"what one cares about in bed ..."

way Way WAAAAY back before eccie and aspd were born, i used to visit alt.sex.prostitution.discussio n on usenet [among other usenet newsgroups] at work, no less, cos i didnt even have a computer at home. [bad employee!]

i snagged quite a number of .siglines, stories, and posts back then.

i grabbed this from a post dated...

Date: 7 Nov 1988 20:56:34 GMT

What I think is this; all the misconceptions about sexuality will straighten out if everyone simply grows up. For a grown-up human being, what's good in bed is to be with another human being one truly cares about. And, what one cares about in bed is exactly the same as what one cares about out of bed... honesty, imagination, a little mischief, and a lot of kindness.
-- Eleanor Perry

i believe it is still true today, whether in real life or in the hobby.

just passing electrons from the past generation to this one.

this is something we should require all governmental and business and community leaders to do - be honest, have imagination, some mischief, and LOTS of kindness.