How did the financial arrangement change when you went from provider to a SD/SB?
I was a regular with a girl and we clicked quite well, and I wanted to ask for extended dates with a guaranteed allowance. But did not know how to broach the subject. I eventually lost contact with her :-(
Originally Posted by Seeker
We went from a per appointment donation to a monthly allowance. In addition to the ,monthly allowance, I provide some frequent, nice gifts (clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc.), which is my choice and not because she asks for anything (which she doesn't). She has actually asked me to slow down on the gifts because she was feeling a little guilty. As in any relationship, the critical factor was communication. We just clicked very quickly and I desired to see her more frequently, so I broached the subject during one of our conversations. She agreed quickly and we worked out the financial arrangement in about five minutes. In my opinion, in order for something like this to be successful, you must desire more than just BCD time with the lady, and truly enjoy her company outside the bedroom. We do all kind of things together, including dinners, shopping, theatre and the symphony. We are leaving in a few days for a trip to a 5 star resort outside the country to celebrate her birthday. I just enjoy being with an intelligent, caring woman who has a great sense of humor and is a wonderful conversationalist. Of course, her BCD skills are amazing, but probably only constitute perhaps 20% of our time together. You must truly desire to make her life better, and she yours. My lady has told me on multiple occasions that her life is so much better since we met, and I assure you that my life in incredibly richer with her in it. You must also be realistic about the arrangement, what it is and what it is not. In my situation, neither of us has any desire for any commitment of any sort.....living together, marriage or anything similar. We enjoy each other for now and we both know that it will most likely end someday. When that day comes, and I sincerely hope it's quite a bit down the road, we should both be able to look back on our time together fondly and with no regrets. Good luck to you.......hope you find what you are looking for!!!