Mysterious_Rose is a thief and I am an idiot

I have seen Rose numerous times and she was my go-to girl, especially in this current drought of reliable ladies. A few weeks ago, Mysterious Rose reached out to me asking if I would like to set up an appointment. This is not unusually. She does this about once a month and I am usually more than happy to go see her. She of course says she is stressed out and needs an outlet or is particular horny and wants to see me, but I know she just needs money. However, it's all part of the fantasy and I play my part.

This particular time, I wasn't really feeling well and I wasn't in the mood for playtime with Rose. When I let her know that I would not be seeing her, she first offered a very reasonable price ($140 for a half hour) and then also offered CIM, something that she never does. By these offers, I could tell that she was hard up for money so I asked and she confirmed that she needed some cash. She said she forgot to pay her phone bill. I don't know if that's true or not but I really don't care.

I wanted to help Rose. Needing money sucks and I have had that feeling before. However, I really wasn't feeling up to having an appointment that day. So I broke the biggest rule in the hobby. I offered to meet Rose and front her $200 in exchange for an anything-goes 45 minutes appointment in the near future. Rose happily agrees. I met her in a Walmart parking lot and gave her the money. By the way, Rose is even more hot in this more real life situation, but that is besides the point. We talked for a little and she seems very thankful and happy. She agrees that we will settle the exchange within a week or so.

This happened on a Friday. That weekend, I spent all my free time imagining what we would do in our "anything goes" appointment. First, I decided that I couldn't show up empty handed, so I shopped (online) for a gift. Shopping for someone that is nearly a stranger is really difficult by the way. However, I found something that I thought she would like and I know I would like seeing her wear. I also wanted to come up with a new activity for our appointment. Rose had already offered CIM but what else could I get away with? I watched way too much porn trying to get an idea but in the end, I really wasn't interested in pushing her boundaries. So, I decided it would be fun to have a photo shoot. I have a history with photographing providers for their ad photos but I was interested in something else. I wanted to try my hand at low-key body shots, also known as bodyscapes. Rose has an nice slim body and I think she would be a good model. Plus this style easily lends itself to not showing the face so she could use the pictures if she wanted.

In order to take these pictures, I needed to buy a new backdrop and a new softbox with a grid. Not the most expensive things, but the total expense of this situation was adding up. $200 to Rose, $40 for gift, and about $80 for photo equipment. My stupidity is building.

Now it's time to make an appointment. The following Tuesday, I ask if she would be available on Friday. She says that would work. On that Friday, I try to verify a time and receive crickets. After a few unanswered texts, I send a mad frowny face. This finally gets a response. She says not to be mad and she had a family medical situation. I don't believe her but I'm not going to argue. This is all a fantasy and, again, I play my part.

The next morning, I try again with no reply.
On Monday, I ask if Wednesday would work, she says Ok.
Tuesday, I let her know that I will have to push it back to Thursday. She's says that's fine.
On Thursday, I try to set up a time and she doesn't reply. I text her that I'm starting to see a pattern. That gets a response that she is taking an exam and couldn't reply. Over 2 hours later, she says she's still taking the exam. I try later that night and the next morning and she doesn't respond. I finally let her know that I'm not happy and it is clear that she is not interested in settling our arrangement. This gets another excuse. On the off chance that the excuse was legit, I will not share it. It was another family situation.

So her pattern was to lead me on until it was time to set up an actually time, then I received crickets. I would send a negative text and that would lead to an excuse. I know it was dumb to front her the money and I even told her when I handed it over that I was breaking the first rule of the hobby. I completely admit that I'm stupid and i'm an idiot for making the offer in the first place. One would expect that Rose would not want to loose future business over $200 but I guess I'm wrong.

What's worse is this completely destroys the hobby fantasy. The fantasy is that we men are manly, attractive, and charismatic enough to attract these ladies that are usually way out of our league. (I may be just talking for myself) We ignore the money and act like that part didn't happen. It's a play put on by two actors and no audience. By not finishing our arrangement, Rose has emphasized that she is only interested in the money. Of course this is no surprise, but that was the fantasy. I played my part. She did not.

On a side note, I have a gift that I need to find a recipient for. Any size small spinners looking to experiment with some artistic bodyscape photos, let me know.

Oh My!!

Sorry that you got played. I have no sympathy for theifs especially in this business as they give all providers a bad name.

Things to live by in the hobby

1. Never forget this is pay for play. Money is how this works. This is not okcupid.

2. Never prepay anyone for a session. I dont care who they are. Prepaid sessions etc never work out. Ask the guys here who do and what has happened when it's time to collect.

3. Providers do not cold call or randomly contact a hobbyist you have seen asking for money. That's tasteless, unprofessional and reeks desperation. Not to mention many dont like to be texted etc unless they have given you permission. Bills are due or business is slow run a special or post an ad.

4. If you choose to pay more than asked or give a gift..that is just that a gift.. not part of the arrangement. You chose to go above and beyond.

5. She gave you an inch and your were thinking of taking a mile. "You knew she was hard up". She offered you cim as an extra nothing else. Yet you felt you could try to sweeten the deal by seeing what else you could get from her. I thought you said you felt bad and wanted to help her because you've been there? Instead of helping and paying her for a normal date you wanted an "anything" goes date. You said you enjoyed her time why would you require this? Did you ask her if she was fine with you taking pictures? You spent money on new equipment just to shoot her? That again was your decision and not a fault of hers. You would have been out either way had she still saw you and possibly turned you down when you asked to take pictures.

I dont like theifs and I dont like people who try to take advantage of others as well. If you are a person who truly wants to help someone when they are in a bad situation you just do it. You don't try to get more out of the deal by asking them to do things they wouldnt normally do. She offered you something you already said she doesnt do and yet that wasnt enough. You also dont rip people off especially not the person who is trying to help. You make an arrangement you keep it. If your schedules dont line up then you pay the party the cash back and its settled.

5. She gave you an inch and your were thinking of taking a mile. "You knew she was hard up". She offered you cim as an extra nothing else. Yet you felt you could try to sweeten the deal by seeing what else you could get from her. I thought you said you felt bad and wanted to help her because you've been there? Instead of helping and paying her for a normal date you wanted an "anything" goes date. You said you enjoyed her time why would you require this? Did you ask her if she was fine with you taking pictures? You spent money on new equipment just to shoot her? That again was your decision and not a fault of hers. You would have been out either way had she still saw you and possibly turned you down when you asked to take pictures. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

I see what you're saying but i'm not completely sure I explained the arrangement correctly. I have a history of wanting to try new things but have no idea what. I'm very vanilla but wish I wasn't. During the initial conversation with Rose, she said she was up for anything, I just had to tell her what. Since I didn't have an idea of what activities I would want, we agreed on "anything goes" minus Greek.

However, I did decide that I would stick to normal activities because I don't want to take advantage. The photography things is just for fun and if she didn't want to, so be it. The cost of the gift and the equipment is completely on me. This is why I grouped these things into me being stupid.

UPDATE:
Rose contacted me before reading my post. It appears that I have jumped the gun on this topic. Our schedules are just not lining up and i'm reading too much into that. I would like to retract this entire discussion.

UPDATE:
Rose contacted me before reading my post. Originally Posted by Potato

Don't be too naive... I'd wager she saw it and now she's doing damage control. I hope this works out for you.

z

Lmao

Uh oh clean up aisle 4.

What ztonk said, only relevant if she called you before you posted. And if that happened you wouldn’t have posted.

She read it for sure ... it’s clear not to lend MYSTERIOUS ROSE MONEY !!! Lol

In truth just shows bad character even though POTATO did such a dumb move . Another example of why we should always think with our big head

So Potato, how did reconciliation go?

Lmao Originally Posted by Kickrocks

LMWAO

What Brittney said.

UPDATE:
Rose contacted me before reading my post. It appears that I have jumped the gun on this topic. Our schedules are just not lining up and i'm reading too much into that. I would like to retract this entire discussion. Originally Posted by Potato

The only thing you've 'Updated' is your stupidity for all to see. Damn straight she either read or was made aware of this thread. Have some sense of self and don't allow your ass to be played.

Don't be too naive... I'd wager she saw it and now she's doing damage control. I hope this works out for you.

z Originally Posted by ztonk

Ya' think?