Now I'll be honest here and admit I don't feel compelled to do this on a regular basis, so when I do meet someone that makes me feel all mushy and emotional after our date, I have to send them a cute lil thank you note, it's the least I can do.
So my question for you I guess is...how do you like to be thanked as in written, what words do you like to hear.... I think I'm a pretty decent writer except when I'm feeling over emotional, then all I can say or write is that's great, you're fantastic, this is lovely, pretty limited vocabulary lol!
How do you thank someone for blowing your mind for giving you one of the best dates of your hobby life? How do you express that? As an Aries, we're just not comfortable in expressing the full depth of our feelings, even though we feel deeply. It's hard
I wish we as providers could write the gentlemen reviews!
Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina
You've expressed the dilemma quite well. Writing a thank you note that contains genuine feelings of thanks and appreciation but does not cross the line to become emotionally obvious is very, very difficult, perhaps even impossible. The result is a string of cliches that reads like a string of cliches. The result is a poor note that fulfills the requirements of good manners but doesn't advance the cause of a better relationship.
Part of the problem may be is that you (and others) may not really know what they want to express. Do you really want to him to know that you've experience real emotion (yes, infatuation is an emotion, albeit shallow and fleeting) from what is supposed to be an emotionally cool but sexually hot endeavor? Do you want to subtly intrigue him and inflame his ego so he comes back quickly; thereby satisfying your needs, but maybe creating an attachment that will create problems when your ardor fades?. Of course, you realize that the opposite can occur: you could frighten him and lose him as customer.
I've experienced this when a very erudite provider wrote a thank you note that I thought was a bit too much but she hid her feelings enough in her elegant and funny prose that I forgot about it and saw her a second time. But the second session still had an emotional content that I am not inclined to deal with and I doubt that I will see her again.
But the other shoe was on my foot lately. A current favorite told me she is moving in a few months. I thought my emotions were limited to a fondness for her, but the news jolted me far more than I expected. I was going to send her an email expressing my dismay, but I decided not to do so. When she goes, I'll send a note of cliches and leave it at that. This is what happens in our ambiguous demimonde.