Wisdom on sexwork from Rentboy arrests
“These are people who needed companionship, whether it be just a hug, naked lying in bed, or sex.”
Legalizing Sex Work: A Rentboy.com escort on why legalization matters. The LGBT community is slowly finding its voice when it comes to decriminalizing the world's oldest profession.
The 33-year-old after just doing massage says:
“My clients kept asking for more, so I thought ‘Why not get paid for it?'” he says. Two months later, Kinkand joined Rentboy.com as a masseur, touting not only his technical skills but offering companionship and emotional support.
“I made more with my first client in four hours than I had in the last two months combined.” This second client offered him $1,000 and a prepaid plane ticket. Kinkand slowly made other connections.
“It was supposed to be overnight, and I ended up staying three weeks. I was seeing six to eight people a night,” he says. “I got to see the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. I was like a big kid. It was amazing. I saw four clients on Thanksgiving Day, too.”
Kinkand charged an hourly rate of $200, with $1,000 for an overnight or if he had to travel to another city. With the money he made, he began paying down his massive debts.
“It was the first time in my life I felt happy, because I don’t look at myself as a sex worker, I looked at myself as more of a therapist,” Kinkand says. “These are people who needed companionship, whether it be just a hug, naked lying in bed, or sex.”
“In my less than one year career with Rentboy, I saw everything imaginable,” Kinkand says. “I had a straight guy hire me because he wanted somebody to hang out with. I’ve had women hire me to have sex with them. I’ve had women hire me to have sex with their husbands. It’s a little bit of everything.”
All of that came to an end when agents from the Department of Homeland Security raided the headquarters of Rentboy on Aug. 25, arresting the company’s CEO and six other high-level staffers. As soon as he heard of the raid, Kinkand suspended his profile, worried about repercussions for having advertised on the site. Later that day, the site was shut down by federal authorities.
“I was starting to get ahead on rent, paying off debt,” he says. “I wasn’t worried about housing. I was enjoying my life. Now, I’m back to the place where I’m worried and working 60 hours a week minimum just to pay the bills.”
The Rentboy raid sparked a conversation among LGBT organizations who noted that similar, heterosexual-geared sites advertising escort services did not meet similar fates, and decried the use of taxpayer dollars to crack down on sex workers ahead of other, more pressing priorities.
But while the reaction of the sex worker community to the raid drew comparisons to the Stonewall Riots, the larger issue of sex work was already being raised by concerned national and international groups.
Amnesty International recently recommended decriminalizing sex work and prostitution in order to protect the human rights of sex workers. Meanwhile, a few days prior to the raid, four major LGBT rights organizations — Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders, the National Center for Lesbian Rights, the Transgender Law Center, and the National Center for Transgender Equality — issued statements pushing for the decriminalization of sex work.
“We very much agree with the Amnesty International statement that [decriminalization] would lead to safer conditions for people doing sex work, that they would be able to do it in the open and not be driven into more dangerous situations, particularly in underground or more ‘hidden’ street work that does make people more vulnerable,” says Cathy Sakimura, deputy director at the National Center for Lesbian Rights.
The reason why so many LGBT and human rights organizations support decriminalization is because LGBT people — and LGBT youth in particular — are heavily represented among the sex worker population.
“Targeting sex work is an indirect way of targeting the LGBT community without calling it outright discrimination,” she says. “That’s how a lot of discrimination happens in this country. We won’t say we’re directly homophobic or transphobic, but we’ll target the work, we’ll target the living of people in these communities. And by attacking sex workers, we’re attacking a huge segment of the LGBT community without having to say we’re homophobic or transphobic.”
“Unfortunately, a lot of social services agencies will tell you that the only way to access resources, the only way to ‘get better’ — this is their language — or to get more money, or be stable, or to be healthy is to leave the industry,” she says. “And that’s really unfortunate. People take a ‘savior complex’ interest in the issue. A lot of people want to help sex workers, but only if they want to leave the trade. That’s not economically feasible for a lot of people, and for some, it’s a choice that they stand by.”
“Why can’t I just give you $400, have sex with you, and that could help you with your life. If they’re willing and consenting, what’s the difference?”
Becky, a 24-year-old transgender woman believes regulating the sex industry or having a place where sex workers could congregate without disturbing the neighbors would provide more protection and remove some of the stigma surrounding sex work.
For Kinkand, the issue of legality regarding the world’s oldest profession is one that needs to be addressed.
“A lot of people’s biggest complaint about sex work is the fact that there are these women or children that are being trafficked into the country to do this,” says Kinkand. “But that’s all underground stuff. If it were to become legal, it would reduce that, because if I wanted to have sex with somebody and wanted to pay for it, instead of going to some underground brothel or to the street corner where these people are sick and have diseases or something, I can go to a reputable place and see a reputable person.
“It’s surprising how many people in this country are like, ‘Hey, you can do whatever you want behind closed doors,'” he concludes. “Well, what’s the difference with sex work? If I want to take you on a date, and I want to go to a nice meal and everything like that, and I drop $400 and then we have sex, why can’t I just give you $400, have sex with you, and that could help you with your life. If they’re willing and consenting, what’s the difference?”
Much more of article at https://www.metroweekly.com/2015/09/...ation-matters/