An Observation: GFE & non-GFE

It's clearly apparent that GFE is in high demand in this hobby.
There is a risk that comes along with GFE, its developing feelings...
When feelings get in the way the consequences can be bad, especially
when the discreetness of an encounter with an escort was the reason of not having a nympho side girlfriend instead.

So this leads me to wonder why GFE is in higher demand than non-GFE?

With the popularity of porn and the commonly requested PSE encounter, its safe to say that most people fantasize of porn style encounters. GFE style cuddling, pillow talk and slow passionate kissing are rarely if ever seen in porn.

So why would one seek the services of a GFE escort and request PSE activities??
Wouldn't the risk be much higher of catching feelings for an escort offering both GFE and PSE all in one...the perfect dream girl?

Good questions, Selena!

For me, I absolutely love providers that can cater to any desire I may have. I guess that's why I like GFE/PSE providers.

For me, I enjoy GFE encounters with ladies that are sincere about it. Many of them prefer to be treated like a girlfriend and not a sex doll.

For me, I enjoy PSE encounters with ladies that just love getting fucked. It's okay that they don't want passionate kissing or cuddling. Sometimes I just want to have really dirty, raunchy sex.

I like them all for different reasons.

say what?

yes, Say What covered it well, and yes, good questions, Selena.. as far as developing feelings, you just have to know yourself, and understand you are getting an encounter, not an ongoing personal relationship..

F-eel-ings? I am unaware of this concept. I think texasdave555 said it best when he stated:

"Issues like the above are not limited to one group or another though... some guys are just wired in a way that they are incapable of handling pussy regardless of if its rented or not"

Or, in this case GFE or not. Either way, I have a hard time believing that there are a lot of hobbyists at risk of developing "feelings" lol! I guess it depends on how emotionally fragile they are.

But to answer your question, GFE basically gets the job done, it has a blanketed definition and may/may not include the activities you stated. GFE is different to everyone. But I think we can all agree that it's your basic bang until completion package. Which, is more or less, all that us normal folk require. I think, in some ways, the PSE experience is more enjoyable to watch than to actually partake in.

I have never heard folks describe "pillow talk" and "cuddling" as necessary ingredients to a gfe session. Kissing, yes.

If you keep it to DFK, uncovered oral sex and CFS, you can legitimately call yourself a gfe provider while avoiding some of the emotional pitfalls associated with the nonsexual activities you describe.

I have never heard folks describe "pillow talk" and "cuddling" as necessary ingredients to a gfe session. Kissing, yes.

If you keep it to DFK, uncovered oral sex and CFS, you can legitimately call yourself a gfe provider while avoiding some of the emotional pitfalls associated with the nonsexual activities you describe. Originally Posted by TinMan

+1

+2 to Tinman's comments. I understand different people have different thoughts of what GFE is, but to me it just means a willingness to chat a bit to get to know each other, then some DFK and a passionate, non-mechanical session.

Anyone who develops feelings in hobbying just doesn't understand what hobbying is and should take their pansy-ass over to eHarmony

+1 Tinman

Great thread Selena!


The provider that does a great PSE/GFE combination is the ideal for most guys.


It keeps sex interesting.


"Feelings" are great to have for either party, however neither party should EVER act on those feelings in the hobby IMHO.

It's all about fantasy. Most guys like a GFE, but like to think that through their skill, charisma or whatever they can drive her wild to the point where she becomes PSE. In order to make a good girl go bad you have to start with a good girl.

Why do I prefer GFE? Heck, I don't know, I just do.

Do I develop feelings? Of course, I love all my favorites with all my heart, and they know it

Great question Selena..............

Personally, I like to GFE in the bedroom w/o the GF drama outside the bedroom, so to me there is a distinction, without having the true personal feelings, hence, the term IOP. Some guys do not mind or okay with non GFE or YMMV encounters, but I want what I pay for, not just what the provider chooses to bring to a session, which is why research is the key and having conversations with providers before setting, so there are no questions. Don't you as a provider hate it when a guy sets with you and expects you to read his mind, then, because you didn't, he writes a negative review about his session?

IMO, the perfect dream girl in the hobby is one who you want to and do see regularly, possibly even foregoing the chance to see another provider who may be running a special whom you also wanted to have a session with to do so. It is one thing for a provider to get a first time session, it is quite another for the same guy to see you for repeat visits.

This is a subject dear to my heart. I love GFE sessions. I have had some wonderful ladies that I think very highly of. We simply enjoy each other on several levels. No PSE here. I do not try to emulate porn.

The older I get.... The harder it is to get my motor running.... A woman that kisses well will jump start my motor twice as fast as a non kisser. That goes for the BJ too.... Slap a rubber on.... It will be a never ending BJ

l4b should have the lady jam a finger up his ass and that bj will end quickly.

It's clearly apparent that GFE is in high demand in this hobby.
There is a risk that comes along with GFE, its developing feelings...
When feelings get in the way the consequences can be bad, especially
when the discreetness of an encounter with an escort was the reason of not having a nympho side girlfriend instead.

So this leads me to wonder why GFE is in higher demand than non-GFE?

With the popularity of porn and the commonly requested PSE encounter, its safe to say that most people fantasize of porn style encounters. GFE style cuddling, pillow talk and slow passionate kissing are rarely if ever seen in porn.

So why would one seek the services of a GFE escort and request PSE activities??
Wouldn't the risk be much higher of catching feelings for an escort offering both GFE and PSE all in one...the perfect dream girl? Originally Posted by Steamy Selena

It could also be there's a lot of bozos that don't know what they're asking for.