How About a Sadie Hawkins List?

johnclark's Avatar
Sometimes when I'm in the mood for something different and spontaneous and have a little extra time I scan the ad's here and in P411. By the time I've checked them out I'm so saturated with information I kind of lose some interest in making the decision. What if providers sent a PM to clients they have noticed on the boards saying "Hey, stud, you seem like someone I'd really like to get to know", or "I see you've reviewed So-and-So and I think I can show you a better time"? Maybe even "I'll blow you till you faint". You might even re-kindle an old spark you've forgotten. If you've ever been asked out by a woman you know what a turn on it can be.

Getting verified with a provider you've never seen can take enough time to kill a narrow hobby window. A request from a provider would open a whole new door to new rendezvous. Don't have time now? If she contacts you, you're already verified for when you do. For the providers it might open up a new client base. Sending a private sexy pic and a short note in a PM might just set the hook! I'd love to start a "Sadie Hawkins" list in my user CP and start working my way through it.

Any thoughts?

Lady's, feel free to PM me and join my list.
A lot of guys would take it as spam, methinks.
Great idea. I don't know how different it would be than the regular ISO forum but I do like it when a Provider sends me a message via thread or PM. I also enjoy cruising the chat forum and getting a chat request. I have more than once spoke with someone on chat and hopped in the truck and drove over right then.
johnclark's Avatar
Great idea. I don't know how different it would be than the regular ISO forum but I do like it when a Provider sends me a message via thread or PM. I also enjoy cruising the chat forum and getting a chat request. I have more than once spoke with someone on chat and hopped in the truck and drove over right then. Originally Posted by slingblade
I've gotten sketchy responses from the ISO section. And the request is usually dead in 24 hours. I see this as more of a longer term invitation where the provider shows the initiative, possibly making for a better session.
Sir Lancehernot's Avatar
I've always had an extreme fear of rejection, even among providers (actually, especially among providers, because getting turned down by someone who'll do such things with any guy on the planet is pretty humiliating). And I've always been envious of those guys who get hey-when-can-you-come-see-me emails, texts or calls from providers. I'd love it if someone I wanted to see made the first move.
omakase's Avatar
Yeah, Providers sending unsolicited PMs is viewed negatively as spam and risks getting the provider suspended for abusing the PM system. I strong advise against that.

Now, there are precedents in threads where providers put up a wish list of hobbyists they wish would call upon them.
johnclark's Avatar
I, johnclark, do hereby swear I won't label PM's from providers as spam, or report them for abusing the PM system.
FunInDFW's Avatar
A lot of guys would take it as spam, methinks. Originally Posted by Angel Ryder
Yup. A PM/text/email from a provider before I've sent them one is a quick way to have me never see you.
Sir Lancehernot's Avatar
I, johnclark, do hereby swear I won't label PM's from providers as spam, or report them for abusing the PM system. Originally Posted by johnclark
+1

There's a difference between spam and a personal email or PM, and it's not too difficult to tell when someone has taken the time to compose something directed to a specific individual.

In fact, I suspect that what a lot of guys do in their quest for an appointment is more akin to spam than what the OP was thinking of.
daty/o's Avatar
+1

There's a difference between spam and a personal email or PM, and it's not too difficult to tell when someone has taken the time to compose something directed to a specific individual. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot
This is true. I am probably in the minority, in that I enjoy getting impromptu pm's from ladies I have visited before; I find it quite endearing. And I find it particularly flattering to get those from providers I have never seen, especially if, like you said, it does not appear to be a mass msg.
Duthgar1976's Avatar
Yup. A PM/text/email from a provider before I've sent them one is a quick way to have me never see you. Originally Posted by FunInDFW
true, i have heard that there are providers that hound you to see them again and again, so if you cant nut the fuck up and contact a provider so you can bust a nut or two then this is the wrong place for you.
johnclark's Avatar
+1

There's a difference between spam and a personal email or PM, and it's not too difficult to tell when someone has taken the time to compose something directed to a specific individual.

In fact, I suspect that what a lot of guys do in their quest for an appointment is more akin to spam than what the OP was thinking of. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot
Exactly. Notice I didn't say email or text? I've had providers text me and I block their numbers on the spot.
Just a thought. Guys wanting the lady to initiate contact could put "sadie hawkins friendly" in their signature or some where in their profile. The ladies could do a search for that phrase to get a list of horn dogs to contact.
johnclark's Avatar
true, i have heard that there are providers that hound you to see them again and again, so if you cant nut the fuck up and contact a provider so you can bust a nut or two then this is the wrong place for you. Originally Posted by Duthgar1976
Really? My reviews should show you I can "nut the fuck up" and contact a provider just fine. So I should just abandon ECCIE altogether because you don't agree with my idea?
Randall Creed's Avatar
Yeah, Providers sending unsolicited PMs is viewed negatively as spam and risks getting the provider suspended for abusing the PM system. I strong advise against that.

Now, there are precedents in threads where providers put up a wish list of hobbyists they wish would call upon them. Originally Posted by omakase
Exactly. Too many cheating, paranoid, pussyfoot, worried about the wife bastards on here who can't stand being reached out to by women who kinda fuck this up for those of us who don't mind a hot chick being remotely interested in having us come over and pull her panties down. This pretty much takes the whole 'Sadie Hawkins' possibilities out of the equation for the most part.

There was actually a time where I used to get a few of these every so often. The only real downside I can see is that at some point you may start getting too many, which will take the coolness out of it when you start turning girls down.

Then they'll start feeling like us when they shoot us down.