Sensual Asphyxiation

Dear Elisabeth,

I recently found myself with a lover just enjoying the most wonderful vanilla sex that I've had in a very long time. Trust me, it couldn't have happened to a more deserving woman! Smile.

While we were kissing and playing around, he gently was rubbing the side of my head and placed his hand under my chin. He was being masculine, that's all.

And then he slowly placed his one hand around my throat. And VERY gently squeezed. It wasn't choking but there was a pressure and I liked it.

Maybe too much. I felt completely submissive and was completely willing to offer him what might be the most delicate part of my body for him to touch and more. It was a moment in time.

And very lovely. You don't think that I was wrong to enjoy it so much, do you?

Love you,
Rose
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There's no doubt that this is a very edgy and potentially dangerous activity when taken to a different level. And of course, to say the least, trust is paramount.

What are your thoughts about this activity and its variations?

Elisabeth

I think that anything between consenting adults is good... I think that there is also something to be said for not permitting this activity with professional submission...

Dear Elisabeth,

I recently found myself with a lover just enjoying the most wonderful vanilla sex that I've had in a very long time. Trust me, it couldn't have happened to a more deserving woman! Smile.

While we were kissing and playing around, he gently was rubbing the side of my head and placed his hand under my chin. He was being masculine, that's all.

And then he slowly placed his one hand around my throat. And VERY gently squeezed. It wasn't choking but there was a pressure and I liked it.

Maybe too much. I felt completely submissive and was completely willing to offer him what might be the most delicate part of my body for him to touch and more. It was a moment in time.

And very lovely. You don't think that I was wrong to enjoy it so much, do you?

Love you,
Rose
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There's no doubt that this is a very edgy and potentially dangerous activity when taken to a different level. And of course, to say the least, trust is paramount.

What are your thoughts about this activity and its variations?

Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

I feel, as we as we all do, that is trust is the key. As long as each of the persons' limitations are known then there is nothing wrong with enjoying something that may strange to others.

[QUOTE]I feel, as we as we all do, that is trust is the key. As long as each of the persons' limitations are known then there is nothing wrong with enjoying something that may strange to others./QUOTE] said Jessica.

This is hot, edgy, erotic. I think you're all right on, too, and my (ahem) compliments to Rose, wherever she may be.

Guess I'm a little more conservative than most. This, IMHO, is extremely dangerous activity, and has resulted in death in the past, especially when used with ropes, bindings and the like. Extreme trust is an issue, but I think it is much more than that. Accidents can happen even in an extremely trusted relationship, and I think it is more apt to happen here than in most others. I would strongly counsel against it.

The carotid choke is often taught within the martial arts and combat sports, but only after instruction is given in resuscitation, clearing the airway of vomitus, proper use of an ambu bag, and so forth.

I enjoy lurking about this forum from time to time, but I'm a little too conservative for this particular activity.

Look at it in the animal world, many many examples of it, but the one comes to mind is the reverse, the black widow! That's a pissy end to a good day! Most are and can be brutal, and since we're mammals, we're certainly are and am capable of it. Guess it's just mother nature, but we as human beings consider ourselves civilized, so ours is an act of love and not to procreate. In nature the drive is to survive and and carry on species, so the male forces the female to submit, in most cases. We all still have these instincts and I often think about, but if the female asks for a little force, I guess I would accomodate, but reluctently. I guess my testosterone level is just right.

Now, bring em on!!!

I enjoy a good choking, especially right before orgasm...both giving and receiving...I welcome it from any provider that might want to experiment with me

I used to date a gal that REALLY liked this, in fact introduced me to it. When things got really heated-up, I'd put a hand around her neck and squeeze lightly for 5-10 seconds, and when I released the gal would push me out and squirt across the room!

Also, and in all honesty, I was always very cautious and a bit worried about keeping the pressure too long, for obvious reasons, but....giving her that intense of an orgasm was....memorable and quite endearing!!!

Either way, the obvious danger is there. I would have never used anything beyond my hand for this. Frankly, I never knew if it was the submission or the change of blood flow that took her to those heights...

Perhaps someone with more experience could speak to that part of the equation?

I agree with everyone. Its cutting off oxygen to the brain which make you diizzy at first, dead if done too much.

No wonder people make fun of cock rings.....

But OMG, I'm going to have to come up and visit you one of these days. I have no idea what could happen and I love those kinds of movies.

Guess I'm a little more conservative than most. This, IMHO, is extremely dangerous activity, and has resulted in death in the past, especially when used with ropes, bindings and the like. Extreme trust is an issue, but I think it is much more than that. Accidents can happen even in an extremely trusted relationship, and I think it is more apt to happen here than in most others. I would strongly counsel against it. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Very well said...

..................Either way, the obvious danger is there. I would have never used anything beyond my hand for this. Frankly, I never knew if it was the submission or the change of blood flow that took her to those heights...

Perhaps someone with more experience could speak to that part of the equation? Originally Posted by El Goobre'

I don't know about me being more experienced, but the act of submitting so totally is what does it for me. That said, in my case, it’s a real world lover activity strictly.

I don't know about me being more experienced, but the act of submitting so totally is what does it for me. That said, in my case, it’s a real world lover activity strictly. Originally Posted by OliviaHoward

So beautifully put. You really are an eloquent writer, Olivia!

All of the responses have been wonderful thus far. Yes, it's an activity to be careful of when experiencing and playing with. I have, personally, just barely touched it a few times.

Elisabeth

I must agree with Olivia- it's a real world lover activity strictly. And I would only allow one hand. But I used to have a girlfriend that did this to me and I LOVED it! Now, I don't have anyone I trust enough or feel open enough with for that. Maybe I need to give her a call!

It is more than just trust, this is one area where experience and a good understanding of EXACTLY what is and is not the proper procedure is critical. Just having it happen, while it sound hot - also sounds very dangerous. This is one area where I would want quite a bit of pre-planning and discussion prior to trying this a first time with a partner. Well that is just my 2 cents...