an escort I would hope that it just stayed unknown to me.

Would you be able to understand that she probably wanted to be sure things were going well before she divulged such personal information about herself, or would you be upset that she didn't tell you immediately?
Originally Posted by Vannah

This is pretty much one of the main reasons I do not date in my real world. I could never trust anyone enough to reveal such information in the beginning. However, I could never be comfortable getting involved with someone (more than a couple dates) while keeping such a big part of my life secret. I can only imagine the webs one would have to weave in order to keep this life a secret from a partner. How would one explain their income, the lack of going to a "place" of employment, how to justify your regular travel schedule if you tour, etc. In my opinion, I would think that a relationship built on so many lies and secrets from the beginning would be doomed.

Seems as if it would be another "job" and even more stressful just keeping all the stories straight!!

This is pretty much the reason I do not date in my real world. I could never trust anyone enough to reveal such information in the beginning. However, I could never be comfortable getting involved with someone (more than a couple dates) while keeping such a big part of my life secret. I can only imagine the webs one would have to weave in order to keep this life a secret from a partner. How would one explain their income, the lack of going to a "place" of employment, how to justify your regular travel schedule if you tour, etc. In my opinion, I would think that a relationship built on so many lies and secrets from the beginning would be doomed.

Seems as if it would be another "job" and even more stressful just keeping all the stories straight!!
Originally Posted by Felina

On The Flip Side...
Many don't believe it's possible to "enter into" a relationship, already knowing the lady is a provider. . . another misconception , shared by many, if not most!!

Good post...a friend and I joked for years about finding a french maid. Then a couple years ago we hosted thanks giving dinner and s ciusin and her husband were here. She worked as a very.successful sales rep for a medical supply house.
Anywayshe used the computer to check her itinerary for the week after thanksgiving. After everyone had finished eating the family festivities came to a close I went to get.on the computer...only to discover that she had been on backpage posting her ad as an escort for another area. I have never told her that I know I am not sure if her husband knows.
But I have been curious.. The other aspect that raises curiosity is..the ladies see msny clients every day. Seeing naked bodies of all shapes and sizes and having to fake interest. Would you even have a serious desire for a relationship. Kind of like working long hours your tired all you want to do is come home jell out in front of the tv not think about work at all

I think a lot would have to do with how and when I find out.

Finding out on my own a year and a half into a relation is markedly different than you telling me 3 months or so if we were starting to get serious.

Oddly, your income from the hobby would factor into it as well. If you're only making a couple bucks here and there, I'm going to probably not be ok with it going forward after you told me. But if you are making some serious bank? Unless I could/wanted to replace it all with my own funds, I'm not going to suggest you quit, and at the very worst we would split very amicably. Can't get mad a gal who's up front and got her hustle on.

I like to think I'm a pretty reasonable guy, and if the gal came correct about it, I'd like to think I could deal. There would of course have to be some ground rules set. I don't know if I would want to hear about everything, or go for the "ignorant bliss" side of the coin.

The dirty old perv in me would love the fact that he was getting it put on him by a pro, but the pragmatic me would always have a little piece of me pissed that it had to share. I honestly couldn't say how big that piece would be and how much it would affect things until I was in the situation.

It's hard out there for a pimp, you ladies have my respect for all that you have to give up for us. Even the most ideal situation can't be easy, and life is seldom ideal.

As a single guy who hobbies I feel it would be disingenuous and hypocritical to judge like that. While I have had the pleasure of meeting several providers I find that most are more confident, honest and genuine than the majority of RW girls I meet. I would rather date a provider and know what she does for a living than a RW girl who lies about who she has been with to justify her convoluted idea of self worth.

When I met my fiance, I told him what I do. He thought it was cool. Four years later he still has nothing negative to say about it. Some guys don't want to share but go off fucking strange pussy.

I have dated escorts. Yes, I will admit it (here). In fact, I date escorts as often as possible - I just date escorts for an hour or two at a time. (Borrowing from Felina's phrase about love affairs, an hour or two at a time).

Depends if her name was Brittany, LOL.

I suspect that some of the rules that some providers have about who they will or will not see (no under 30, etc...) come about because of who their mate is comfortable with them seeing. I know it's not the only reason those rules get made, but I'd be willing to bet it's one of them.

I would rather know about it upfront. She sells; I buy. Why should I be upset with her? We are participating in the same thing.

She is not ruined because she is an escort, as I am not ruined because I have dated escorts. It seems we should both be more understanding of each other.

I find it harder to date a "good" woman than I would an escort. I don't want to hide my past from a woman I have given my heart to, but would have a hard time telling a "good" woman I had gone to escorts. She might not understand and end the relationship.

I feel more comfortable talking to an escort, and explaining to her why I did what I did. It seems an escort would be better prepared to understand my desire to roam, and would be be able to keep me safe at home.

I wouldn't want an escort to continue that line of work after marriage, and think we would be able to communicate in a way that is lacking in a lot of marriages.

Ladies, You can still be the delight of a man's heart!

Depends if her name was Brittany, LOL. Originally Posted by Rockydoc

Y'all need to get married! You ain't gittin' over her, nor she over you!

Depends if her name was Brittany, LOL. Originally Posted by Rockydoc

The next thread I read, has you saying you have a wife, so I guess you have to disregard the above advice!
Maybe you can get to see Brittany some more anyway.