Raquel de Milo,
very interesting topic!!
my answers would be pretty close to what TinMan and modus posted.
when i meet a provider for the first time, i'm conducting an interview of sorts to determine if i want to consult/visit w/ her in the future.
if a provider implicitly/explicitly states that she is here mainly to rake in the cash, i interpret that to mean [rightly or wrongly] that she's more into cash and not delites. thus, she's way less appealing to me.
if a provider is here because "this is all i've done, i dont know how to do anything else", i interpret that to mean [rightly or wrongly] that her horizons are pretty narrow about where she wants to be in 1, 3, 5 yrs down the line. again, she's way less appealing to me.
- one dallas area provider told me [during a social gathering] about all the money she made (250k in a yr), the two homes and 5 cars she bought for herself and her siblings, and more. plus during our initial encounter, she was on her phone when i got there, constantly looked at the hotel room clock, and was on her phone when i got out of the shower. ... buzz kill!!
- one n.e. new jersey provider told me [when asked what kind of sexual activity she really enjoyed] "i dont like sex at all. i'm just doing this to make enough money so me and my son can move to florida." very uninspired sexual activities, closed eyes, watching the clock, "you come yet?" ... buzz kill!!
- one dallas area provider told me [during first 10 mins] that this is all she's done, was living out of extended stay motels, was having problems w/ her care, etc. mostly just laid there while i did my thing ... buzz kill!!
i dont want to hear about that or experience that kind of stuff on the first or any encounter ... not only buzz kill, but she'll fail the interview.
however, if the provider knows that this is a means to an end and has a way to achieve those ends, and/or she really truly enjoys intimate, passionate, deliteful encounters, great.
but i still dont want to hear about her life plans on the first encounter - takes the intimacy, passion, and delites out of the encounter.
if she was all that and i enjoyed my time, i'll let her know and eventually schedule another session. it might be 1 week, 1 month, 6 months, or a year.
and once i have visited w/ a woman several times, then a discussion of life, goals, hobbies, family, friends, etc. can be interesting. but again, in my opinion, it shouldnt be the focus of the first or any encounter. for me, this is about intimate, passionate, deliteful encounters.
now, i'l toss it back w/ a twist for you and other providers to comment on.
How do you view a hobbyist who openly expresses his reasons for being here [like what sort of activities or body type or encounter he wants. or that he's hobbying as a divorce rebound or cos he's in-between girlfriends]?
Ladies, does it affect your decision on seeing him in any way?
i've often mentioned what i'm after.
How do you view a hobbyist who has been doing this for a long time - 5 yrs, 10 yrs, 15 yrs, 30 yrs? Is there any amount of time that is just too long?
Ladies, how much does the amount of time a hobbyist has been hobbying influence your decision to see him?
and i've often mentioned that i've been doing this a long time.
