Help a newbie out

Hi everyone,

My wife and I are separated until about February 2011. I I used to work overseas and I expect my wife will get a visa to come to the USA in February. I really miss her and after 6 months, I am really lonely. SO I have decided to give a provider a try. I really worry about LE and dont know how to tell if something is up. Should I get an incall? will that protect me? Dp incalls usually bring someone with them? I dont want big bubba sitting in my driveway listening to obnoxiously load music while my neighbors wonder why some woman is in my home for one hour. This is my first time using a provider and I want a good experience. I just want to have one safe provider ocassionally until my wife arrives. I dont want LE problems. My career and marriage might not survive. I really need some advice. Thanks for any help.

Here's some advice for you. First, you have to do your research. Start with boards like ECCIE and read the reviews. While ECCIE is a wonderful site, there are other forum boards and review sites from which to do research. Some of my other favorite sites include Escorts.com; Indys.com; and the Erotic Review. There are others as well. What you want to do is look for providers who have activity across all the boards. Second, look at who is reviewing the providers. See what there history of reviews is like. If a certain client has written a fair number of reviews to include one of a provider who also is well reviewed, then you have a really good idea that the provider is not LE. I call it cross-referencing research. You could also join a verification site like P411 or Date Check. This will help you out in that the providers are pretty much a sure thing not to be LE with an added bonus that your screening can be done by the verification site. Finally, avoid providers who are only visible on BP or Craigslist.

As for incall based on your description as meaning the provider coming you, that is really an outcall. She is coming to you. My experience has been that indy providers do not bring anyone with them, but your mileage may vary. If you see an agency girl, then I'd say it is a 50/50 chance there will be a driver.

I don't want this next bit of advice to stir any waves, but have you looked into finding a non-provider to meet your needs? There are plenty of "hook up" sites out there like Ashley Madison where can find a lonely heart like yourself looking for a no strings attached affair. I'm not saying go this route. I'm just saying it is out there.

I appreciate the advice. I got confused about incall/ outcall . It was late last night when I posted. I really have a difficult time to find girls that are reviewed on more than one site. P411 wants to verify me but I dont think I am verifiable because I am an entrepreneur. I have no boss, etc.

I have found 2 girls with many reviews on TER over a long period of time. Do you think they are good options for me?

I appreciate the idea about ashley madison. I seen the site before but thought it was some type of scam. Do you have any experience with the site or know of any others that have?

So far I have spent a lot of time doing research. I just want to find that one provider or woman to take care of me until my wife gets here.

I wish I had something to add to the board but I am just a newbie, unless your interested in knowing about this activity in eastern Europe.

thanks again

I would think a provider would b your best best, while Ashley Madison and others do offer hook ups , u run the risk of drama, attachment while a well reviewed provider knows the deal and will (99%) cause u no problems and when your wife comes back it ends, no worries about "y havnt u called me etc from your hook up") Just my opinion as ive been there.
Best of luck to u sweetie!!

If I understand you correctly:

• You are looking for a temporary partner for sex until you and your spouse are reunited.
• You don't have a history in the hobby with other providers or a verification site like preferred 411.

As such, you will probably have a difficult time getting a quality provider to see you on an out-call basis. You are not known. A provider needs to be assured that you are NOT LE and that you are not a nut case.

Though I don't want to cause any bad feelings with this site or any providers; I think the best solution for you is an EMP (Erotic Massage Parlor) in which the providers offer full service. There are quite a few EMPs in the DC area that have an excellent reputation. You can research these EMPs at...

http://www.eroticmp.com/

You won't have to go through verification and a screening process. Additionally, a reputable EMP will be managed by a savvy, well-experienced Mama-san the can spot and smell LE a mile away. Hence, all you have to worry about is enjoying yourself!

I don't mean to take any business away from our lovely, independent escorts. However, EMPs can be better choice based on certain circumstances and the particular needs or desires of a gent.

Hi PJ,

thanks for the idea. I am not into the Asian Ladies. I dont know why, but they just dont attract me. Nothing against the Asian ladies because it is a personal preference. Guess I will have to take my chances with some advertised lady. Do you think outcall is safer than incall?

Hi PJ,

thanks for the idea. I am not into the Asian Ladies. I dont know why, but they just dont attract me. Nothing against the Asian ladies because it is a personal preference. Guess I will have to take my chances with some advertised lady. Do you think outcall is safer than incall? Originally Posted by Ditchdigger

Outcalls is now as risky as incalls. Like some members told you, read reviews. To be sure a provider is not LE I suggest you meet the ones with reviews already.
To subscribe on p411 wouldn't be a bad idea ether.

Hi Anita, Thanks for the reply. I think I will take your advice or just not meet any provider and suffer for a few more months.

thanks for the advice guys but I am in happy land today. A nice young lady that I once had a fling with years ago before I was married wants to provide NSA services. She lives on the west cost so I pay for her flights. She knows whats happening and is OK with it. My best friend owns the business she works for so I dont expect to get any after effects. It would jeopardize her career. Best of all, she will be here when and how long I want. We are known to each other, she is hot and good at makin' love. I am really happy and cant believe I am so fortunate. she is coming in about a week and half. YEEEHAAAAAA, Whoopiiiiiii.

Good on ya, mate. Now don't forget to post a review . . . with pictures.