how to convince a girl to be my sugar baby

So I have struck up a friendship with a younger girl who is having financial difficulties. I first corresponded with her regarding a benefactor type relationship on an online website. Over the course of the last few weeks, we have become friendly but she is hesitent to proceed with the beneefactor relationship. I have offered to assist her financially but I believe that although we have connected as friends, she is not attracted to me physically. Any suggestion on what I can do to make her less hesitant and push her to give this a go?

So I have struck up a friendship with a younger girl who is having financial difficulties. I first corresponded with her regarding a benefactor type relationship on an online website. Over the course of the last few weeks, we have become friendly but she is hesitent to proceed with the beneefactor relationship. I have offered to assist her financially but I believe that although we have connected as friends, she is not attracted to me physically. Any suggestion on what I can do to make her less hesitant and push her to give this a go? Originally Posted by davs8

As far as expectations, does she fully acknowledge that you are seeking companionship and fun and compensating her for her time for your hard-earned money? As a businesswoman, there is one former client who I care for and spend my time with, but in light of recent events, I might begin to charge him for time since I feel weird and not appreciated. For me, I am an equal opportunity provider. If you compensate me for my time, I am fully yours as long as you are respectful, courteous and sweet. If she is having financial difficulties, the hobby will be great for her to make the salary of a doctor or lawyer, if she markets herself accordingly.

I will be your sugar baby!
I would love to find a well to do business man that would take me on as a sugar baby...take me on trips with him...it would be so much fun!

It sounds like you have been hitting on a vanilla girl. You can't make business deals with girls like that. You can either forget it, move on, and find another girl who is in the industry, or you can do what my hubby does with our babysitter...he is always throwing money at her when she is needing it...she doesn't even have to ask, he just hands her 100's all the time...but at the same time she understands he finds her very sexually appealing, and he has been building a repore with her. He is now to the heavy petting stage with her, and she admits she wants more...just a matter of time. But, he's not spending all of this time and money for just some sexual companionship, he's doing it for the 'challange'
Be careful if you are doing it just for the challange...it could end up costing you a lot of time and effort for nothing!

Since you asked.
If I were you I wouldn't spend any significant $ until she has proven not to be a scam.
Why the h*** would you want a sugar baby you are not attracted to?

I find it hard to believe that it would be that difficult to find a Sugar Baby~every provider I know whould love to have someone like you!

Without knowing the details or either individual in question, all any of us can do is speculate. One interpretation: it sounds like she's waiting to see if you're serious about being a financial benefactor. Smart girl. However, another interpretation: it sounds like you and she may have conflicting expectations about what a SD/SB relationship entails. You want a physical relationship/friendship in return for financial support, she may just want the friendship and financial support. I think the best way to proceed is to sit down and have a discussion about mutual expectations and needs, and be prepared to part amicably if they don't align.

Carrie, any chance I could convice You to be My Sugarbaby?

Since you asked.
If I were you I wouldn't spend any significant $ until she has proven not to be a scam.
Why the h*** would you want a sugar baby you are not attracted to? Originally Posted by ric

He is attracted to her, she's the one not interested.

Not all women can disconnect and say "it's just sex". What are her attitudes towards sex in general?
Whatever you do, dont get played!
Lay off the sex angle, help her out a bit more, then tell her you cant help her anymore, let her know you found someone amenable to what you are looking for and see how she responds.
You are giving something, then taking it away. It might make her miss it more and do some thinnking. You are also letting her know that other option exist for you and she needs to get on that ship before it sails.
If that does not work, sail on and quit being a charity, you dont owe her continued support just because you were generous once before.

Search the site ... there was a long and very interest post' about SD/SB; I read a few weeks ago, but can't remember where the thread was. It had a lot of insights as well as recommended websites.

I first corresponded with her regarding a benefactor type relationship on an online website. ... she is hesitent to proceed with the beneefactor relationship. Originally Posted by davs8

I believe she is playing you. If you two had met in real life or on another type of site, then I could believe the "hesitant" scenario.

In fact, when I first read the titile I thought you were targeting someone from real life (neighbor, co-worker, etc), and was preparing an answer along the lines of "Not everyone is cut out for this type of arrangement." But she was advertising on a Sugar Baby site.

Ask her (if you haven't already) what she envisions the Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy relationship being?

+1. Exactly my thoughts.

I've had several persons ask to be my Sugar Daddy. It never works, because they want me to quit doing this, and promise me everything I want. They say they will pay my bills, take me shopping, and so on. However, when they ask how much a month would cost, all bills paid, they say it's too much. Why do I have to accept less from you (gentleman in general) than I usually receive monthly? I wouldn't mind having a Sugar Daddy, however, I need to keep working, and live my normal life. They all tell me that they want me to quit doing this, and I wouldn't be allowed to see anyone else. I don't like being dependent on anyone. I never have been. I don't feel that I deserve it, unless I'm working, and taking care of myself, however that may be. Obviously, you being my Sugar Daddy, would be able to see me whenever. At the same time, I would need you to respect me, and if I have prior commitents before you show up last minute, I would not cancel. Same as I wouldn't cancel with you, if someone else called last minute.

I did 3 plus years with a SugarBaby-Sugardaddy arrangement with a former provider from Dallas whom was ready to leave the game....it was fun and rewarding but very demanding and realistic a hassle in many aspects...would I do again, hell yeah, but it has to be the right person.

I've had several persons ask to be my Sugar Daddy. It never works, because they want me to quit doing this, and promise me everything I want. They say they will pay my bills, take me shopping, and so on. However, when they ask how much a month would cost, all bills paid, they say it's too much. Why do I have to accept less from you (gentleman in general) than I usually receive monthly? I wouldn't mind having a Sugar Daddy, however, I need to keep working, and live my normal life. They all tell me that they want me to quit doing this, and I wouldn't be allowed to see anyone else. I don't like being dependent on anyone. I never have been. I don't feel that I deserve it, unless I'm working, and taking care of myself, however that may be. Obviously, you being my Sugar Daddy, would be able to see me whenever. At the same time, I would need you to respect me, and if I have prior commitents before you show up last minute, I would not cancel. Same as I wouldn't cancel with you, if someone else called last minute. Originally Posted by Sweet Infiniti

Understand exactly where you are coming from, you seem very independent and comfortable with you present game, really don't see that the SD-SB would work for you until you are ready, obiviously you are not at the present....and that is "Cool"

I believe she is playing you. Originally Posted by HoneyRose

Agree, I recently met a young college girl on the Sugardaddieforme.com site, who is attending TAMU which is really a very conservation university by normal standards, being a young lady out of DFW I thought there might be a chance of this working.

We meet and spent time together and begun to be friends, still are, just as time went by it never processed to BCD time and she didn't feel comfortable with the P4P / SD-SB ordeal. In this case I really believe that she was having troubles with having sex with someone that she was not in a relationship with. Then again she could have been playing me, I am ok with that presently, it was a risk factor that I wanted to take.

Since that time when playing the SD-SB I have adopted the rule of "Reward for Good Behavior" and "Not to reward for Bad Behavior". I came across this rule from a post here on ECCIE.

There is a very read here: [ame="http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=9404"]Shyster John's "So you think you want a sugar baby? - ECCIE - Your source for escort reviews[/ame]


How to convince a girl to be your sugar baby? I don't think there is a simple answer, it's all based on the persons involved, the time period, and the surroundings. What works today for one person will not work tomorrow for the same person.

Good luck, but I would suggest to move on, when I heard the word "NO" I respect that decision, there is another one around the corner that will say "Yes", and as a believer in Karma, there is usually a reason why.

It sounds like you have been hitting on a vanilla girl. Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

"Vanilla Girl"

What an adjective...love that!