It depends on where I find them. If I find them on P411 I do a light screening to make sure they are compatible . On here or anywhere else I check references and also ask the girls about their experience with the man I question. The ladies are actually pretty fort right about information. I have not seen a couple of people due to references and it has saved me a lot of headaches where other seem to have them . Just do what feels comfortable to you and make you feel at ease