ADVICE needed ....

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  • alto
  • 12-30-2017, 06:31 AM
So I am recently divorced and having fun without any restrictions anymore ... So I recently went to a strip club with some co workers , a couple were females . Now , I end up hooking up with one and we had a blast ,woke up in bed the next day and hung out all day . Now , this co worker and I have known each other for a while and she confides in me that she was only waiting to approach me until she knew I was divorced . Now , in conversation she confides in me her fantasy of a three some ...her, a sexy female and me . Now , she throws the idea of a escort but , she says she would be to scared to actually approach a escort because she would not know how to determine if they were the law and or for real . Now , here I am at the brink of a 3 some but dont know how to tell her about eccie .what if I do , and she freaks out and is just talking mess or what if I do and ruin a good thing because she thinks I ve been doing this for a long time ...(which I have ) , or do I find a provider and set it up as if we all just meet at a club or something . She did mention to me that her ex got offended with some her ideas and left her . Advice please ...
Italia DiBella's Avatar
Good morning Sunshine
You already had the thought of "what if she freaks out" which is true.
Too risky for so many reasons.

I personally don't think you need to share Eccie with her or how you can magically provide that third person.

Much Luck
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
Personally, I believe setting something like this up is a bad idea.

First, don’t tell her about Eccie. That’s another can of worms.

Affairs can turn quickly. I would consider if she has a big “crazy” factor inside of her.

Also, has she been with another female before?

I can share from personal experience after your first time having a same sex experience, even if it was fun, can leave you feeling very weird or even a little freaked out about what happened.

Personally, I’d wait. See how this goes forward.

Consider the options, while fantasizing, but keep real focused on how this could turn to bite you in the ass.

If this experience is mostly for you, have a threesome with sex workers.

Threesomes are often more exciting in your mind than the real thing. Not always, but threesomes are weird sometimes. Other times, they’re great. Lots of variables.

If this experience is for her, and you are absolutely positive there is no way in hell this will come back to bite you in the private parts, then cautiously go forward and STOP at any hint of an issue.

I like to play with fire. We have all gotten burned.

Is it worth losing your job over this? With sexual harassment being such a hot button issue these days and sometimes it’s unfair, doubly important to keep your demimonde activities in the closet, where they belong.

Just a voice of caution.

Best,
Elisabeth
  • iquit
  • 12-30-2017, 06:46 AM
So easy...ask.her to provide the escorts if she would like one. Go to a swingers club, but heck, never be the one suggesting or making it happen. There is a big difference between having fun on eccie and real life relationships. Who knows, she my be testing u to see if you would fall for this.
What if she already knows about this site
What if she's already ***a provider on*** this site Originally Posted by HoustonAstros
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DocHolyday's Avatar
I think the whole idea of having an affair with a coworker is a BAD idea. Have you not seen the news lately with all the sexual assault allegations??? Think with your big head man!!!
Champagne Brown's Avatar
Good morning Sunshine
You already had the thought of "what if she freaks out" which is true.
Too risky for so many reasons.

I personally don't think you need to share Eccie with her or how you can magically provide that third person.

Much Luck Originally Posted by Italia DiBella
Personally, I believe setting something like this up is a bad idea.

First, dont’t tell her about Eccie. That’s another can of worms.

Affairs can turn quickly. I would consider if she has a big “crazy” factor inside of her.

Also, has she been with another female before?

I can share from personal experience after your first time having a same sex experience, even if it was fun, can leave you feeling very weird or even a little freaked out about what happened.

Personally, I’d wait. See how this goes forward.

Consider the options, while fantasizing, but keep real focused on how this could turn to bite you in the ass.

If this experience is mostly for you, have a threesome with sex workers.

Threesomes are often more exciting in your mind than the real thing. Not always, but threesomes are weird sometimes. Other times, they’re great. Lots of variables.

If this experience is for her, and you are absolutely positive there is no way in hell this will come back to bite you in the private parts, then cautiously go forward and STOP at any hint of an issue.

I like to play with fire. We have all gotten burned.

Is it worth losing your job over this? With sexual harassment being such a hot button issue these days and sometimes it’s unfair, doubly important to keep your demimonde activities in the closet, where they belong.

Just a voice of caution.

Best,
Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers
So easy...ask.her to provide the escorts if she would like one. Go to a swingers club, but heck, never be the one suggesting or making it happen. There is a big difference between having fun on eccie and real life relationships. Who knows, she my be testing u to see if you would fall for this. Originally Posted by iquit
This^^
LudoK's Avatar
  • LudoK
  • 12-30-2017, 09:34 AM
lol, sex with coworkers almost never ends well in the long run, for many reasons. Trust me I know all about it.
I agree that having sex with a coworker is RISKY. But I’m envious of you being divorced and unfettered again.
Sistine Chapel's Avatar
So I am recently divorced and having fun without any restrictions anymore ... So I recently went to a strip club with some co workers , a couple were females . Now , I end up hooking up with one and we had a blast ,woke up in bed the next day and hung out all day . Now , this co worker and I have known each other for a while and she confides in me that she was only waiting to approach me until she knew I was divorced . Now , in conversation she confides in me her fantasy of a three some ...her, a sexy female and me . Now , she throws the idea of a escort but , she says she would be to scared to actually approach a escort because she would not know how to determine if they were the law and or for real . Now , here I am at the brink of a 3 some but dont know how to tell her about eccie .what if I do , and she freaks out and is just talking mess or what if I do and ruin a good thing because she thinks I ve been doing this for a long time ...(which I have ) , or do I find a provider and set it up as if we all just meet at a club or something . She did mention to me that her ex got offended with some her ideas and left her . Advice please ... Originally Posted by alto
let me quote this in full since its cool to do.

First things first. Why do you guys immediately default to eccie when thinking of sex. The solution is non complex. You have other options as most women you meet these days at least 80% of them like and will fuck other women. So this is much easier a task in 2018. If you look decent and your conversation is good then:

1.) Find you a girl at a bar. Yes you can and they are willing

2.) Befriend a stripper. Yes 80% of them will fuck you if you present right. This may result in a fee but at least you dont have to worry about all the screening and drama that comes along with some eccie girls.

3.) Since you've already been to a strip club with multiple female co-workers and you've fucked one of em...why not see if another one will join yall and yall can have a secret twisted work love triangle. Just be sure you keep all corresponding emails and text messages in case those bitches decide to join this #metoo movement that's sweeping the country.

.4) Find a woman at church. They are repressed and nasty as fuck. They will do that shit. Any and all of it.

5.) There are all sorts of non escort websites where chics are looking to live out secret 50 Shades of Grey type fantasies.

6.) Eccie should be the last thing you introduce her to. I wouldn't advise Eccie at all.
LexusLover's Avatar

or do I find a provider and set it up as if we all just meet at a club or something .
Originally Posted by alto
I find it remarkable that there is no provider who can play the role of an available female who is interested in having a three-some with a decent looking couple without disclosing that she knows about Eccie. I guess it's Saturday morning or the usual provider lurkers are just not interested.

A P2P person seems much less risky than a co-worker or pick up.

Out of all your Houston reviews no "repeats" for a 3 some?
alto's Avatar
  • alto
  • 12-30-2017, 10:34 AM
Really helpful . Im going to listen to you . Its fun right now but we ll wee what happens . As for other co workers they are out of the question ....she the only hott one , haha . As for being a provider well she makes over $200,000 a year .... i dont think she needs the income or has the time . But , she didnt mention too me , the most thing that attracted her to me is my "not give a fuck attitude" but I'll take that with a grain of salt .Anyways , as for fucking strippers, they are overrated .I have pulled a few in my day ,but nothing compares to sexually suppressed coworker . thanks folks
Sistine Chapel's Avatar
As for other co workers they are out of the question ....she the only hott one , haha ...but nothing compares to sexually suppressed coworker . thanks folks Originally Posted by alto
sometimes it be like that...just keep all your emails and text messages in case she decides to go nuts one day in a jealous rage. lol
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Tell her she needs to post some taint photos on the internet. The taint photos will attract the second female.