Asking about the Donation

If the Donation is on the website the reviews the showcase and the ladies p411 ...Please do not ask!!!

I was asked today after screening was done and appointment set keep in mind they asked" how much would the donation be for me" I let then know I was uncomfortable because of that question and decided not to visit with Him.



Just a reminder some things shouldn't be asked if on every website it is the same

Safire Sweet
LazurusLong's Avatar
Safire,

The issue is that a LOT of women post different prices on several sites.

Some have x on backpage, some have Y on P411 and some have yet another on their website. And yet another on their showcase and even other prices in the reviews.
netman's Avatar
Safire,

The issue is that a LOT of women post different prices on several sites.

Some have x on backpage, some have Y on P411 and some have yet another on their website. And yet another on their showcase and even other prices in the reviews. Originally Posted by LazurusLong
+1,000,000

And don't forget that we are men so we always think with the wrong head.

netman
I understand that gentlemen and thank you for responding , however my Donation is the same everywhere (expect TER I have contacted staff but they will not change it ,,It is my rate from 2008 on the profile)with all the "things" going around it spook me!


****He contacted though PM on here

Thank you again for responding
Safire Sweet
If there is any question in my mind about the fee, I ask. I usually ask in a very discreet way, but I want us both to enter into the meeting with the same expectations. Between old ads, reviews, etc, confusion can arise. If it is constant in all places, I don't ask.
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Safire,

The issue is that a LOT of women post different prices on several sites.

Some have x on backpage, some have Y on P411 and some have yet another on their website. And yet another on their showcase and even other prices in the reviews. Originally Posted by LazurusLong

This is true of some of the ladies.

But when I'm interested in seeing a lady that I have not visited with before. I try to read all the sites that I find where she has posted. If and when I find discrepancies in donations or any other information. I'll contact her and ask if all the information in a particular site is correct and current. She then can check that site and let me know. That eliminates any questions that I may have before completing a visit arrangement for me.
Safire i am seeing more and more providers offering discounts or specials outside of their posted rates. Is it a turn off for you is a guy asks if your running a special or discount ?
oglfp12's Avatar
If and when I find discrepancies in donations or any other information. I'll contact her and ask if all the information in a particular site is correct and current. Originally Posted by Stang1965
That's a good solution. In the past, when I have noted discrepancies, I have just gone with the donation on the site that I contact her through--always P411 for me.
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anytime someone ask me something that I am just uncomfortable answering I simply just refer them back to my site....simple as pie!
If the Donation is on the website the reviews the showcase and the ladies p411 ...Please do not ask!!!

I was asked today after screening was done and appointment set keep in mind they asked" how much would the donation be for me" I let then know I was uncomfortable because of that question and decided not to visit with Him.



Just a reminder some things shouldn't be asked if on every website it is the same

Safire Sweet Originally Posted by safire_sweet
+1 to that! Thank you for the post Safire. I recently had a situation in which someone waited until getting BCD to "clarify things" by flat out asking X time = rate X or is X rate for X time ok instead. He seemed very confused and frustrated that this was not a subject I would speak on. To which he added a question of "this is GFE right?" I was so uncomfortable that I ended up suggesting we plan for another day. This way he might have time to be a bit more prepared to see me.
Safire i am seeing more and more providers offering discounts or specials outside of their posted rates. Is it a turn off for you is a guy asks if your running a special or discount ? Originally Posted by Thatdude
Wasn't this already discussed in like two other threads?

Just curious. (and I think you may have replied something about lower quality experience when this type of thing occurs....I might have handles mixed up though.)

someone waited until getting BCD to "clarify things" Originally Posted by Elysa Scott


Guys, never ever wait until the last possible moment to "clarify things". That's absolutely retarded!

If you can't complete your homework before you arrive, do you really expect the lady to be comfortable answering the questions as you're standing in her space? Make sure everything is clear in advance.

It's extremely aggravating and unnerving when someone is either uninformed or trying to cause some kind of trouble. Be very careful. It's probably best to suggest rescheduling or at the very least, show them the door.

No one in their right mind will have a discussion where money and sex are in mentioned in the same sentences, especially during BCD.
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If I have a question about a providers rates I usually ask. So far it has not been a problem but, I'm not crass and try to be as polite as possible. Ex: I don't see a dinner date rate on your website. Can you please let me know what it would be? This is done before booking an appointment time and not as we're getting naked.

If it's not listed it's something that you shouldn't have a problem with answering. If it is the same everywhere, and all your sites are uniform as Safire said then you shouldn't have to ask.
?

I do not know why.

Maybe its their way of asking for a discount or pushing for a special.

Why contact a lady if you have to ask how much?

Granted some ladies have different prices on different sites

$250 bp
$250 Website
$300 P411

Did you find her on A, B, or C. Whichever one, pay her that fee. If she complains well, she should have had all her rates the same. Either way the information is put out there.
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Safire i am seeing more and more providers offering discounts or specials outside of their posted rates. Is it a turn off for you is a guy asks if your running a special or discount ? Originally Posted by Thatdude
I would think that asking if they are running a discount would be a bit insulting, or possibly insulting. If they were running a special, it'd be posted somewhere. Asking the question says that the guy is either too lazy to go look it up, or trying to haggle. Just my opinion.

The only time I've ever asked about rate is when they don't have a 90min rate listed and their 2 hour rate is not 2X their 1 hour rate. This seems like a reasonable scenario to ask ahead of time.

And yes, omg, if a guy talks about money just before (or during) BCD time you should kick him in the nuts and then out the door. Epic fail. LE concern, total turn off, etc.