I have always found that if you can get a nut just before hand that will help a bit too as it will help you relax a bit
Originally Posted by Jusanotherdude
Hell no! That makes it so much worse. At that point that whole area is so sensitive to the touch.
As for lube just stick to KY jelly. The good old school stuff that is thick. It really sticks to the comdom and to your ass. Wheneven I use a thin lube (like gun oil or astro glide) I have to keep re-applying it, but that never happens with the KY. I use astroguide for sex but it does not work worth a damn for anal.
Oh and you should use about as much lube on the condom and your ass as you do when you put conditioner in your hair.
Also only let the guy stick the head in at first, the rest of his dick should take a few minutes just to slide in. It must be done very slowly and you must be relaxed. Doggie is the ONLY postion I would say anal should be done in for a newbie.