dirm,
slightly b off topic, but you stated
"... I'm stone cold. That's why I don't form relationships with anyone other than business. I don't have "friends" either. ..."
did u mean with females or with people in general?
if with ppl in general, you might want to rethink that.
lest you turn 60 or 70 and are pretty much alone.
everything i've seen in folks older than me shows that good *solid relationships* (not one-off or short lived ones) are beneficial to our well being and mental health.
but your life, your choice.
Originally Posted by pmdelites
Let me tell you something. I don't have friends, and it's for good reasons. I don't call anyone my friend and I don't trust anyone who calls me "friend." Why? Every person who has called me friend or claimed to be my friend has betrayed me, lied about me behind my back, backstabbed me, slandered my name in defamation, or stole from me. I don't trust ANYONE. I've had people brag about being my friend after I worked at a globally known company, and I have only seen that person a few times through school and family. I'm not going to absolutely hate on the guy because he was never mean, but he yelled it out in the open computer lab on campus as though I was his best friend. It was kind of awkward.
I don't trust anyone and I don't expect them to trust me in return. I keep in contact with former classmates and people in business on jobs. They will sometimes send me messages. Some people probably wonder if I died because I disappear, or they will say they are worried, which I highly doubt. However, I don't call them "friend." They call ME "friend." I never respond to it, and they never notice that I don't respond to it. In fact, I have a list of words I never use and people never notice. The "L" word is one of those, and that one shocks everyone. It surprises people because I am a man of reverence, or respect, truth, honor, and power. I am the man of truth. They don't expect me to not believe in that fairy tale "L" word. Now, I will say it most likely exists in the next afterlife dimension, such as Heaven, but not on this plane of existence. Friend is another word I think very little of when I hear it. Is that due to my past experiences with humans? Most likely. It's all I know. It's how I was raised.
I never trust people who call me "friend" or brag about being my "friend." I've only had a modest bit of trust for those who NEVER call me "friend." Think about that. Do you really think these people on these websites are your friends? Here is a scenario. You live in California, your friend lives in Nevada, and your family lives in New York. You get into a traumatic accident. Who is going to come see you in the hospital? Your friend in Nevada or your family in New York? This is with the presumed condition that you have a good relationship with your family.
I know people like to have friends, but I don't need them. It seems like too much conflict and too many problems. Calling someone "friend" in return leads to expectations, obligations, and vulnerability. I haven't had friends since the 6th or 7th grade. The World Trade Center was attacked and destroyed when I was in the 6th grade.
Have you watched the anime called Bleach? I recommend it. My favorite character is Aizen Sousuke.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2XvFJJfTqo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QL5ZTcAiebg