problem with dating sites is women are so outnumbered, especially the free sites like OKcupid.. my X i met on there and she showed me her inbox and she was getting 20+ messages a day from guys who didn't even fit what she was looking for.. .. the only reason i even met her was she messaged me first, otherwise i would of never found her
women complain that they get too many emails, and men complain that they don't even get their emails read. i have found that you have to differentiate yourself from other guys, have top notch pics and have a catchy profile and you will get plenty of responses.. but if you don't put in any effort in marketing yourself you aren't gonna get anything. if you are a fat old guy who makes 50K a year then there is about a million other guys just like you on there so good luck getting any hits.
what i would do is go on there and study the ratio of men to women in your particular age group that you are seeking and that women are seeking that you are interested in. if its 2 to 1 then that is a fair ratio of men to women. if its 8 to 1 like many of these free sites then good luck you will need it .. if you live in a rural area a site like match you aren't gonna have action, remember a site like that BOTH parties must be paid subscribers to communicate. you can shoot off 100 emails but if none of them are paying members they won't be able to read it at all. on the flipside OKcupid its free to email anyone you want so the women are getting bomarded with dozens of messages a day
Originally Posted by joesmo888
Well-said. My observations are pretty much the same. I met my SO when all this online dating was in it's infancy. Back then everything was free but the numbers of people were much smaller. Nowadays, I think if you want to score off a dating site, you need to pay to be a member. Also, do not pay to be a member of AFF or any sites that market themselves as sites for sex. Paying for those sites is a waste b/c girls do NOT pay to join hookup sites. Only guys will pay. The only exceptions to this rule would be Sugarbaby sites b/c there are a decent amount of girls who will join those and usually don't have to pay.