Unwarranted fear?

I am seriously considering seeing my first provider. We have already been exchanging private messages. She is from out of town but has already been reviewed multiple times. However I'm getting cold feet. Maybe I watch too many cop shows. I have this fear that I'll get caught in a sting and end up losing my six figure job and SO and pretty much everything. I see this scenario where she's been caught and is working with the cops to get a lighter sentence. I know. Pretty silly. Am I just being a silly noob here?

Only you can answer that question bro.

Maybe you should check out who's reviewed her and contact those members by PM. If that doesn't allay your fears, then maybe you're not ready to take the splunge.

You clearly aren't ready

In person: Never talk about MONEY or what your going to do! You'll be good to go. Never hurts to spend a little time doing some due diligence and take advantage of the reviews and gals pedigree.

Thanks Still Looking. You actually reviewed this particular provider recently.

Of course there are risks, but you almost never hear of people having LE issues with independent escorts. Maybe you just don't "hear" about it, but I think you would - deterrence and all that.

That doesn't mean there aren't risks that very well may give a sensible person good reason to opt out, maybe reading these forums for kicks and limiting their activities to strip clubs...just for example

Things I'd guess are bigger concerns than J. Law that you should ponder in my totally subjective order of importance include...

1. Women in your life. Maybe you're single, then just move on. But if you have a wife or GF, this one usually rises to the top, unless you're an awesome sales guy and she is really open minded. The potential cost can range from a moderately upsetting breakup you laugh off to a devastating loss of family and financial impact depending on your particular circumstances.

2. You mentioned career. Seems to me if you'd lose your job for being busted by the law, then you'd probably lose it for being outed credibly as well. That happens sometimes in various ways. If you're a personal injury attorney or trash collector, no biggy. If you're a minister, politician (conservatives only) or school teacher you might want to worry about this one a bit more.

3. STDs. It's our there, whether you're paying for it or not. But it moves the meter and has a negative synergy with #1 above. I'm not sure the girls are higher risk because their professional promiscuity is probably balanced out by their greater committment to protection, but if you're a hobbyist YOU are typically getting more from more places.

There are others. You could get you're butt kicked by a pimp, get robbed, get some girl pregnant, but these all seem to me to fall lower, especially using a board like this and sticking to known upright professionals. There are also more personal subtle issues like will this ruin "civilians" for you and do you care.

Good luck. Done right (like in my mind not behind an SOs back, do what you can to ensure your providers are not subject to any kind of coersion and are making their choices independently, BUT everybody has their own mind) this doesn't have to be something to feel bad about morality wise, but if you're freaking out you probably won't enjoy yourself, so you might want to process the idea for a bit longer before taking the plunge.

Of course there are risks, but you almost never hear of people having LE issues with independent escorts. Maybe you just don't "hear" about it, but I think you would - deterrence and all that.

That doesn't mean there aren't risks that very well may give a sensible person good reason to opt out, maybe reading these forums for kicks and limiting their activities to strip clubs...just for example

Things I'd guess are bigger concerns than J. Law that you should ponder in my totally subjective order of importance include...

1. Women in your life. Maybe you're single, then just move on. But if you have a wife or GF, this one usually rises to the top, unless you're an awesome sales guy and she is really open minded. The potential cost can range from a moderately upsetting breakup you laugh off to a devastating loss of family and financial impact depending on your particular circumstances.

2. You mentioned career. Seems to me if you'd lose your job for being busted by the law, then you'd probably lose it for being outed credibly as well. That happens sometimes in various ways. If you're a personal injury attorney or trash collector, no biggy. If you're a minister, politician (conservatives only) or school teacher you might want to worry about this one a bit more.

3. STDs. It's our there, whether you're paying for it or not. But it moves the meter and has a negative synergy with #1 above. I'm not sure the girls are higher risk because their professional promiscuity is probably balanced out by their greater committment to protection, but if you're a hobbyist YOU are typically getting more from more places.

There are others. You could get you're butt kicked by a pimp, get robbed, get some girl pregnant, but these all seem to me to fall lower, especially using a board like this and sticking to known upright professionals. There are also more personal subtle issues like will this ruin "civilians" for you and do you care.

Good luck. Done right (like in my mind not behind an SOs back, do what you can to ensure your providers are not subject to any kind of coersion and are making their choices independently, BUT everybody has their own mind) this doesn't have to be something to feel bad about morality wise, but if you're freaking out you probably won't enjoy yourself, so you might want to process the idea for a bit longer before taking the plunge. Originally Posted by irishlad

Very well put Irishlad!

I was paranoid as hell for the reasons the poster has. Here's what I did. I went for (and mostly still do) highly reputable girls with lots of reviews by guys that have several reviews. Also-go get a hobby phone. I didn't do this to start and it was dumb. Nothing like being with a nosey SO and getting a text "hey Babe here's my incall address for tomorrow xoxox". Same with a hobby e-mail. I set that up after starting as well. Do those things first, or meet with possible doom.

I actually don't intend on having intercourse. Maybe STDs can be transmitted via bbbj?

I actually don't intend on having intercourse. Originally Posted by txAustin202

Go big or go home....

Yeah ... EATIN' AIN'T CHEATIN'

BTW -- maybe you were right at the top of this thread. Your feet are BLOCKS OF ICE. I'm guessing you probably might need to leave this alone and worry about other things. Otherwise you'll go N-V-T-S nuts!

txAustin202 - suggestion, try Rosie and one or all of her five sisters (depending on your level of expertise).

The price is right, low risk of infection, and she SHOULD know exactly how to meet your needs.

6 figure income, your obviously no dummie... go with your gut babe. Of course u will be nervous the first few times but its worth it with the right girl. heck even I get nervous with new guys who have iffy refs... Have fun and stay safe love.

But... I will say this... i know a few girls who were arrested, and let me tell u this, they were not even offered a lesser charge for giving guys up. None of them were. Not in wil co or travis county.

hell, i got a 6 figure income. $9000.00/yr. 7 figures if you count the dot!

Hey Marley. I've got my one referral now. Maybe you're my right girl? *wink wink* :-)