How can you tell?

Newbie here. I've been doing tons of reading to learn does and don'ts. I am working on getting my first appointment now and I am excited about what all awaits me.

I travel across Texas for my work often. On my last overnight stay in a small town, I was in my car on the phone with a customer and noticed a beautiful sexy dressed Spanish woman knocking on a room door. A large AA male opened it then came out with a beautiful sexy dressed white girl. The 3 got into an Escalade and left. This made me start wondering if the girls were professionals or what. Maybe I read to much and could be making bad assumptions.

So my question is; how can you tell if the ladies we all see from day to day at any location or in the hobby or not? If you thought one was and wanted to approach, how would you do it? Is there a code word? LOL. Ladies, should we even approach?

Thanks for indulging my curiosity.
Kinsey Pink's Avatar
Thank you for asking.

If you ever see me in public, please kindly do not approach me or hail me. There are a million security and discretion points that I could list, and I'm mildly bemused as to why you haven't considered them already.

A quick email shortly after you've noticed me, letting me know that I'm even hotter in person, is sufficient.

Other providers may feel differently, however.

Good luck with your new hobby!
  • jwood
  • 09-21-2014, 04:00 PM
Slip her a card with your hobby # on it that says "N$A Fun"
dj8rocks's Avatar
ER, I would definately not approach under any circumstances. What would you do if they would have been LE getting ready to go set up for a sting? The don't reasons are unlimited for obvious reasons. Even if I were to see my ATF in public, I wouldn't even so much as wink at her. I am with Tori on this one, at the most, a later pm or email just to let her know I saw her. ER, don't get over confident just cause you have done your research, too much confidence will lead to a lapse in judgement that could be very costly. JMHO. Good luck and be safe. dj8
I was approached/solicited about two years before I knew what the hobby was/began providing. Which is weird...because I don't actually look very "hookery." Anywho, I was like "hahaha funny story" and my date was all "WHERE? WHO? THIS IS NOT OK" and got ragey. He wouldn't have done anything, because I don't hang out with very ragey people...but I could see how approaching a stranger could cause some trouble for you outside of just LE.
I would agree 100% with the "do not approach" remarks. Since you are already on here, just look for a lady in your desired area and contact her. Seems way to risky, even dangerous, to approach any stranger off the street.
Thanks for the replies. You guys have all validated my thoughts and concerns. Even if the setting felt totally safe; I doubt I would ever have the nerve to approach. I spend hours researching things that interest me and if I can't review it, I almost never buy it.

I have spent 18 years in sales so "reading people" is a very bad/good habit of mine and situations like this intrigue me. While having my cars serviced at the auto lube shops, I watch other customers and try to match them with the cars there. It might sound a little crazy but this kind of observation has helped me in my field of work.

I also know that when it comes to the flesh, people get heated when offended and the associated risks are much higher than just loosing a sale.
Cpalmson's Avatar
This question is better asked in the Sugarbaby Forum. While it is bad form to flat out approach a lady and ask her if she P4Ps, there is absolutely nothing wrong from observing and making a calculated move based on your observations and ability to read people. Some people are better at reading other people, but if you are interested in trying out something like the OP described, go read the stickies in the Sugarbaby Forum.

Here's one way of doing it. Become a regular at one of your favorite "Breastuarants". Talk up as many girls as possible. Get a feel for their relationships and needs. Flirt with them. These girls are used to getting hit on all the time. This actually helps you out b/c 1) you won't be any different than the other guys and 2) it gives you an opportunity to be completely different than the other guys. If you have honed in on a girl you are interested in listen to her, engage her and stop oogling her body. This may take time-- several visits. You should also use other resources available to you. Ask one of the male employees which girls are free or might be open to playing. Guys know things and might be willing to help if the tip is right. Once you are ready to make your move, give the girl a generous tip and hand her a card with your number on it. The card shouldn't be tacky-- just your number. Hopefully over your short talks with her you have shown some interest in her. When handing her the card, don't make a big deal out of if, but mention that if she needs anything, she should just text you. All in all when doing this, be a complete gentleman.
Most providers on here probably won't initiate the negotiations out in public....which is why they are on sites such as this one.