IMO a reference is not about letting you know “Bob” has GQ looks, with shaved silky balls and is a big tipper.
A reference is to let you know that “Bob” is not LE and he did not hurt me, rob me, rape me, or short me. References are about safety.
If you want a good looking guy, who is not over weight, who smells great, and shaves their balls - GET ON A DATING WEBSITE LADIES.
We are paid professionals and every client might not be the greatest, but as long as they are not disrespecting you - who cares? This is work and every hour of every day at work is not always pleasant, I don't care what industry you are in.
Don’t contact me for a reference and ask me “does he take a long time to cum” - who cares? - if he paid for 60 minutes and he wants to fuck you the whole time, well that’s what he is paying for.
Don’t contact me for a reference and ask me if he is a “good tipper” … that is so tacky and I will never divulge if or what a client tips me.
Rant over