How do you ask if you can...

With a provider, patron relationship(or any relationship) how do you approach activities that have not been addressed in reviews/previous activities. It seems so scripted if you ask; yet to go with the flow can cause a lack of trust or respect. What is the best course without blowing the beauty of a session?

It's very simple: If you're with a sexually openminded person, you approach the situation with questions. Sometimes the only way you can discover eachother's desires, is if you ask. Not everyone likes the same thing. Because I'm a very sensual person in nature, I generally ask my partner what are some of the things they are interested in trying. What is it that captures their desires that truly turns them on. Depending on how you ask, it can be very erotic, which in turn can develop to a very erotic prelude to the evening.

In summary, don't be shy in asking questions. You never know, the outcome can be very rewarding

sounds good to me............just ask...worst case she says no........best case lets try it.....

I also describe a fantasy or dream I have had then ask if that is something they are interested in...usually have some BS story of why I dreamed whatever I am asking. That starts the conversation anyway.

I am a provider who offers several fetish scenes and this as kinda been an obsticule in the past. When asking a provider, ask when setting up the meeting. You want to know that she really can do what you wanting. Asking over the phone can be someone what simple. I can't speak for every provider, But I know that I have heard EVERYTHING!! So, nothing you say is going to make me say "OMG are you crazy?!?". Just ask do you offer such and such fetishes? She will either say yes or no. I have had men schedule an appt before leading me to believe that it was a GFE session, so I was prepare for that, when he showed up he tells me that he wants a Dominatrix scene. Well now I am scrambling to get that stuff ready and get in that "bitchy" frame of mine (cause its doesn't come natural). So in turn he probably didn't get my best by springing it on me.

When talking to a gf or wife, I agree with funny boy, the way to go is a "dream". IE: "Honey I had the craziest dream last night: You were naked hanging from the ceiling fan with a flashlight in your tooshie" LMAO Or whatever your fantasy is. Gauge her reaction. Read her body language and voice tone. And if she seems to be liking it, say would you ever do something like that? and Go from there. I can understand this part. I have some socially taboo fetishes that I love, but can be hard to tell someone. But its worth it if you do .

as far as telling a provider, We have heard alot, and we are here to please you. TO make your fantasies come true (if we can). So, don't be shy, hint: look for those who advertise fetishes.

Good luck!

You should start a new thread about some of these socially taboo fetishes you love.....

sounds good to me............just ask...worst case she says no........best case lets try it..... Originally Posted by sanantonioman37

They are good too! Take it from me, she is one NAUGHTY girl.

In the hobby you can just ask and usually you will not get any adverse reaction. If the lady does not do what you want she will just tell you "no" and you can move on. Now in a non-hobby relationship, i think asking and/or discussing what you want to do might work, you'd be surprised as to what some girls have already done, which you may think is taboo. Also if she does not do it, she may be ok to try it at least once.

Shut your mouth One lol...

SA man, the last time I started a thread, it kind of turned into "The days of our ECCIE". so maybe I should just stick to replies.

My fetishes are in the lines of roleplay, multi-persons play, i love my footsies, and many many others that I would blush for the next week to mention in a public forum.

You should start a new thread about some of these socially taboo fetishes you love..... Originally Posted by sanantonioman37

I could get in so much trouble with that one.....

When talking to a gf or wife, I agree with funny boy, the way to go is a "dream". IE: "Honey I had the craziest dream last night: You were naked hanging from the ceiling fan with a flashlight in your tooshie" LMAO Or whatever your fantasy is. Originally Posted by Naughty_Jezabelle

Just when I thought I had heard everything...

Something else comes along...

Thanks Jez, my sides will be hurting for a week.

You and I need to meet. Really!

You all may be interested in this forum located on this site.

[ame="http://www.eccie.net/forumdisplay.php?f=792"]Another Realm - ECCIE - Your source for escort reviews[/ame]

You and I need to meet. Really! Originally Posted by Mokoa

LOL!! That sounds great to me!! But you do need to know that I don't have any flash lights, you freaky boy you! But there is a ceiling fan handy.
I just want to be upfront lol jk

You all may be interested in this forum located on this site.

Another Realm - ECCIE - Your source for escort reviews
Originally Posted by Mokoa

Whomp! There it is!

IMHO---I think your needs and desires...if it isn't on the menu advertised ...should be discussed before you make an appointment....that way there is no reason to feel rejected if you ask for something that isn't offered....and no reason for something to get in the way of the session.....communication....