What Makes A Great BBBJ?

So what makes a great BBBJ?

Please share your personal preferences if you are a gent, and any tips you may have learned along the way if you are a provider.

Here are my thoughts. . .

The BBBJ's I enjoyed most were actually both SLEAZY and DEMURE. They all started very slow and sensual. The women that seemed to tune into me the most used copious amounts of eye contact. For me, the blowjob is a very intimate act and eye contact is crucial. When they would go slow and and act curious, fixing me with questioning eyes--it drove me wild!

The best providers all seemed to have genuine enthusiasm while giving the BBBJ. Ladies, if you don't enjoy it, that is fine, but please don't fake it with a cheesy, pornstar approach. The handful ladies that have been able to actually make me pop (I have been in the hobby for over 20 years) either really loved it, or did a fine job of pretending to love it without it being campy and silly.

The best blow jobs I had started slow and became more and more sloppy and wet. They also used a variety of techniques. Don't just bob up and down. Use your lips to go sideways along the shaft and underside. Hover over just the middle and on the side of the shaft with an open mouth and mix it up with some licking and teasing--a little hint, it gives your mouth and jaw a rest and it still looks very hot and feels good.

One of my favorite ladies does this thing where she glides her open mouth along the right side of the shaft until she reaches the top, encircles the hood in her mouth and sucks hard for a moment and smacks her lips on it as she pulls and releases (that audible lip smacking is also a big turn on) and then glides down the other side with her open mouth. She does this several times throughout the blow job. By doing this and mixing it up she can rest and for me it creates an ebb and flow of arousal. I never actually watched the clock, but on more than one occasion her blow job lasted for over an hour. It isn't that she has super-human jaws, she simply learned that mixing up techniques keeps a man on the brink longer, and it helps her with getting tired or bored.

The best blowjobs I have ever had were noisy. I love it when you slurp, hum, moan, gurgle. . .whatever you feel inspired to do! Some gals act like they can only quietly bob up and down. Ladies, please listen to me--this is the female version of that dude, that keeps flicking your clitoris with the exact same single finger motion directly on the nub of your clit over and over again until you want to smack him. Nobody, male or female, likes monotonous stimulation! MIX IT UP! Try just cupping the shaft and hood and gently sucking on only the frenulum in between drafts. If you DT, great, but don't limit the blow job to engulfing me and making that "puhhh" sound. I appreciate your skill, but given that I know my cock is not that long it is not that important to me. Some of the best head I have ever had never went lower than mid shaft. Suction on the other hand is VERY important to me. I would rather have you only fit the hood of my cock in your mouth and suck hard on it, than a loose deepthroat.

Don't ignore the boys! At the very least, play with the balls with your hands, but if you can enjoy it, please nibble and lick them. If you are a very oral person, then suck them both into your mouth and roll them around. I once had a gal that managed to get the full length and my balls in her mouth. I wish I had a video of it--I was shocked when she did it, and had I not seen it with my own eyes I would not have believed it. By the way, I love it if you want to take photos or videos. We can watch them together and eat chocolate strawberries and have a few laughs--then delete them together for safety.

Change the position you give head in. Please don't limit your blow jobs to me spread eagle on the bed with you folded in a kneeling position between my legs so that all I can see is your head bobbing. I understand your need for control until we get used to one another, but once again mix it up. If you can do it, try laying on the bed with your head tilted off the end and let me slide in and out of your mouth. Having me stand while you kneel is also very visual and quite arousing. Even better have me mostly on the bed with legs dangling off while you use an ottoman or bench to sit comfortably on so I can alternate between sitting up or laying back--if we have a larger king bed, try sliding along me from the side so I can see a different angle while you go down on me.

Once we trust each other, let me gently guide your head and touch your neck and face as you gobble me. Maybe it is weird, but I love to do that. I promise to be gentle.

If you do CIM or Swallow, wonderful--awesome I love it. If you do not allow it, that is your choice, but please try to keep it sexy, if you can manage to make me cumm outside of your mouth. Play with the ropes in your fingers, maybe spread it on your cheek or chest. Please do not act like poison just shot out of my penis and reach for a napkin, towel, or dash off to spit it in the sink or toilet. I would rather have you drool it on me and have you play with it on my skin than to make me feel like a jerk for having icky white fluid leak out of my body. It sorta breaks the mood when I see you run off and hear a yack and spit. One of the best BJs I had the lady preferred no CIM, but the way she handled it by clamping the tip as I came and spreading it like icing on her closed lips and cheek, I no longer cared. If you have limitations, that is fine, but try to think about how you can flip that and actually make the limitation kinda sexy.

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eye contact
hand usage
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sloppy
spit Originally Posted by geniusman

QFT!

Only one thing is needed for a great BJ: The ability to read subtle body language to the same extent as an average one-night stand in the civilian world can do. I've never had a bad bj in the civilian world, but providers have often seemed rather disconnected from what they are doing.

Gotta want it!

Eye contact......I like it, slow, sensual, wet, with lots of eye contact, and licking. It doen't have to be a hundred miles a hour.

I have noticed in my almost 50 years of hobby that the best blow jobs usually come from ladies, buth providers and civvies, who love to DFK. These ladies love it and are good at it. This transfers to the BJ or maybe it is the other way around, but the two are connected.

When I encounter a lady who is not a great at DFK I usually pass on the BJ. I have just found that it is not worth it.

I usually ask the lady what her specialty is or what she really likes to do. Most of the time they will gladly tell and it is worth sticking to what they do best.

I have noticed in my almost 50 years of hobby that the best blow jobs usually come from ladies, buth providers and civvies, who love to DFK. These ladies love it and are good at it. This transfers to the BJ or maybe it is the other way around, but the two are connected.

When I encounter a lady who is not a great at DFK I usually pass on the BJ. I have just found that it is not worth it.

I usually ask the lady what her specialty is or what she really likes to do. Most of the time they will gladly tell and it is worth sticking to what they do best. Originally Posted by Bull149

Girls who are great kissers also excel at bj's. I've dated girls who don't know how to Kia and were enthusiastic, but horrible at bj's. The girls you can get deep down kisses with were all outstanding.

1. eye contact
2. bls
3. the money shot (either CIM or Facial)

First and foremost it is the enthusiasm, the desire to be pleasing me.

Next the varying of technique, deep and slow, quick and pounding.

Attention (a lot of..) to the boys and a little licking or massaging of the back door never hurts either.

a great blow job I know when I get one
and usually come back for more

Great question ... I have seen more then my share of providers who suck at bbbj ... I don't return no matter how hot they are.

My ATF BBBJ provider was DEE (Maria's SPA in Houston) ... she was very enthusiastic and seemed to enjoy it very much, her attitude and enthusiastic approach added as much or more then her technique ... the other thing she had was a tongue piercing. Her masterful use of that, sent me to the moon. The closes thing to that was a provider that would get you into the bath, then would do some digital anal play while doing the BBBJ.

I have noticed there are fewer and fewer providers have tongue piercings ... what's the deal?

When I can cum down their throat and they swallow.

It is when the provider seems to really enjoy giving BBBJ and it doesn't seem like they are going through the motions to get to other things.

When I can cum down their throat and they swallow. Originally Posted by jizmloaded

What he said