Oh snap, I figured he probably tried that, but you're right and maybe he hasn't.
I would think it's fair to assume that not every female provider is into prostate massage, butt what kind of odds are we talking about, 1 out of 10, 20, 30 or higher? He might need to cast a big net if that's allowed, because reaching out to them one provider at a time might take awhile, right?
So I guess he could create a list of some ECCIE targets based on what appeals to him, categorize and prioritize them, also make a note of how often they log-in or post (so he knows when to cross them off his list if they don't respond). Then create a standard PM that asks or outlines exactly what he wants and start sending them, but only if that's allowed on ECCIE.
He might be able to double down and have even better luck, if he still has P-411 and those 30+ OK's. I'd definitely mention those OK's, that way none are overly hesitant about seeing him, especially since he doesn't currently have PA and he's only posted one review.
https://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2690293
Can he also message them through P-411 about prostate massage or is that not allowed? Sorry but I don't know what the messaging rules are for members on both sites about seeking specific menu items, and that's probably because I have zero interest in female providers.