Why am I here?

So I have been in the hobby for almost 10 yrs and have had 99% great experiences. I only recently submitted reviews which I never did on aspd(same handle). I'm 36, never been married and no kids. I don't think I ever will. I have wondered why I do this hobby. Is it sex? No. I have never had a problem getting laid. Is it because it's easy sex? No. I'm the guy that blast texts 3-4 girls at 1:30 am "sup, are you out and about?". I think the kids call that "fishing". Is it because of th old joke about hookers "you don't pay them for sex, you pay them to leave". No. Again. Plenty of girls (not providers) that will let u bump and run. It's nonE of those things. I don't know why I'm here. I've probably seen so many providers/body rubs in the last 10 yrs I've lost count. I've made great friends with some providers. I cherish those relationships. Maybe that's why I do this. It's my secret. No one knows I do this. So maybe to get clarity, I should ask. Why are you here?

I will spare you the rationalizations I make to myself... I think it all boils down to: "engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others..."

Quiz: http://psychcentral.com/sexquiz.htm

Info: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/wha...ual-addiction/
SAA: http://saa-recovery.org/IsSAAForYou/

hedonism

It's fun, somewhat dangerous, cheaper and more cost effective than lap dances and I find it to be a great stress relief. Though, I have to admit, if I had an SO I probably wouldn't be here. Well, still on the board but not hobbying.

My reason is probably the same as a few others. Not getting any action on the home front and not ready for celibacy.

thrill of the hunt

Oh! I got one! I like to window shop!

I'm probably a sex addict and my wife only allows me to fuck professionals.

I'm here because the younger version of that girl I used to pick up in a bar and fuck all night for free now calls me sir.

I wish I knew! I get some pretty good sex at home, but I like the variety. I was a virgin when i got married, and I really believed in that whole one man one woman forever thing. As I grew up and started looking around, I realized true monogamy was the exception rather than the rule. Even in the Bible those dudes were borking around all over the place with multiple wives etc.

So, I convinced myself that sex is ok, and maybe I was missing out on something by not carting around a bit. I started with strip clubs and got more into it from there. I love being around beautiful women, having them call me sweetie and act like they want to take care of me, even if they are only doing it for money.

I have made the choice that it is better to do it with professionals since i am not interested in falling in love, I just want some strange!

My reason is probably the same as a few others. Not getting any action on the home front and not ready for celibacy. Originally Posted by golforfish

Yep yep.

Simple answer: For Fun

Most of these ladies are straight up fun and I like beautiful girls with fun positive attitudes. Oh, and my wife likes some of them too

I agree the "hunt" is very exciting. Getting a "yes I'm available" is heart pounding.

The banner ads.

I will spare you the rationalizations I make to myself... I think it all boils down to: "engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others..."

Quiz: http://psychcentral.com/sexquiz.htm

Info: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/wha...ual-addiction/
SAA: http://saa-recovery.org/IsSAAForYou/ Originally Posted by shlub

I took the quiz. Scored a 6. The problem with "sex addiction" as defined by the quiz, is that it is based on what is normal and socially acceptable to someone else.

I say fuck em. It's not their morality I have to be concerned with. It's my own. Ive never seen the attraction to " normal ".
I'm fine.

Nobody but you can say why you are here, or if you should be.