Manors, Respect & Providing Info

Gents,

Most providers have in their BIO or on websites information they require prior to you visiting or them visiting you. I think most of us do NOT really require a lot of information. But when you say hey this is my handle on xyz and we are on xyz I would gather it would be best if you used xyz to contact as well. Also safe to say that most likely you have read our needed info on said xyz.

I have had MANY in the last couple weeks contacting me but not going through the said xyz sites they claim to be part of. I love how when I decided to contact a couple of the said peeps through this xyz I was told by one they had not a clue what I was talking about. So not sure if someone was a bored said xyz person on a site or someone using someone's handle to claim they were that person. Either way was interesting. wasted time not much but waste.

I have also got to say those who contact and I have come across many of these who contact asking for a visit within the next fifteen minutes. Or within a certain time frame of something being posted. That does NOT always give the oh well i figured since it was just posted you were available right now. This is not always the case. Many of us take time out of our schedule and make sure we address all that is needed in hopes that we will see a gent that is not going down the list and not actually reading. I like what someone once had posted if you are just reading numbers then keep reading the next few numbers we are not a match.

RESPECT!!! I am very picky about who I choose to meet and EVEN more picky about who will come visit me. Yes if you contact and do NOT provide a name I am going to ignore. (Doesn't everyone? Even in the real dating world) I think it's safe to say if one is telling you hey we are not a fit it does not mean call back thirty more times, email text or I love the harsh you are a no good whore f you. I don't find this very nice. I hope that some of you gents will remember we are all ladies and deserve respect and we can talk as well as you gents...

Just be nice and remember that a lady should always be treated with respect. We ask for specific information for not only our own safety but yours as well...

Sorry for the rant but my goodness I have spoke with a few lately and WOW. I am not the only girly thinking some gents have forgotten how to contact a lady... OR provide what is important. My pet peeve NO NAME AND CONACT NUMBER... I do NOT call unless we have agreed for our talk time. But name OMG!!!

Stick to your guns! Screening is for your safety -- and, by extension -- the safety of those who play with you.

Those who cannot follow your instructions don't deserve much if any consideration.

Tiff- are you saying for us to give you our real name? I'm a member of p411, TER and here. If my handle isn't good enough I for one (I bet >50%) would pass. I would probably think this would be a case by case basis. A newer member with just a few reviews. While you need to be comfortable and safe....we do too.

Stick to your guns! Screening is for your safety -- and, by extension -- the safety of those who play with you.

Those who cannot follow your instructions don't deserve much if any consideration. Originally Posted by ck1942

Beautifully said.

Don't worry if >50% (or even >75%) choose to pass you by. There's another one right behind every man who keeps moving.

Nothing against a man who is faithful to his own boundaries, but there's no need for that man to blatantly disregard our boundaries when he can easily go on to someone more compatible.

~sweetness~

I agreed wholeheartedly