shared incalls............. blah

sixxbach's Avatar
sorry just venting...... i was running behind today and could not see a lovely this morning. well, i thought we could push back the session......... no the incall is booked solid all day.

i understand that lotsa girls share but from a male point of view, that bites. i am a spur of the moment hobbyist. with work im on a schedule but when im not, i dont follow a schedule. i also did not like that there could be some guy waiting out in the parking lot if he arrives early since there is a 15 minute gap between the end of a session and start of a new one.

the lovely gal (who i cant wait to see tomorrow) turned around and went back home when i knew i could not make the time and not be a few minutes late. not a knock on her at all (ultra sexy phone voice too) but damn shared incalls suck!
There's more than one kind of shared incall... Personally, and of course I am biased, I think they can be a great thing. The right shared incall can make a gentleman more comfortable, at ease in a familiar setting, even if he is meeting someone new. I personally think shared incalls work best when they are split evenly (no one pays a "cut" per appointment) between the 3-4 ladies that work there. There should NEVER be more than 4 ladies that work out of one incall, ever. If a lady is very high volume, she would probably be best served having her own incall, as I think shared incalls tend to work best when the ladies involved are all relatively low-volume. A high traffic incall raises a lot of eyebrows, and it could pose problems potentially far worse than simply bumping elbows with another hobbyist outside.

When done right, you'll never even know that the someone may have been there an hour before you. I know my roomies and I leave at the very minimum 30 minutes of buffer time on BOTH sides, so that's at least an hour between folks being there. I can't possibly see how 15 minutes is even remotely feasible...

It does suck that there wasn't room for flexibility that particular day, but I'm sure you'll find a way to make it up to both yourself and the lovely lady you were supposed to see.
6 i can definitely understand your plight. But without shared incalls you might not be able to see that honey tomorrow at all! for some gals with kids ect a shared incall is one of the safest and most economic way to go.

The problem you are describing sounds more like a scheduling issue to me!

java
VictoriaLyn's Avatar
I agree.....I enjoy having my own private permanent incall that only I use unless of course its a double with an Austin cutie.
KosherCowboy's Avatar
I agree..... Originally Posted by VictoriaLyn
and so do I, traveling girls who share and ladies who share can get komplikated unless I have them come to me, too much overlapping, ' my girlfriend needs it than', can you wait in the lot for 10 minutes, SallySue is almost done etc. etc. I am not worried about a messed up bed or seeing a rubber in the trash or passing a room another lady is using; it is more a matter of 2+ girls having one run late ( or guy) and the rest of the bookings that day delayed etc.

I do however understand incalls don't grow on trees and in this market it isn't the easiest thing for a girl to have her own place 100%, they have bills just like us. And Java is right, if it were not for sharing some ladies would not be able to offer incalls and your neighbors would have to watch your dates cum, and go out of your own place...So in a way it is good $$$-wise for the ladies.

Maybe I should rent out my second room, already furnished with a W/D, bed, towels, sheets, all I would have to do is get a pack of rubbers and some KY. Maybe a few toys and line them up based on height to resemble the NYC skyline.

As always, guys will do what they are most comfortable with. As long as one has fun.
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6 i can definitely understand your plight. But without shared incalls you might not be able to see that honey tomorrow at all! for some gals with kids ect a shared incall is one of the safest and most economic way to go.

The problem you are describing sounds more like a scheduling issue to me!

java Originally Posted by CupOfJava

I have never shared an incall but as a Single mother, with the economy the way it is.... I have considered it.
Safety First
XOXO Nadiya
I once shared a place with a couple of ladies. We always left it ready to walk into but it seemed like someone was always turning down appts. because the place was already booked at the requested time by another gal.

While it's not economically feasible for everyone, It sure is nice having your own place! The gentlemen tell me it's like being invited into your own personal world.
Tess
I am glad I share an incall. I wouldn't be able to afford such a luxurious place for my clients if I didn't split the cost. Sometimes we have to rearrange things, but its worth the piece of mind that everyone feels safe and comfy. My roomie is an early bird and I have evening availabilty so we do specials during those times as an incentive. If you have the right person it can be a wonderful thing! But yes, it really sux when someone wants to see us at the same time!
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sorry just venting...... i was running behind today and could not see a lovely this morning. well, i thought we could push back the session......... no the incall is booked solid all day.

i understand that lotsa girls share but from a male point of view, that bites. i am a spur of the moment hobbyist. with work im on a schedule but when im not, i dont follow a schedule. i also did not like that there could be some guy waiting out in the parking lot if he arrives early since there is a 15 minute gap between the end of a session and start of a new one.

the lovely gal (who i cant wait to see tomorrow) turned around and went back home when i knew i could not make the time and not be a few minutes late. not a knock on her at all (ultra sexy phone voice too) but damn shared incalls suck! Originally Posted by sixxbach
Not to mention the attention drawn by a constant parade of hard dicks going and coming all day (and night) long...
I understand the venting. When the "best laid plans" go awry for something like an incall, it can be frustrating. But the alternative is a surcharge of $25-50 per visit thus raising costs. For many, this would be prohibitive. As always, the market works...of u can afford it and value the ease, pay the higher rate gals. If not, it is kind of like botching about the "aunt visiting" once a month...an inconvience, but a great opportunity for a BJ.
Dagny D.E.W.'s Avatar
I have shared the last year & half. What we did was assigned different days. That way within those hours I could adjust the times to fit in what I wanted. On the other days I didn't have access.

With having the whole day, only an appt I already had was the only thing that kept me from working with the guys to get their best time.

I'm losing my roomie so guess I will pick up other days.

I can't imagine trying to book if I had to check with 4 other gals for the time to have the incall.
I can see how frustrating that can be.
"I wouldn't be able to afford such a luxurious place for my clients if I didn't split the cost."

the above is probably grounds for a new topic, but to keep the mind set going here i have a question.

how important is it for the guys if the lady has a more luxurious place over just a normal well kept, place. i guess ymmv depending on the fantasy. part 2 of the question, if you ladies did not have a more luxurious place for us guys, would you be able to keep it more economical.

for me i guess i prefer to see a lady at her place rather than a 290/35 area, safety for my part knowing its a highly watched area.

i have seen two who shared an incall,
on one occasion i would have never known if she had not told me,
the 2nd time. the ladys were in the main living room while we went to the other room, the owner of the place did come to the front door as the provider had stepped outside to meet me and locked herself out.

the advantage on the later was i was able to have a friendly hello with the hot and sexy provider i wasnt seeing, and it was an automatic vouch for me

summing up, i dont think it would matter to most guys the luxury of the place if its more economical in the long run.

peace
atx
KosherCowboy's Avatar
Not to mention the attention drawn by a constant parade of hard dicks going and coming all day (and night) long... Originally Posted by governmentguru
Great point, when an incall becomes a ' baby brothel' it is an accident waiting to happen, in potentially several forms.

Two ladies have posted in this thread with good alternatives, one posted how one girl uses it during the day and one at night, that's great. Sure there is a potential overlap but in general it is like only one provider being there, I'd visit a lady with an incall set up like that..

Another posted how one day she uses it the next day the other, that's also ideal.

But when 2-4 girls all at once share an incall, in the eyes of a stranger such as neighbors and apartment managers/landlords not to mention LE ( if they did take an interest due to a complaint) , they see it all. And what they see is a parade of men in and out and now and than a female comes and goes. Doesn't take a NASA specialist to figure out what is going on in that unit.

Anything over 2 ladies is pushing and/or entering the danger zone, make sure to peak around before you enter, most likely someone else is already. Hobby safe, we all create our own boundaries of safety.
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  • ztonk
  • 03-16-2010, 11:12 AM
You might not be told that the lady's incall is shared (or with whom it is shared.) It's a safety / security / trust issue for both parties involved. If you are that concerned about it, ask the lady upfront.

I agree that shared incalls with only a few ladies (2-3) on different schedules work best. Adding more ladies and overlapping schedules just adds frustration on both sides when real life interferes with fantasy...
Dagny D.E.W.'s Avatar
But when 2-4 girls all at once share an incall, in the eyes of a stranger such as neighbors and apartment managers/landlords not to mention LE ( if they did take an interest due to a complaint) , they see it all. And what they see is a parade of men in and out and now and than a female comes and goes. Doesn't take a NASA specialist to figure out what is going on in that unit.

Anything over 2 ladies is pushing and/or entering the danger zone, make sure to peak around before you enter, most likely someone else is already. Hobby safe, we all create our own boundaries of safety. Originally Posted by KosherCowboy
I have to agree with no more than two ladies. It just seems that the more traffic will arouse interest..... and not in a good way.

I wouldn't feel comfy with more than that.