Top 5 Reasons She Can't Orgasm With You?

Reprinted from:

The ART OF ORGASM Blog

By Jason Julius

I wanted to talk about the most common mental barriers women have that keep them from having a full body orgasm or even an orgasm at all in some cases.

First you MUST understand that there is a direct connection between a
woman's mind and her ability to have an orgasm.

You see giving a woman an orgasm has as much to do with her
mental state as it does with the physical techniques that you use.

If one or the other is lacking her orgasm will not be as powerful as
it could have been or she may not have one at all.

For her to reach her full orgasmic potential a woman must surrender
herself to you both mentally and physically 100%

Unfortunately there are a number of things that can get in the
way of her being able to do this...

... But don't worry

The GOOD NEWS is most of them are completely avoidable and easily
fixed once you know what they are...

So without further ado...

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The Top Five Reasons She Can't Orgasm
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1. She is too stressed out:

Tension in a woman's body is the number one killer of orgasms.
If she's holding a lot of tension in her body it will inhibit endorphins
from flowing freely through her body which is essential for her
experiencing the level of pleasure of a vaginal orgasm.

If she has a lot of tension give her a massage. Massage is very
powerful for getting any woman relaxed and in the moment.

2. All her emotional needs in the relationship are not being met:

It's all to common for us men to overlook or not understand a woman's
needs in the relationship.

If she feels an emotional void toward you for whatever reason she will
be guarded and will not let her mind go, or surrender herself if
this is the case.

3. She is "trying" to hard to orgasm:

Many guys learn the physical techniques and the first thing they do
is say "oh hey honey, I have these super tricks I want to try to make
you orgasm".

This is not the right way to go about it.

This puts pressure on her to orgasm which will kill any chance of
her achieving orgasm. There should not be any discussion or
expectation about the outcome of the sexual experience.

This will free up her mind so that she can let go on her terms
with out expectation.

4. You are not a leader in your relationship, and ESPECIALLY not in
the bedroom:

She should trust and BELIEVE that she can surrender herself to you
in the bedroom. You need to be the leader in the bedroom and lead
her to orgasm.

Guys who are wussies or supplicate to much in the relationship or
bedroom will not be able gain enough trust for her to surrender
herself fully.

5. She is not confident in her body or her sexuality:

If she's self conscious about her body she's going to have a hard time
letting go.

She shouldn't have any unhealthy thoughts about sex or giving
herself to you. If she does, which isn't uncommon for women raised
in very conservative environments, then you must take things slowly
and make sure she's comfortable and can overcome any self-limiting
beliefs about her sexuality.

Sex is an enjoyable and healthy part of life for adults to experience
and she needs to fully embrace her sexuality.

So there you have it, I hope this helps you overcome some of the
hurdles you may be experiencing in the bedroom.

It's my belief that as men we should educate ourselves as much
as possible to become the best lovers we can be and I know you
feel the same way too, otherwise you wouldn't be reading this email.

So I invite you to check out my entire Female Orgasm Blueprint
training and become the best lover you can be.

Check it out here:

http://www.orgasmarts.com/blueprint.htm

HMMMM. . .So, this is a general guideline. What are the implications for our hobby community? Chime in:

Those reasons make sense for someone in a committed relationship.

I love DATY and while it doesnt happen every time, it happens more time than not when I give oral during a session with a provider. With respect to number 2 above, the providers surely dont have any emotional needs to fill during the sessions. How do you account for their orgasms?

Funny, I thought it was because we came in 30 seconds or less.

Yeah, I was sort of hoping for the hobby version of this. . .let's see:

1. She is still worried you might be a cop or a serial killer:

Tension in a woman's body is the number one killer of orgasms.
If she's holding a lot of tension in her body it will inhibit endorphins
from flowing freely through her body, so don't be an asshole during screening and the initial part of of the BCD. Wipe that creepy smile off your face, too.


2. All of her financial needs are not being met:

Her rent is due and so is the car payment and her idiot ex was late with the child support, but she can't report him because he will out her in the courtroom. Then your tight ass showed up and not only did you try to haggle with her via PM, you had the nerve to ask if she would honor that special she had in an advertisement for a different city in a thread from six months ago. Then you tried to pass off the coupon you clipped from an escort agency yellow page ad as a joke and asked if she honors competitor coupons. You were dumb enough to think your "sense of humor" was engaging and sexy. Meanwhile she tries not to look up from your sweaty, rutting body as you heave into her for three or four thrusts at the white envelope on the dresser and keeps wondering if you shorted her.


3. She is "trying" too hard to orgasm:

Many guys learn the physical techniques and the first thing they do
is say "oh hey honey, I have these super tricks I want to try to make
you orgasm".

This is not the right way to go about it.

This puts pressure on her to orgasm which will kill any chance of
her achieving orgasm. There should not be any discussion or
expectation about the outcome of the sexual experience.

This will free up her mind so that she can let go on her terms
with out expectation.

[I THINK THIS ONE APPLIES IN THE HOBBY AND CIVVIE RELATIONSHIPS]

4. You are an asshole, and even worse you did not wash your asshole the last time you showered:

She rushed through the meet and greet and went right into DFK just to shut your annoying ass up. If you were even half as funny as you endearing as you thought you were, she might actually enjoy what she does for a living. At least once the heavy petting started you became quiet. Then she starts to give you a BBBJ and just when she gets a bit frisky and thinks she might even enjoy the session she starts to DT you and when her face spins downward she starts to gag and choke--not because your cock is huge, but because it smells like a coal mining latrine two inches from your lap. Nasty bastard that you are, you grunt and push the back of her head down thinking "she loves my big cock" when she is really thinking, "my cat's litterbox smells better than this guy's pubic hair."

5. You have no idea how a woman's body works:


Geeeeeze. . .you spent money on this hobby. You have invested a great deal of time and energy in reading the reviews and looking for the perfect provider. You shopped around for the best hotel room. . .obviously you can read and have some information skills. Would it have killed you to read just a little bit about how to perform oral sex or how to stimulate the clitoris or g-spot? Or did you just assume that the white envelope with your coupon was foreplay enough? Nobody is saying you have to bring chocolates and flowers, but at least listen to some Percy Sledge on the way to your date and heed his advice:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvR1a_LeOMk"]YouTube- Try a Little Tenderness[/ame]

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LOL!!!!!

Good one, keep them coming.

Women on both sides of the "line" have used the f method. Fake it....can guys really tell the difference? And do they/we really care?

She is not in the room at the time.

Women on both sides of the "line" have used the f method. Fake it....can guys really tell the difference? And do they/we really care? Originally Posted by ss4699

If wives are so willing to fake it, why shouldn't providers? You get the orgasm & fantasy w/o all the wifely drama.

Women on both sides of the "line" have used the f method. Fake it....can guys really tell the difference? And do they/we really care? Originally Posted by ss4699

It would be awfully hard to fake a squirting orgasm. If it can be done, i don't want to know how they went about it.

It would be awfully hard to fake a squirting orgasm. If it can be done, i don't want to know how they went about it.

Originally Posted by ANONONE

Maybe you just got peed on maybe they just drink alot of water and a couple of bowl of smacks cereal to make it taste sweet and you'll be none the wiser...lol

Maybe you just got peed on maybe they just drink alot of water and a couple of bowl of smacks cereal to make it taste sweet and you'll be none the wiser...lol Originally Posted by GuYFoX

Like I said, I really don't want to know. . .

Well i was "raped" when I was 16 ...she was 37 ...she teach me how to please woman ..it was torture for whole two months ... I was horny as hell and she use every minute of it ... cman ...making her have the O that is mater of school

Funny, I thought it was because we came in 30 seconds or less. Originally Posted by TexTushHog

Where's the thread on how not to orgasm? If you've seen the show "Men of a Certain Age" one technique is to slow down and "look at them", read as to look through them, not at them, 'cause that won't help. One of my favorites, and I can't remember where I first heard it, is to try to remember all of players from a certain sports team....anything to get your big head from thinking where the little head is.

Every woman is different. Except for the ladies in movies. They all have humongous orgasms from penetration within about two minutes. You know, just like the real world.