Why are so many providers scared of disabilities?

I am 41 years old and suffer from severe cerebral palsy and have been in a wheelchair for most of my adult life. Since it's hard to find a woman that doesn't mind being in a relationship with a man in a chair, I have had to take up the hobby. I have found that 99% of providers are scared of my wheelchair. I will invite them over, have the donation ready, and the second they see me open the door and in my wheelchair they always remember they forgot something in their car and then speed off. Is this common practice with providers? Can any of you gents suggest one that is more open-minded and caring?

TF, i think people in general who are not around someone with disabilities are scared... simply fear of the unknown, that's not uncommon for all of us,

from your post it sounds like you might not be letting the provider know up front that you're in a wheelchair, I would think that would be something that if stated in your texting back and forth that you could eliminate the situation, I often give some description of myself if I've never met a provider before, I think if you are stating that, then you are going to have far greater success and eliminate the frustration for yourself and the embarrassment for the provider...

Hey TF, I would tend to agree with Johnsson. Most of the providers that I’ve been fortunate enough to meet have been very sweet, but I think that laying all the cards out on the table before the initial meetup would be a very good idea.

Hi hun ! I see men of all types , Many with a disability like yourself . Don't feel discouraged , I find providers are some of the the most accepting
People . I do agree with above posts . Honesty is best policy and will save u many headaches .


Xxxo Bliss

I see all guys as kings...no predujice here except for arrogant assholes! lol

i have several clients w disabilities.. two are wheelchair bound,one has a colostomy bag.

there are many ways to have fun in those situations!

I would never have a problem with Dissabilities. My job is to genuinely make you feel loved and accepted. Don’t let it get you down. ((HUGS))

I would never have a problem with Dissabilities. My job is to genuinely make you feel loved and accepted. Don’t let it get you down. ((HUGS)) Originally Posted by MJewel

So are you going to see him???

So are you going to see him??? Originally Posted by CatMan4u

That's awkward, has he asked to see her??? he has to want to see her, afford her, make the date, etc...

She has to be in town, I think the op is getting the info he needs to make the choices he wants...

Let's just put this down for a rhetorical question...

The sought after response would have been for macey jewel or any lady who would see disabled man to SIMPLY SAY I WOULD IF ASKED
I didn't or want to put anyone on the spot or make anyone feel awkward.
Even this response isn't intended to affend anyone
The soul purpose was to make a attempt to help this guy

Just to be clear I am NOT picking on Macey Jewel she just was one I quoted
I have no grip or anything against her
So is that clear and understood

it brings up a good point for the hobby, though.
Upfront, clear communication from the start pays off BIG with encounters. It really helps if you, as the buyer, know what it is YOU want and define your expectations for yourself and also the provider. That way you're not left forcing some stranger to read your mind and figure everything about you in a handful of minutes.



You don't have to provide a roadmap, but it is very helpful if you understand the rationale behind what you're seeking. That way you'll know if that provider is even capable of satisfying you. I found preferred411 to be a great way to kick things off on the right foot because it gives them a good idea of what you're about and you're probably not a scumbag.

it brings up a good point for the hobby, though.
Upfront, clear communication from the start pays off BIG with encounters. It really helps if you, as the buyer, know what it is YOU want and define your expectations for yourself and also the provider. That way you're not left forcing some stranger to read your mind and figure everything about you in a handful of minutes.



You don't have to provide a roadmap, but it is very helpful if you understand the rationale behind what you're seeking. That way you'll know if that provider is even capable of satisfying you. I found preferred411 to be a great way to kick things off on the right foot because it gives them a good idea of what you're about and you're probably not a scumbag. Originally Posted by FatCity

Damn straight...thx for the post

For me, the expectations for myself with a provider are to make sure 1) they confident in their safety with me 2) they are assured of being rewarded ($$) and 3) they feel appreciated and valued. I can't guarantee they will walk bowlegged for a week or fall in love with me, but I can make sure those three things are met so they can go home feeling good about going out on this call.



MY expectations are quite low. I just want a girl to Zig Ziglar me.... pretty fucking simple. Engage me physically, act like they are interested in me and use my name once in a while (so I don't feel like just some NPC to them). If you can make me FEEL like a king, I can most assuredly have a great time with you and most likely want to see you AGAIN. If you can't do that, you're pretty fucking boring and I can jerk myself off rather than deal with a self-absorbed child. These clearly defined metrics really helps identify if its going to work or not. If a provider sucks at communication, scheduling, acts disinterested..... that just isn't going to work FOR ME. For someone else, who just needs a fuck cushion, it could be great, but that isn't what I'm after (most of the time). So rather than end up with buyer's remorse and being disappointed with the date, you have thresholds that tell you if this thing has a chance.

I have ED and I make it a point to let the provider know that I do take a shot for it instead of the blue pill. I always ask in advance if they mind me excusing myself to the restroom after I arrive because if I take it too soon before my drive to the incall, I run the risk of it wearing off too soon. They seem to appreciate letting them know and I’m sure some are ambivalent about it, but they are always gracious and are happy to accommodate. Like Johnsson said, full disclosure up front is best and is appreciated. As you can see many, and I would submit the majority, are perfectly fine with it and unfazed by disabilities. Over 50% of their clients are not spring chickens and the older we get, the more shit breaks down. I would guess that there are some that need to mentally prepare themselves for it so that they can provide the best experience for you.
Most of the ladies I’ve met are compassionate human beings and I think as long as you disclose your condition, they won’t mind. Have you ever shown up to a call and found that the provider wasn’t what you were expecting? Maybe you were looking for a cute spinner but because she took pics from misleading angles and maybe the pics are 7 years old, she has a markedly different appearance than you expected? That. You would likely have been ok with it had you known. I am known for my eclectic taste in providers. Some days I crave a spinner with an amazing body and other days I may be craving a phat ass lady to bump uglies with. If my expectations have been set with something different than what shows up, I’m at least slightly disappointed either way. As long as you let them know about your disability, and as long as you are clean, have fresh breath, smell good, and are a gentleman, you will be taken care of. For those that still won’t go for it, screw them. There are plenty of women that will.

Alright Turd, where did you go? you started this conversation and it's a good one, help us out,

Expectations, plan and simple, I've been blown away and sorely disappointed, communication, something we think we have till we realize we don't...