Contacting a Provider.... Then Silence

Small incoming rant coming up. Guys, some of you have probably had this happen to you. This is a little irritating for me since I normally only have limited times to play, and I don't know whether to make other plans, or what....

Scenario #1:

A provider puts up an ad saying she's available.

You text her and/or email her within a few hours of her placing the ad.

No reply.

Scenario #2

You text a provider, and she replies back, but can't see you that day, but you both agree to set something up on "such-and-such a day" coming up.

That day comes. You try to contact her.

No reply.

Conclusion

I understand things come up. But ladies, at least reply back and let us know "Sorry, something came up and I can't see you today" or "Sorry, but I've already made another appointment."

Just let us know something instead of going "silent". You don't even need to give a reason. At least that way we know, and we can make other plans if we want. A lot of providers will just "go silent" if they don't have time to see you that day, and I don't know why that is. I guess it's just easier for them....

I was supposed to meet with a provider today. I got invited out to do other stuff with friends today, but I told them "no" since I was awaiting a reply back from this provider. So, because of this, I sat at home all day today when I could have been out having a good time with friends. Or heck, I could have contacted a different provider.

And I don't want to blow-up her phone with messages, either. I sent her one text last night, and one text this afternoon. No reply both times.

Okay, END RANT. I feel better now. I just needed to get that off my chest. lol

Guys, does this happen to you a lot?

Happens ALL THE TIME.

Happens ALL THE TIME. Originally Posted by laloverboy

It does, and it's unfortunate. Clear communication is key.

When you only have one or two days off from work per week, and you try to plan something on one of those days, and it's ruined when someone doesn't respond to your messages, it's irritating. So, today was pretty much a wasted-day for me when I could have been doing something else.

Providers always complain about men wasting THEIR time. But, it needs to be considered a two-way-street and the same consideration should be given to us, as well. My two cents.

A little over a month ago, I had to cancel on a provider because I was having some car trouble and I wasn't able to make the drive that day. I communicated with her and kept her "in the loop".

Providers are not good at planning a day in advance, they are maybe at best, 3 to 4 hours of planning. Keep in mind also that some providers receive too many messages to respond to each and every one of them. They should treat it like accounting, FIFO, first in first out. I am surprised at how many guys expect to text a provider and have an appt within a 1/2 hr. It just doesn't work that way.

Providers are not good at planning a day in advance, they are maybe at best, 3 to 4 hours of planning. Keep in mind also that some providers receive too many messages to respond to each and every one of them. They should treat it like accounting, FIFO, first in first out. I am surprised at how many guys expect to text a provider and have an appt within a 1/2 hr. It just doesn't work that way. Originally Posted by duraman

True. I've also had it where I'd contact someone to make an appointment for later in the day, and they're all like "Yeah, sure, text me when you're about to leave your place and I'll give you directions/room number", then I text when I'm about to leave home, and "nothing".... no reply.

When I see a provider, I usually have to drive an hour or longer to see them. So I don't want to waste all that time and gas to drive to see them unless SOLID plans are made.

If she double-booked an appointment, or if she'd rather see "Joe Schmo" who contacted her out-of-the-blue, that's fine. Just let me know you can't see me that day. I won't get angry. In fact I'll probably thank her for letting me know.

I just like to be kept informed.

Sucks when it happens. I just chalk it up to bad karma and continue on

Not all providers are good at business. If I was a hot gal I'd own the world!

Some are just flakey AF....PERIOD.

There’s one in particular (though I’d never mention her name in public) but damn it’s been twice, and she will jump your ass for not scheduling prior, even same day and you might get an ear full, short notice and your a disrespectful scum bag. Lol

I just wonder if a lot of the ladies realize how important those TCB skills are, and how much good ones add to their overall value.

I mean, they can never completely overwhelm a lady's skills behind closed doors but, for me at least, they are a huge consideration. Generally speaking, I don't have a ton of time to waste and I'll usually be a lot more likely to reach out to a provider who is good at communication, promptness and scheduling. I always try to cover that part in the reviews I do, it's important IMHO.

Some of our Panhandle ladies excel at the "TCB" part of the game, but they are the minority in my experience.

There’s one in particular (though I’d never mention her name in public) but damn it’s been twice, and she will jump your ass for not scheduling prior, even same day and you might get an ear full, short notice and your a disrespectful scum bag. Lol Originally Posted by bc1969

With most providers, I try to contact them at least a day ahead of time, just to at least ask if they are available. I know some of these ladies have families, children, etc. and some might make other plans, too. So I try to contact them a day ahead of time just to put that bug in their ear, and let them be aware that I'm interested in seeing her.

Then I'll contact them the next day trying to hash-out details, and that's usually where the communications fail.

Girls have to be able to take care of business. It's legitimately one of the most important parts of the hobby. I see some really amazing girls here that I don't even bother looking into because I see other's mention how flakey they are.

I’ll have the itch for several days and than I’ll wake up in the am (usually a Friday or Saturday) and reach out, knowing that a date may be hard to find so I’ll have maybe three prospects, I’ve found nln to be the most kindest and unoffended by a short notice request. And I’ve had others that will just about hurt my feelings and ruin the whole weekend for me with a bad vibe they give off. I won’t mention names—-unless your asking

End of the month is a real good time to set something up. Rent is due...

Also, kids go back to school soon. All the providers who have kids might have some more "spare time" during the daytime hours.