"I HATE SEX" ... Why ?

A good friend of mines has been married for the past 15 years and he is planning to get a divorce soon. I asked him why he wants to divorce his good looking wife and he told me that she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore. She admitted to him that she "hates sex". He hasn't had sex with his wife for the last 2 years and he can't take it anymore. My friend is tired of it, he is tired of drooling over and daydreaming about other ladies because she doesn't wanna take care of him sexually, he wants to leave that unproductive relationship. I don't blame him for wanting to divorce her. I believe his wife is being very selfish and unfair to him.

I have a lot of trouble understanding people who hate SEX .

Why do they hate something that is so wonderful ?

Why do they hate something that is fun and that feels so good ?

Why do they hate SEX ?

Honestly, she probably feels inadequate or insecure in some way. It could be something as simple as belly fat or inability to lubricate due to hormone imbalance. Who knows? But open dialogue is the key if they are gonna make it.

I agree with Marie but I also think, she might not hate sex maybe she just hates sex with him.

^^^^Precisely what I was going to say.

He wasn't supposed to nut in her mouth when asked not to.

Seriously, he needs to " touch her " at least ten times per day.

Edit: he also needs to improve his love making skills.

Furthermore, there's another 3000 variables we have no data on.

Holy Deja Vu! This is a carbon copy of strongbad's ex. I'd agree with those who say that Ms. Strongbad just didn't want to have sex with me except for the fact that we've been divorced for 5 years now & I would bet a a few grand that she hasn't gotten laid since the divorce. The woman literally got to the point where if I did not initiate fooling around I do not think she ever would have had sex.

well I was going to answer before my stuff crashed! but I was going to say there is soo many theoretical posibilites the answer would be hard to speculate.

one possible scenario is that she is hiding something and possibly she doesn't actually hate sex and is getting it somewhere else and doesn't want him to know.

or maybe they just got together to young and she grew into a complete prude?

who really knows but the one thing that isn't questionable is that a relationship like that isn't going anywhere good and shouldn't continue in its current state.

Maybe the first question to ask her is does she hate sex with everyone or just him? It could be a medical/physical issue or just a psychological thing. Perhaps there's some kind of trauma associated with it for her. If he doesn't know the answer then he hasn't asked the right question or she's holding something back. Unless they want to come to an agreement about him getting his needs taken care of somewhere else then he's probably doing the right thing.

I know a couple who have been together for a really long time and they have a great relationship but she got put on a certain antidepressant in the 90's and they haven't had sex since. It made her feel better as far as not being depressed but it killed her enjoyment of sex. She just doesn't get anything out of it anymore and doesn't have the desire for it.

Fuck a hooker, save a marriage.

If it wasn't for you ladies I probably would've left mine by now too. I don't even get a bj on my Birthday man! But thanks to a lovely lady here I got laid on my Birthday, thanks babe

He needs to re-evaluate his ass eating technique.

Getting married was his first mistake.

Send the wife's contact info. to pyramider.

Forgot to add that maybe he's falling short of her needs in bed, and she's tired of faking with him.

A good friend of mines has been married for the past 15 years and he is planning to get a divorce soon. I asked him why he wants to divorce his good looking wife and he told me that she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore. She admitted to him that she "hates sex". He hasn't had sex with his wife for the last 2 years and he can't take it anymore. My friend is tired of it, he is tired of drooling over and daydreaming about other ladies because she doesn't wanna take care of him sexually, he wants to leave that unproductive relationship. I don't blame him for wanting to divorce her. I believe his wife is being very selfish and unfair to him.

I have a lot of trouble understanding people who hate SEX .

Why do they hate something that is so wonderful ?

Why do they hate something that is fun and that feels so good ?

Why do they hate SEX ? Originally Posted by TheAntichrist666

I'd like to share some rambling comments.

(1) Dopamine receptors and levels in the brain are different for many people. Generally speaking Dopamine is the pleasure receptor that can affect libido and tumescence. Some people just have no drive and desire for sex. One of my aunt's is a retired scientist with a PHD and she never married or even had a boyfriend from all reports. Just wasn't interested in it.

(2) I believe in money over pleasure (or as Tupac would say: "Money Over Bitches" ) but I do wonder sometimes how much more I could accomplish in life if I took being a sex fiend out of the equation.

(3) In your friend's case I would say you're only getting half the story you don't know what he's doing or has done to drive her to that point. I don't believe your friend waited 2 yrs in celibacy before coming to this divorce conclusion.

(4) If she's fairly young and also not in her 40's (sexual peak) then it's likely she's sleeping with someone else.

self edit:

(5) or maybe he's not hitting it right or more importantly not earning enough cheese / enough bread to keep her pussy wet.

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(4) If she's fairly young and also not in her 40's (sexual peak) then it's likely she's sleeping with someone else. Originally Posted by Zanzibar789

.......and wants to be true/loyal to the other man.

.......and wants to be true/loyal to the other man. Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

.....to ensure that she turns her husband into a complete cuck.

I think you should tell your friend to whisper in his wife's ear: "I would love to eat your pussy babe." her response could either be a re-introduction into sex or a clear indication she's screwing someone else.