Thoughts/advice needed (probably from the ladies)

ahobbyist2's Avatar
Met with a lady on the 23rd- don't want to post a review, since she said she was strictly entertaining for extra christmas cash- not going to be in the business on a regular basis

Anyway, we had a great time, she was very fun and very wild- pretty much open to all kinds of fun. I think we hit it off really good- when she starting getting out her toys and said let's try this, and this and these I knew it was going to be a hell of a ride

To get to the point of the story- she sent me a text yesterday asking me if I was busy and would I be interested in getting together again

Any thoughts on this..is this a free fun session, am I moving into fuck-buddy status or whatever... (I wouldn't mind being a fuck buddy..she was fun)

Was wondering if any other providers have ever called a hobbyist looking for an encounter-- does this mean something different that a "business relationship"

I am planning to meet with her again next week, and will "gently" ask before in either an e-mail or text if a donation is going to be needed or this is two friends getting together
Naomi4u's Avatar
My dear please do not offend her by asking for a free session. She's expecting you to pay her for her time. She told you she didn't want reviews because she's not going to be in the business for long.. this does not mean she's going to start providing ....for free.

Unless she makes it clear to you, expect to pay her. If you ask her you could be putting her in an awkward position.

Treat her like you would treat any professional you do business with (Doctor, Lawyer.. etc)
Sweet N Little's Avatar
My dear please do not offend her by asking for a free session. She's expecting you to pay her for her time. She told you she didn't want reviews because she's not going to be in the business for long.. this does not mean she's going to start providing ....for free.

Unless she makes it clear to you, expect to pay her. If you ask her you could be putting her in an awkward position.

Treat her like you would treat any professional you do business with (Doctor, Lawyer.. etc) Originally Posted by Naomi4u
+ 1
sounds to me she'd like a repeat ..the same as the first encounter. Fee included. It would be more appropriate to offer her the fee & if she declines, well lucky you.
burkalini's Avatar
Yup, Dude there's no free rides
I think you are right, this girl is not professional escort (since most escorts I know don't ask their clients if they would like to "get together again") To me, she sounds more like she is seeking a sugar daddy she can call up and see whenever she needs extra cash,so when she calls you up to ask you whether you would like to see her again,it probably is because she needs a little money.
Naomi4u's Avatar
The chick wants to get paid... clearly.
shorty's Avatar
As you mentioned, she says she's new to providing. Is she really new or just telling you what you want to her? I would steer clear of someone that texts you and wants to get together again. She's either really needing money or she works for a manager(pimp).

A true provider would not just text you out of the blue and ask if you want to get together. Yes, they may make contact with you from time to time if its OK with you. They may just check-in with you to see how your doing or they may be just letting you know that they are coming or back in town. They will let you make the call, if you want to see them. Always remember that PUSSY IS NEVER FREE!!
My thought is this girl is an amateur who probably has another job or is a student and is just seeking some extra cash.

Any thoughts on this..is this a free fun session, am I moving into fuck-buddy status or whatever... (I wouldn't mind being a fuck buddy..she was fun) Originally Posted by ahobbyist2
Do what I do when I get those kind of texts. Send a reply with "business or pleasure?"

If its business, she should NEVER call you LOOKING for your business.

If its pleasure, then...its your call. lol
Naomi4u's Avatar
^ That is still putting her in an awkward position. It is not right.
By the "same" token, it is putting the OP in an "awkard" position by her texting him about getting together again! I say simply reply to text with a "business or pleasure" reply and then you'll know!
I wouldn't use the "business or pleasure" line. It implies that being together is exclusively one or the other, which I would find insulting. I think that the chance that she wants to see you for free is slim enough that you should put it out of your mind.
Naomi4u's Avatar
I wouldn't use the "business or pleasure" line. It implies that being together is exclusively one or the other, which I would find insulting. I think that the chance that she wants to see you for free is slim enough that you should put it out of your mind. Originally Posted by China Doll
Very well said China.
ahobbyist2's Avatar
Appreciate the input- and have to say all of the opinions that everyone has mentioned is what I was thinking over before I posted here-
Next time I talk to her will just plainly ask if "i should bring the same gift as I did last time"
I think this is straight forward enough without sounding too business like
Eccie Addict's Avatar
So a provider never calls someone for a booty call? Is it not insulting to call a hobbyist asking him if he wants to see her (which by the way our answer is always gonna be yes) only for him to find out she is calling him to make some money. Should we always treat a provider as if it is business only cause I happen to know for a fact that it isn't always business when a provider calls me.

Just my thoughts on the subject. I've had providers call me for pleasure and business. I've never gotten the impression that they felt insulted when I asked for them to be clear. I don't think she would be very happy if I came over and after we had our fun she found out o didn't have what she really wanted. I do agree with the guys that it's all in how you ask.