Relationships

Ok, so sex to me typically is a pretty intimate act. I'm fairly new to this, so far having met 4 different providers. I had a good time with all, but with two of them I felt and feel more (I have been scheduling longer dates to get to know the providers, not just BnG, etc). It's not that I'm in love with them; it's that I'm in love with the idea of who I think they are (outside the hobby). These are the types of girls I wish I could date.

The question is are there others (providers or clients) that feel this way at times? Have you developed a relationship outside of the profession in the past? I'm at the point in my life (41) where I really don't care about a girl's past; if we click and there can be monogamy, I'd be interested in more if the feelings are mutual. I know I'm being stupid (girls sell IOP), but does it happen?

The kind of experience I provide yes the line blurs sometimes either one of us can become overly attached, clingy, love-lorn, expect demand more .... Yes it's possible if both people are mature and open-minded. But you are also expecting monogamy, and keeping in mind a majority of women who are providers are accustomed and sometimes prefer to remain polyamorous Or if they are willing to or would like to be monogamous, you probably will still be expected to 'support' them. Now if you are man enough to do that great! Also keeping in mind relationships don't last forever so don't come back on here with a sad story of how you took care of a former provider and now she has left you for another man ...

Sigh ....

ALWAYS be prepared to walk away and never ever see her again.

It's a fine line to walk. You have to treat these women as both a human being AND nothing more then a warm, wet hole to cum in.

L41, this game is for fucking, not dating. Confusing the two is setting yourself up for heartbreak.

Relationships are tricky and hard work in the civi world. Now compound those elements/issues/problems several times and that would be a relationship in the hobby. The odds are not good for a long lasting relationship. There are a lot of wonderful women in the hobby. Most are very interesting and entertaining ladies. Butt unless both parties agree to the issues that both will have beforehand it would be wise to avoid anything more than being a friend. If you are thincking that a relationship with a provider will get you a sex machine ... you are wrong and need to stick with downloading porn. My thoughts may be tainted butt they are on the money.

I met up with a little sweetheart regularly for 10 months (at least once a week). I met her in a SC right here in Dallas. She was not into the hobby but a very sexual girl. Me being older and established (in shape and fit helped too) made her feel safe. She was very different from the norm and we both got pretty attached. Sometimes personalities just match up no matter the age difference. This was not just IOP (I know the difference). She knew what I needed and I knew what she needed but the real difference was we really liked each other personally. It was by far a fantastic experience. Although, I knew and she knew our relationship would never go outside our little escapes. I have an SO and she lived w/ her BF which is now her husband. We met 1 time after her marriage (she called me) and it was the best sexual experience of my life. It was her way of saying goodbye that afternoon and we've have had no contact since we parted.....I will never forget her but knew we would eventually say goodbye...Go for it if it's there but be mature enough to know it will end...................

Relationships are tricky and hard work in the civi world. Now compound those elements/issues/problems several times and that would be a relationship in the hobby. The odds are not good for a long lasting relationship. There are a lot of wonderful women in the hobby. Most are very interesting and entertaining ladies. Butt unless both parties agree to the issues that both will have beforehand it would be wise to avoid anything more than being a friend. If you are thincking that a relationship with a provider will get you a sex machine ... you are wrong and need to stick with downloading porn. My thoughts may be tainted butt they are on the money. Originally Posted by pyramider

Dead-nuts, Amen.

You sound like you're on the verge of "committing" to a Provider here. And anything we tell you will not change your mind. It seldom works out but it has. If it doesn't, keep in mind there are 700 more to try with.

Anything is possible,, winning the lottery is possible.. The odds are stacked against you, big time, if you plan on having a lasting relationship with a provider.. I have a provider I have been seeing for over 10 years.. She and I have a great relationship, professionally and non professionally.. She is a total Nymphomaniac.. Providers need a friend too.. Our relationship kind of just happened over years and years.. We have a lot in common.. She will be moving soon, I'll be sad, but not heartbroken, as I have an S/O..

Been there but never again......hahahaaa!

I have great relationships with the few providers I have spent time with. I consider all of them friends, and if circumstances allowed, I would not be afraid of what the future may hold.

ALWAYS be prepared to walk away and never ever see her again.

It's a fine line to walk. You have to treat these women as both a human being AND nothing more then a warm, wet hole to cum in. Originally Posted by Hercules

Possibly the best advice for the OP.

I have great relationships with the few providers I have spent time with. I consider all of them friends, and if circumstances allowed, I would not be afraid of what the future may hold. Originally Posted by Gentlemen Rendezvous

No this is the best "advice"

Looking 41, this is a pretty common syndrome. It happens usually around the hobby sophomore year but it can happen anytime. Some call it the "Pretty Woman" syndrome.
Best to step back and view things as they are, rather than what you think they can be.
Almost everything in the hobby is an illusion.

Agree with the comment about the sophmore year for the hobbyist.

L41, I just read your two provider reviews. Take care that you don't evolve into one of those "infatuated" stalker types who scares the beejez out of providers. They have enough challenges just dealing with us [[in general] already.

If a provider does develop a romantic interest of you beyond the hobby/service, I think she'd make it pretty damn clear. Until that happens and statistically it probably won't, don't read more into things [relationhips] than are really there.

You might want to go back to match/singles, etc dating services if you're looking for a permanent girlfriend/+more. I'm not trying to be mean, but I read your posts [especially your first one] and I think that may be ultimately what you're really wanting at this point in life?

If not, sorry, I wasn't trying to offend you.