Hi Girl.. First you need to get in the right area which is here..
http://www.eccie.net/forumdisplay.php?f=466
This is the Upset NY forum, Next you need to get photos done here in Rochester and I can do that for you, Next you need to contact a Mod in the Upset NY area and he will guide you through the verification process. Here is one.. http://www.eccie.net/member.php?u=151442 and here is the other.. http://www.eccie.net/member.php?u=71737
Good luck, have fun, stay safe and if i can help you with anything feel free to ask.. BD