Self Confidence

Lately I have read many post that may make a lady question their appearance and there are times we all question ourselves...but remember no matter what you are strong,intelligent and beautiful inside and out and if there is something you want to change than do it for the right reason...FOR YOURSELF.....

I agree when I first started I was so self conscious of my body ( about 2 years ago) and lost 40 pounds until I was happy with my body. No body can say sh*t about my body now, and if they did I wouldn't give a damn because I am proud of what I accomplished and how I look now- no wonder I take photos all the time now.

The only person you need to make happy is you - but the cat calls don't hurt either lol.

I was the opposite of you Skylar. When I first started I was freshly 18 and weighed about 105 lbs. Well I took a break and actually gained about 20-25 lbs. when I came back on my first review one comment said "Is it just me or does it look like Tanner's put on a few pounds?" Guys don't realize that what they say really can hurt your feelings. I still won't see the man who said that and I value the men who backed me and said I look damn good even more!

In the last 6 months my confidence has grown so much. The fact that men spend their hard earned money to spend time with me is so incredibly flattering. I try to tell my civie gf's how this job is good for me but they don't get it. Having men look at your body with such desire is just so uplifting.

Is it just me, or is Tanner's ass gorgeous?

I know what you mean. I am a "curvy" "full-figured" mature lady who isn't quite a BBW. I use to compare myself to others who were smaller size or younger.

Well, now I find that there are many men who desire me just as I am.

But I do have to say that I just got a review and on the rating scale of looks gave me a 6 (out of 10) even though he writes that I am pretty. He mentions that I am not a spinner and bit on the heavy side with lots of curves and very large breasts.

At first I was upset as I even write on my website that I am "built for comfort" and my photos show that am not a spinner.

Then I get calls from regulars or inquiries from new friends who mention how much they love my looks.

All-in-all, this business has helped me really like who I am.

Lately I have read many post that may make a lady question their appearance and there are times we all question ourselves...but remember no matter what you are strong,intelligent and beautiful inside and out and if there is something you want to change than do it for the right reason...FOR YOURSELF..... Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

every man has a ideal woman each of you is unique in your own way.Being in the hobby lets a man taste the rainbow,that he may not get in everyday dating.

I don't get my validation from escort boards. No one hobbyist/review can make me feel less about myself. I knew I was awesome before I came here and I will be just as awesome when I leave. I don't take any of this stuff to heart..even the bullies .. at the end of the day who is paying who? Exactly. Always keep your eyes on the big picture.

Women are their harshest critics. I know women that are drop dead gorgeous and are insecure about some aspect of their anatomy. Some to the point of slipping into depression and others going through unnecessary medical procedures.

I have to agree with Zarah, as much as it hurts me, the ladies should not use a fucktard, SHMB, or review as a basis for their validation.

Exactly I don't need anyones approval as long as I feel good about myself..My BFE's know me and make me feel special but only because I am comfortable with who i am..yes we all have our bad days but the truth be known I have an awesome life and think everyone has good qualities..earlier this week was hard but I have bounced back and life is good and I am in a good place mentally and physically...doesn't get any better than that..

I don't get my validation from escort boards. No one hobbyist/review can make me feel less about myself. I knew I was awesome before I came here and I will be just as awesome when I leave. I don't take any of this stuff to heart..even the bullies .. at the end of the day who is paying who? Exactly. Always keep your eyes on the big picture. Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

I have to agree with Zarah, as much as it hurts me, the ladies should not use a fucktard, SHMB, or review as a basis for their validation. Originally Posted by pyramider

Awwww that's too bad, P! I've always enjoyed agreeing with you

Exactly I don't need anyones approval as long as I feel good about myself..My BFE's know me and make me feel special but only because I am comfortable with who i am..yes we all have our bad days but the truth be known I have an awesome life and think everyone has good qualities..earlier this week was hard but I have bounced back and life is good and I am in a good place mentally and physically...doesn't get any better than that.. Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

Exactly. Lots of guys are willing to pay to be with you. That's pure awesomeness in itself. I used to take this board a bit too seriously but then I realized it's just a board. When I log out of here, none of this stuff matters.

Is it just me, or is Tanner's ass gorgeous? Originally Posted by Clouddancer

It is definitely not* just you!!!!!!

I don't get my validation from escort boards. No one hobbyist/review can make me feel less about myself. I knew I was awesome before I came here and I will be just as awesome when I leave. I don't take any of this stuff to heart..even the bullies .. at the end of the day who is paying who? Exactly. Always keep your eyes on the big picture. Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

So very true - thanks for posting this!

Very nice post IV. Agree with Z and Pyramider....a hooker board is the LAST place one should seek validation or you'll find yourself in therapy lol.

Confidence and intelligence can make a average woman gorgeous, lack of confidence and brains can make a gorgeous woman fugly.