Turn out the lights........

I'm in my 50s, and old faithful doesn't respond quite as readily as it used to. More and more lately, I've had sessions booked and when the lady shows up (or I go there) I'm just flat out not in the mood.

I've never been big on the FS stuff to begin with. I think I just need eye candy with a talkative, dirty mouth who can get inside my head while I finish myself off, with maybe some DATY tossed in if I'm so inclined.

I've fulfilled fantasies, fetishes and all kinds of stuff in this hobby but I'm wondering if my day has come and gone.

Sometimes I think I'm just better off doing what I did when I was 15.

Any other older fellers feeling the same?

Sorry if this is TMI about my current state of mind.

Get a blood test & check your testosterone levels - betting they are low. You can get replacement therapy which will more than solve your issues - or so I've been told...

Shortly before ASPD folded I thought I was done too, and I used to be active, very active. My interest was gone (along with my portfolio). I joined this board, but frankly had no desire to see anyone. Along the lines with what you mention, the occasional Pornhub.com and 10 minutes alone were enough.

Now a couple of years later, I finally got around to "that physical" and found out about the Low-T. After only a couple of weeks of treatment and exercise, the motivation is unquestionably rising. I even just reached out to try setting up my first new meeting, but alas, am learning that I have to start from scratch as I don't have any referrals that would even remember me if they are still around!

So we feel ya, whether anyone else will admit it or not. It can sneak up out of nowhere and you're on the don't give a rats bus before you know it.

I'm glad I got the checkup.

Get a blood test & check your testosterone levels - betting they are low. You can get replacement therapy which will more than solve your issues - or so I've been told... Originally Posted by Mr Bam Bam

DONT DO IT, MAN!! Yes, it works wonders on your sex drive and even your mental clarity. You will have the libido of an 18 yr old. But, you will have to take it forever and ever, your body will stop producing it on its own and now you have to give yourself a shot in the ass every week. Forever. And when you get closer to the day of the week to shoot yourself up, you will start acting like a woman with the worst case of PMS. Crying, mood swings, irritability, all around insanity. And if you give yourself too much (which many guys start doing because it feels so damn good to get your mojo back) you become a raging, angry lunatic. But you'll fuck like a rabbit!

I spent two looooooooong years with a man who took it as a form of hormone replacement therapy...trust me, it's not as wonderful as everyone says. Maybe they have some milder version of T therapy or something, I dunno..that was just what I observed.

well, if we all had a Dannie at home, we'd never the "assist"

I agree with Dannie (she is sooooo smart!!!) T therapy should be an absolute last resort but if you need to go that route, like anything, do so in moderation. You'd hate to want to fuck like a rabbit only to find out the other rabbits won't go near you because your a raging maniac. I, too, am at an age where I cannot be sure I will be able to perform as I would like each and every time I want. I'm not good at walking up to a door, getting a peck on the cheek and then head for the bed. As a woman friend of mine in the hobby said I'm all about the experience...dinner, conversation, foreplay THEN we fuck like rabbits!!! Good luck to you man and may the "mojo" be with you

Barney, you don't mention if you have tried any of the Big-3 (pills). When it first starts letting you down, they can make a huge difference. When they quit working, there are other methods that make some queasy - but they work too.

A lot of the result depends on your state of mind. That is why a friendly, non mechanical lady whose company you enjoy works when others don't - even if they are younger, slimmer, hotter, whatever.

Many of us have completed sessions with the same number on the swim team we started with. That doesn't mean we didn't enjoy the company or good feelings trying to get there.

Before you resort to your 15 year old inner self ask your regular doctor. If that doesn't work, see a urologist.

Good Luck. There is hope.

Try an energy drink? Unless you have a heart condition, of course...

I find that the caffeine buzz does get me pumped up and awful chatty for a couple of hours...

There is a testosterone replacement that you don't have to inject, you apply it topically once daily so you get a nice even level and no spikes or "man PMS." Of course the first thing you would need to do is get a check up and have the doc go over all of your hormone levels, it's prescription only and it cost more than the shots, but it flys off the shelves like hot-cakes so there must be something to it. Also there is an implant (think back to the old norplant birth control implants that used to be so popular with the ladies) that the doc can put in just under your skin and that one is time released for six months or a year (can't remember which, if its 6 mos or a year).

Now if testosterone levels are not the problem, maybe you just need a break. Maybe your blood pressure meds need tweaked (or if you are not on BP meds maybe that needs checked out too). All sorts of stuff could be the culprit, from that you just plain need a break to that you need to get your sugar and cholesterol checked.

If you haven't tried the little blue pill ask your doc about those as well, if all else looks good.

Most of all keep your chin up and know that we hobby-love ya!

Bottom line, talk to your doctor. If he suggests that your testosterone is low, discuss these concerns with him (or her). It could also be blood pressure, diabetes, depression, or a myriad of other medical issues. At our age, getting a full check up is always a good idea anyway.

And 1 more suggestion....

WHEN you go to your Doc, get your Thyroid checked. Your thyroid controls damn near everything...from blood pressure, metabolism, to how other hormones are released.

All the above suggestions are great. Your symptoms could be from any one of these and a simple blood test can tell a lot. Ask your Doc about a T-7 test, checks testosterone and thyroid. Synthroid is a helluva lot easier to take, for you and others.

P.S. The testosterone gel sucks, sticky and doesn't absorb very fast. And you can't use it as lube! Seriously, it didn't work for me. But think about getting your Thyroid checked, you'd be surprised how much it does...

Alright, my PSA for the year....

We all, men and women, should get your thyroid checked. It is not at all uncommon for it to slow down as we get older. Also, a slower acting thyroid increases the odds of thyroid cancer. A monumental pain in the ass...of which I do know about first hand. Age is not a factor, my first bout was at 33, not much is known still as far as cause and cure...but it may be one of the few you can live with.

Tush - you are always the voice of reason.


But I think a dirty trash talkin ho is always a good way to go.

Tush - you are always the voice of reason.


But I think a dirty trash talkin ho is always a good way to go. Originally Posted by tntangie

Good to see you back, my dear!

Good to see you back, my dear! Originally Posted by TexTushHog

Thank you!

Love the fancy dressed avatar! He's handsome, like his owner!