Answers From An Amateur

Hello All,

If you run a search on my screen name here, you will find that I have only a handful of reviews and a couple of posts. There is a good reason for that. I am an amateur. A noob.

There I said it.

I have only been in the hobby a couple of years and have seen maybe 12-15 ladies in that time. I know that there are a lot of hobbyists on the boards here who have forgotten more about the hobby than I’ll probably ever know. They know the best AMPs, have ATFs, know all the acronyms, etc. I am not one of those guys.

So why am I posting this, you might ask.

Well, it all goes back to the reviews that I have posted. I have gotten several emails/PM’s from fellas here on the boards and they all say similar things. This post is to answer the two main questions I get and maybe to give people even newer than I am an idea as to how to make their sessions go a bit better for them, especially if they have had problems in the past.

First, they want to know if everything I mention in the reviews is real, i.e, did we really do all of the things I said in the manner I said them. That answer is, of course, yes. We did do those things. I embellish very little in my reviews. Reviews are there to help fellow hobbyists and embellishing what goes on BCD doesn’t do anybody any good.

Second, the people who contact me want to know if I am just lucky: “how do you find all these awesome chicks, man”.

No, I am not just lucky. WE ALL are lucky. We are in a town that has a plethora of simply awesome ladies.

The reason every session I schedule or review seems to be a home run is because I actually use these boards to do my homework. First, I figure out what I want. Do I want a Milf? A Threesome? What’s my budget? Now, don’t get me wrong, all of the ladies here are marvelous, but sometimes you get in a mood and you want to satisfy it. In my opinion, that’s the hardest part. Trying to figure out exactly what you want when all of the ladies here are not only nice, but gorgeous as well. How to choose?

So, now you have chosen. Go check out reviews. If they don’t have any reviews, or their good review/bad review ratio isn’t that great, skip on to someone else. The reason I don’t have any bad reviews posted on here is because I only see ladies that have good reviews. Imagine that. Look at any lady I have posted reviews on and they will have a dozen more just like it.

Now, I know that some guys on the boards here are great at finding the diamond in the rough; that backpage girl who is “up-and coming”. If you have been burned on BP, guess what…you’re not that guy. I have used BP a few times. A couple were good, a couple were bad. However, the bad far outweighs the good, so I stick with well reviewed ladies. That’s what works for me, and if you keep getting burned, that’s what will work for you as well.

OK, so figuring out what you want – Check

Finding a lady with good reviews – Check

That’s it, right? Well, not really.

You see just because a lady is really attractive and has good reviews doesn’t mean your session is going to be great. Sometimes, you’ll get there and find that she doesn’t do the things you want to do. So, you should come back and write a bad review of her, right?

WRONG

The biggest thing to consider when making an appointment is what the girl is into. Remember, BCD goes both ways. She has likes and dislikes just like every other woman on the planet. You have to know what those are before you just go poking and prodding around like a damn teenager who doesn’t know what they’re doing. Don’t just go on her website and see what she “offers”. Read her reviews. Make sure she actually ENJOYS doing whatever activity you want to do. But, please, if you go to a lady and she doesn’t do a specific service, don’t fault her for it. My biggest pet peeve on these boards is when someone comes on here writing a bad review of a lady because she “only did CBJ”. That isn’t her fault, douche. You should have checked beforehand. Make sure she does what you’re looking for before you schedule. (Of course if she says she performs a certain service and then doesn’t, that’s a different matter – but keep in mind it could be your fault as well, i.e. hygiene)

So now you’ve figured out what you want – Check

Found a lady with good reviews – Check

You know she does XYZ – Check

Now, it’s time to schedule. I try to use P411 to do this. I used to think it was a big waste of money, but 70 bucks for a year is nothing when you realize that screening now takes care of itself. I have been able to get scheduled with some very nice ladies at last minute simply because P411 was there. But, let’s say you don’t have that.

On your FIRST email to the lady, send her your references. This will do a few things.

1) It will show that you are really interested

2) It will show that you’ve done this before and know what you’re doing

3) It will show that you are organized and probably not a flake

All of these will help with your session. Ladies can always have off days. Make sure your day isn’t one of them by making this process as quick and painless for HER as possible. I am not going to be so bold as to say every lady I have seen has “been dying to meet me”. However, I make it my goal to not be “that guy she has to see at 3 today”. Send her a compliment in the email. An email drafted like this is not a good email:

Hey so and so,
Do you do XYZ? I am looking for a girl that does XYZ. Will you do it? I really wanna fuck you. Nice Azz.

Send her a compliment. A REAL Compliment. You picked her because she is pretty. Let her know that. Tell her you liked her outfit in Picture A. Tell her she has pretty eyes. Make conversation about one of her interests if those are available. Empathize with her. Life is a drag for everyone - it’s something we can all relate to. The whole point of all of this is to not be complete strangers when you walk in the door. When you walk in the door, she should already know what kind of session you’re looking for, your name, why you picked her, etc. Keep in mind that there are hundreds of ladies to choose from. YOU picked HER. Let her know why. If the only reason is because she’s the only one that will do whatever sick and twisted thing you want done is, then make something up. I’m sure there isn’t a woman on the planet that hates to hear why her beauty beat out all of the competition. Let her know why she is special.

When you get in the door, tell her how pretty she is. Dare I say Woo her. I always let her initiate the activities. We don’t get comfy until SHE says so. If you come at her right off, it will be business, not pleasure. BCD is always better when the woman actually wants to be there.

Even if you follow all of these “guidelines” there is still a chance that things just won’t work out. Chemistry is chemistry after all. It happens. I can tell you that in my opinion the older ladies (35+) tend to be able to tailor a session to the client better than the younger ones can. This, however, is only my opinion and not fact.

So, there you have it. These are the simple guidelines I use to do my best to make sure that every session I go to is great. Remember, there are a lot of ladies out there. That’s exactly what they are…LADIES. Whomever you choose is providing a service for you at her discretion, so show her some respect from the beginning. After the session, write a good review for her. Send her a thank you email letting her know you had a great time. The happier she is, the happier she will make you and everybody wins. Then, you can be on here writing a review of a session that everyone else wishes they had.

That is all I have to say. This post may now be buried in the sea of randomness.

Owl_J

Great thread! I hope everyone takes your advice!

Very good post

awesome post, you rock!

You have a very eloquent way of putting of of this. Good job!

For a n00b, this was written very nice I would say you have graduated from n00b to "respectable member". My first hobby experience was in the 80's , and I still learn new terms, acronyms, and "hobby speak" to this day.

Thanks for your post..

S270

Common sense and being considerate goes a long way. It shouldn't be a mystery but it would seem it is just that to many. Good post Owl_J. Keep em coming.

Can we get this stickied at the top of each forum? This should be mandatory reading for newbies...and a refresher for some of the not-so-newbies.

To me you are now...LORD OWL J.

I obey my master...I will participate in Order 69.

Quite well put!

I would say you have graduated from n00b to "respectable member". Originally Posted by Suite270

+1

Agree. Terrific post.

Wow...just read this. Awesome advice.

Very well stated and greatly appreciated! You're "hobby system" seems to work well for you. '-)

What was that middle part again??
Hahaaa..

Great information...

So, Good looking And Smart! I like that!
Well....
I mean...you did choose me and
XO Sadie for a visit! And we rock!

If the new guys take the time to read this, they'd get a lot from it. Thanks for putting this together.

~Kelly TNT