Alecia and fetish's

Guest091314's Avatar
Maybe its something about my looks....i dont mind at all, but i seem to attract more bdsm seekers than anything. I love a good challenge but even though it has always been of interest, it is not specialty or my experience. I havent run into much in the past 3 years that grosses me out. My point is should i just go with it and learn techniques as i go or find out more from other sources??? what is the opinions???

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Alecia
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I would say only do what you are comfortable with. If you decide to enter a realm in which you are not familiar, learn more about it. Some things are not as obvious and it isn't all common sense.

Usually people with fetishes are very particular in the manner in which the fetish is presented or carried out. Good luck with whatever decisions you make.
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Go send a message to Elizabeth Whispers or if you'd rather another male mod, check with PurplePussyeater. Both play in those areas.

Remember. Using a feather is kinky. using the whole damn chicken is a fetish.
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If you do not want to stick with these fetishes, I'd suggest that you look into different pics. Picture yourself softer, more sensual, less black and red, more pinks, whites, pastels, less corsetts and bustiers, more panties and teddies and lounging nude on fluffy beds.
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  • jfred
  • 07-26-2010, 02:51 PM
Go send a message to Elizabeth Whispers or if you'd rather another male mod, check with PurplePussyeater. Both play in those areas... Originally Posted by LazurusLong
I'd second Mr Long's suggestion.

Various aspects of BDSM can be a lucrative niche market, if you have what it takes to pull it off. You have the look, which is a great leg-up to start with. But to do well at it you ARE going to have to study it.

I'd suggest that you concentrate on being a top -- a dom not a sub -- but you want to learn how both think. There is equipment and hardware involved, but anyone with decent eye-hand coordination and fine motor skills can master it. What is more difficult is the mental side of the equation. But if you do some exploration it shouldn't be too hard to tell (fairly quickly) if your own psyche encompasses enough sexual curiosity, agility and adventurousness to make this something you might excel at. Those men who seek this kind of eroticism include some who pay very well and don't feel the pinch, but they absolutely require a lot from their partner psychologically -- first their brain, then their body.

As I understand it PPE is a true aficionado and he'd be a good resource. Of course he'll probably want to do kinky things to you in the process.

Elisabeth can clue you in on things from a lady's perspective -- the psychology of it, and the business aspects as well.

In line with what Crossroads mentioned, about your pictures -- no matter what you do you need to work on those. The ones you have are poorly lit, small and grainy...cell phone pics? There are some excellent lensmen on this board (for professional consultation and results), not to mention a plethora of gents who can improve on what you have now, and will do it just for the pleasure. Guys around here are very visually oriented. You should make the most of that.

If I were you and was wanting to branch into a specialized service line, I'd seriously consider having 2 separate websites. Promote yourself (with appropriate pics) on one as Suzie GFE and in the other advertise your niche work, SallyTheSpanker. Advertising on this site (eccie) I'd put ads in with the regular providers that connect to Suzie's web page and ads with a different emphasis in Another Realm, and connect them to Sally's page. As far as I know, however, you may have only one identity on eccie -- so you'd have to think about how to manage your professional persona.

Good luck. Buy me a cup of coffee and some pecan pie and I'll answer all your questions.
I say stick with it if you are comfortable. I am pretty flexible(focus boys, you know what I mean) about my likes. I have a few absolute no's but hey, I am up for something new! My philosophy is nothing is abnormal.

Everyone has a different idea of what they think is weird or not!
If you want to pick up some good bondage skills, there is a group that meets once a month that is very newbie friendly and focuses on bondage, usually rope, but also other items as well. The members are a goldmine of info about how to tie safely, tieing for sex, for immobilization, etc.

There are other groups as well that will help you learn more about the lifestyle, some are fem-domme, others are open to pretty much anyone.

Keep in mind most of the groups have few provider members (that I'm aware of at least). However all the BCD activities you might engage in would be covered by the members as well. But its sometimes good to point out the obvious.
Try it, you may like it....

BDSM is not for everyone - but most find the hint of it exciting....

Best to take the Domme role, some folks can be disrespectful to a submissive lady, I have had a few conversations with ladies about gentlemen getting out of hand and thinking very rough sex = BDSM.... If you decide to sub, please make sure that your limits are understood and respected.

We have chatted on this, look forward to discussing more...

PPE
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Im working on pics and adding new ones constantly....THANKS GUYS!