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dilbert firestorm's Avatar
What do you guys do when you have a malfunction (fail to perform) in a session with a provider?

I asked this question in the New Orleans Forum, but didn't get satisfactory answers. just danced around it. suggested comments was to take the blue pill.

I realize that this is a rather "sensitive" topic for men..
What do you guys do when you have a malfunction (fail to perform) in a session with a provider?

but didn't get satisfactory answers. Originally Posted by dilbert firestorm
IMHO, there are no satisfactory answers. You pay good money for the lady's time and companionship. So, she'll be your companion for the amount of time. No refunds. If you can't perform, that's on you.

I know this is a hard answer, but I don't see the situation changing. Suggest you do a search on Trimax or Trimix (don't remember the correct spelling). The good news: you'll be hard as an iron pipe. The bad news: you gotta inject it into your penis.
Jannisary's Avatar
This happened to me back a few years ago (well maybe more than just a few years..). I had a two hour appointment with a very sexy and very well reviewed provider from central Illinois. This was also the VERY first time I had ever seen an escort. I had fooled around with strippers and amp girls before but she was my first escort.

I have some anxiety issues at times and unfortunately they decided to act up on me big time, I got way too nervous and stressed out and just couldn't perform. The lady valiantly tried, she really did. Once the problem happened though, it just made me even more nervous and stressed so it just got worse.

I can't say it was a great appointment but the problem was with me not her. Parts of it though were very enjoyable and I did enjoy her companionship in other ways: massage, kissing, cuddling, talking, daty etc. It never even occurred to me to ask for a refund or anything like that.

Anyways, it took me quite a while before I booked any other escort appointments. Unfortunately, I was too embarrassed to try booking another appointment with her and a year or so later she retired. That is the main thing about the experience that I regret, that after that appointment I didn't contact her at all and then never tried to see her again before she retired.
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
What do you guys do when you have a malfunction (fail to perform) in a session with a provider?

I asked this question in the New Orleans Forum, but didn't get satisfactory answers. just danced around it. suggested comments was to take the blue pill.

I realize that this is a rather "sensitive" topic for men.. Originally Posted by dilbert firestorm
Well, it is a sensitive topic. And often women will think that it's their fault (am I not pretty or sexy enough?) when it happens and yes, even us escorts will sometimes think that.

If ED is a regular issue for you then it's time to experiment. One guy who never really has had ED will take a quarter of a Viagra as a little insurance (his words) before an appointment because he has a little bit of performance anxiety. I've had clients inject medicine into the tip of their penis and a few who've given themselves actual shots in the penis.

If you don't warn a lady before hand that you're going to pull out a syringe in front of her without a reason, I can assure you that she will probably show a LOT of concern. So tell her (before you arrive to the appointment) and excuse yourself for a moment to do that. (Just a little Betty Crocker tip for you!)

But if you're with a lady and you just don't get an erection for whatever reason, well ... sorry that happened. But it's not really the lady's fault at all. Just take a deep breath and go forward. I wouldn't expect a type of refund or a woman to say, "Oh, just come back if you're feeling better". If that happens, then be grateful. VERY grateful.

As far as a refund or whatever, once this happened, the guy ran out in embarrassment after about three minutes of being here and then called to apologize. For his next appointment, we made an arrangement. He was happy. I was fine with it. And since then (this was awhile back), he's had success with being with girls for money.

I'm not shy about answering these type of questions so I hope that you don't mind my bluntness.

Sincerely,
Elisabeth
a) Don't see providers that do not excite you visually / psychologically.

b) See your doctor. So many meds effect our libido, stamina, and ability to perform. Blood pressure meds, pain meds, anti-depressants, cholesterol meds, etc...

c) Being overweight has many effects on sexual performance.

d) Have your testosterone level checked. men in their 40's, 50's, etc. and men who are obese can have low testosterone levels.

e) Diabetes, vascular and heart issues, and other other medical issues can have an effect on a man's ability to achieve and maintain an erection.

f) Quit seeing chicks that look like your mom.

g) drinking a lot can have effects, too.


Seriously, get the physical and chemical causes ruled out by a physician. It does happen to almost everyone for one reason or another. Addressed properly, it does not have to be an ongoing problem in most cases.
f) Quit seeing chicks that look like your mom. Originally Posted by cpi3000
LOL LOL LOL Now that's funny!
Lil'Whiskey's Avatar
I'm getting older so every so often Lil Whiskey might be a bit too tired to perform like he used to. Neverthles a bit of DATY, DFK, and other bits of pleasure can save the day as well as bring the lil guy back to life. It happens to everyone just try not to think about it...don't make it a self fulfilling prophecy
runswithscissors's Avatar
In regards to the appointment, you are paying for their time. period. no replay, no refund, and yes, the lady will sometimes feel that she was the problem...If it was a one time thing, then analyze the day. Fatigue, stress on the job, homefront, or just questioning your inner self. If it is recurring, then yes, time to find out if it is a physical thing or a mental thing; put your hobby in park and explore your options...
pyramider's Avatar
What CPI was trying to say is you are the only one that has happened to.
You gotta beat this problem. LOL