What is the deal w/ Adult Friend Finder?

I recognize some of the ladies. What is it exactly? A free hook up thing? Webcam? What? I don't get it?!! Can someone please explain it to me? What was your experience with it male or female?
  • Jax
  • 06-20-2013, 10:42 AM
A while back I tried out AFF -- and met a couple of ladies there. It's a connection site -- no providers expecting a gift to my knowledge -- and is ok, but also uncertain about what to expect - at least for me. Haven't been in it for quite a while now.
So, no p4p? Just a bunch of nympho's plastering their faces on hobby sites?
There are a lot of webcam marketers on all those sites it seems... it also appears that a lot of "beards" are in the crowd so to speak to pretend to be interested for marketing purposes. No idea what % is real and what not, but a massive waste of time and energy IMHO.
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Yeah, it's a free hookup spot...if you have time you can get it for free all the time.
AFF was my bread and butter once upon a time when I discovered that I got off on having anonymous sex. I was 21, I was looking to explore, and some weeks I felt like Scrooge McDuck swimming through his fortunes. I met some great partners on there, but also had to wade through a bunch of shit and that ultimately took too much time and energy. Then I discovered this place and found more sex that required less work and it generally involved a class of man that I prefer, so I stopped looking to find new "adult friends." The AFF crowd doesn't like to get confused with the P4P girls. They're a mean bunch. Oh, and a crazy bunch.

To the boys, I'd say you might have more luck getting laid on a free dating site (like OKCupid) or on here. Really, think of donation as paying for the time and money you're not spending on dicking around on AFF only to be greeted by a troll. Or to spend two long, laborious dates with a woman who is offended when you go to unclasp her bra. It's a simple example of opportunity cost.

As a girl on the site, it's easy to rack up points (or was) just for posting pictures and getting a lot of clicks. Points allow you to send emails, reply to emails from standard members, and to search profiles. For the boys, you have to get a fancy membership to do anything other than their chat room function. I wouldn't suggest the chat room function. They also have meet-ups that pose as swingers parties, but they're more like a high school dances: full of drama and awk and no one's gettin' laid.

The site recycles pictures like crazy, though. I never used a face shot but had a few steamy(ish) pictures up there once and they were cycled through for years in the city where I used them, long after my profile was deleted. Not only on AFF ads but on other groups' ad banners as well. "Meet girls like JL in your area." "Hot, wet, young pussy waiting for you." "Big tits want to watch you stroke-it on cam." I feel sorry for the kids who put their duckfaces up for all the world to see. Or for the ones who have angry exbfs or mean girls that rip things from fb to post a filthy profile in a small hometown.

See also:
alt.com
asianfriendfinder.com
passion.com
(I'm missing a few, but they're all the same group)
I was on AFF many years ago. As a guy I put in my time but had a lot of no strings attached fun, but it could be time consuming. Eventually I met a woman on there who matched my kinks and fantasies perfectly. We've been married for years now and occasionally will get on AFF and play with people as a couple. Like life, you only get as much as you're willing to give. I got what I could handle and sometimes more.
sjdude's Avatar
I guess if you did your schooling properly and can have a good paying job, then your own job+eccie/p411 is much much cheaper than AFF in terms of time and energy...
if you want an alternative the only possibility is seekingarrangement.com, sugardaddyforme.com is a waste IMHO, I am still getting spam on it after disabling my account a few months back...
fun2come's Avatar
I tried Ashley Madison for a short while, still have it, think its a big waste of time.
This here is soooo much better !!!

Thanks to you Ladies !!!
Hmm, yeah I was just curious. I recognize a lot of girls on there. Most of whom I have just seen in passing. Small world. Austin girls be some kinky ones, lol!
manuatu's Avatar
Total waste of time, energy, and money.
It's possible that the girls started off there and migrated here, much like me. It's possible that the girls saw the ad on here, were a bit confused, and created a profile thinking it was another P4P site. It's likely that girls are soliciting on AFF which seems tacky to me and also clearly violates the rules of that world.
Ready2Rock2's Avatar
Huge time waster for me. Would much rather pay a few favorite ladies and be done until next time.
It's just crazy their faces and all that are just out there everywhere. And just for some adult fun?? Geez. You can find it easier elsewhere. I wonder if they know all their faces are plastered everywhere and if that is legal? Not my cup of tea, for sure.
Agree with "fun2come" on AM... big waste of time... that's one place where there are definitely "CAM Trolls" hanging out and bothering men trying to pretend to want to date "if you sign up".... LOL. Agree with everyone that it is very time consuming... WAY too much 4 me.