New to all this

I'm a single dad and haven't been on a date in years, and I'm About to explode. I think I need to start enjoying myself every now and then. My worries are mostly about catching something or getting busted. How do you pick a safe outlet where you can not only be somewhat anonymous but also sure your not going to bring hep c back to your kids?

Sorry everyone I know i sound like an idiot and tend to worry a lot but I need to feel like a man again.

As far as anonymity goes, I'll let the guys and gals who use P411 discuss the virtues (if they exist) of that platform. I never used it; I was always able to find someone I was happy to see who didn't require it.

I never worried about getting busted. I almost never saw someone who did not have a review posted somewhere or had had an ad running with the same email or phone number for a long enough time that I figured she was legit.


I probably never gave STDs the consideration they deserved, except back in the days of the late '90s AIDS scare. For the most part, the women would provide that consideration. Whether or not she insists on a condom, if you are concerned about STDs, you should. Bring your ow, just in case.
TL;DR: Research and condoms.

Thanks man

There are many things to consider but some of these listed below are essential.

• Only see well verified providers. Ones who have plenty of reviews with positive ratings.
• Never ever pay a deposit, 90% chance you will be scammed.
• If you find someone you are interested in from a review, don't hesitate to PM the reviewer and ask them for more specific info. Most will reply honestly if your questions are not too ridiculous.
• P411 is good but you don't need it. Besides, there are several bad apples on P411.
• Many providers have X(twitter), follow them. A lot of the providers follow each other.
• If you make an appointment and it feels off or something seems wrong at anytime, communication style of the provider, location, don't listen to the little head and ditch. Listen to your gut.

Research and condoms.

P411 is like hitting the easy button, but it costs and you will have to fork over personal information unless you can get a few ladies who are members there to vouch for you.

And there is the rub: if you are truly a newbie you won’t have references and given the state of the hobby today I suspect most of the women who you can verify through research are safe to see are likely going to screen you thoroughly before they agree to an appointment. That means references (which you don’t have), p411 (already discussed) or forking over some personal information that they can use to make sure you aren’t one of the dangerous fellows (or LE) that unfortunately also frequents these boards.

We all had to take our chances, though, when we started out. If you pick the right ladies you can minimize the risk of sharing too much with the wrong person.

Best of luck.

Stay with well knowen providers be willing to give screening info

Screening will be up to the provider what she will ask for if you can't provide or don't want to do screening she want's then don't even try to book.

See providers who screen this is the best way to be safe as far as not getting busted as We Care About YOUR saftey just as much as OURS.

And some provider might ask for deposit ( not all of us are a scam) if you can't give a deposit then move on to the next providers who don't ask for one .

Do your home work on the provider you want to see.

See if she has a website or p411- look at her Twitte X / Google her number-email , see if she been around for a long time ..

Stay off LC STG lot of scamers on them.
TRTYS -TER/ Oh2 all good
Check reviews out

I see nebies but I do ask for a lot of info if you don't have refes
And I take deposits ( never scamed someone over a few $)

We take just a big as risk as you are.

Good luck!

If you stick to ladies that are well established here you really have nothing to worry about. Once you have gotten your feet (or something else) wet here you may feel more emboldened to branch out to sites like twitter, listcrawler, etc but that's where things get sketchy and will get you in trouble if you havent developed proper "hobby senses".

When I was new to this, I also found that many of the ladies I wanted to see didnt advertise being newbie friendly but were happy to accommodate me when approached respectfully and following their rules of engagement.

Hope that helps!

Stay with well knowen providers be willing to give screening info

Screening will be up to the provider what she will ask for if you can't provide or don't want to do screening she want's then don't even try to book.

See providers who screen this is the best way to be safe as far as not getting busted as We Care About YOUR saftey just as much as OURS.

And some provider might ask for deposit ( not all of us are a scam) if you can't give a deposit then move on to the next providers who don't ask for one .

Do your home work on the provider you want to see.

See if she has a website or p411- look at her Twitte X / Google her number-email , see if she been around for a long time ..

Stay off LC STG lot of scamers on them.
TRTYS -TER/ Oh2 all good
Check reviews out

I see nebies but I do ask for a lot of info if you don't have refes
And I take deposits ( never scamed someone over a few $)

We take just a big as risk as you are.

Good luck! Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

well said!! ditto!!

hope ya have some fun!!

well said!! ditto!!

hope ya have some fun!! Originally Posted by DallasRain

Hi Miss Rock & Roll ....be safe young lady!

Thanks everyone. Guess it's time to start reading up in the forums here to see who will give me a shot.

Hmmm youre from Dallas

pm me I might can help ya with some info

Thanks everyone. Guess it's time to start reading up in the forums here to see who will give me a shot. Originally Posted by Theredbanana

Take Dallas up for her info . She is the wizz of info !

There are many things to consider but some of these listed below are essential.

• Only see well verified providers. Ones who have plenty of reviews with positive ratings.
• Never ever pay a deposit, 90% chance you will be scammed.
• If you find someone you are interested in from a review, don't hesitate to PM the reviewer and ask them for more specific info. Most will reply honestly if your questions are not too ridiculous.
• P411 is good but you don't need it. Besides, there are several bad apples on P411.
• Many providers have X(twitter), follow them. A lot of the providers follow each other.
• If you make an appointment and it feels off or something seems wrong at anytime, communication style of the provider, location, don't listen to the little head and ditch. Listen to your gut.

Originally Posted by FMaster

I would like to add that only a very small amount of people asking for deposits are scams. If you do the research and see that they are a real provider: and not some catfish using fake pictures, you won’t have an issue.
Twitter and only fans are a good way to check out providers .
You can see on my Twitter that I’ve actually returned deposits when I could not make it due to the weather.
Unfortunately, since Covid happened we’ve had an influx of bogus Appointments and no no-shows. So before we drive all the way across town and take up time out of our schedule we need to make sure that you are serious as a client.

Thanks DB! Shot you a message.

DallasBella was one of the first ladies I met here many moons ago and was kind enough to introduce me to P411 with a referral. Definitely helped put me on the right course as a young noob