Communication is KEY to sessions that hit it out of the ballpark...so men, (& ladies), SPEAK UP!!!

My very first session as a provider was just about one year ago, so I've been reflecting lately about what makes my most successful sessions so successful. The one thing that it comes down to IMO is communication.

For example...a gentleman came in and we started to chit chat. He said, "I'm as freaky as they get..." So I made sure to put it on full throttle with him. I didn't ask if he wanted DATY or DATO, I just plopped right down on his face and made him dine like it was his last meal. If we had never had that conversation ahead of time, what would the session have been like? Would I have been confident enough to assert my inner vixen with him? Probably not.

When a man tells me he's stressed out or sore from working so hard...out comes the massage oil and my pampering side.

Not every person wants to swim in my wetspot, so I am conscious NOT to drown him unless he tells me that he wants to be drowned) per his fantasy of being with a squirter).

At times, I feel guilty when I pull out my toys and go to town on myself, but its been a delightful surprise when reviews speak highly of how much they enjoyed the show. But that's why I ask ahead of time if they are interested in toys.

If a man's goal is to make me cum, I love to know that, because there is technique involved and I don't have any qualms with coaching a willing gentlemen through making me orgasm.

If you are a man that has to do all the work at home in bed and you want someone to take charge, tell me. Otherwise, my natural inclination is to be a an open-minded submissive playmate.

So bottom line, how many of my sessions could have been improved if either I or my friends had expressed their needs and desires more?

Men, if you've ever had a session not go the way you had hoped, ask yourself if you gave her the needed information to make your fantasies come to fruition.

Ladies, if feedback on your service is only so-so, was any of it due to not investing time in understanding your client's needs via questioning or exploratory conversation?

Gentlemen, if communication was a barrier, would you consider returning for a repeat visit if you felt a second chance would be a different story?

threAD

I totally agree Yummy, communication is the key to hit it out of the ball park. That's what separates the hobbyist/escorts from johns and street walking hookers. The hobby is all about communication i.e. reviews, alerts, forums, ect. Good communication at the beginning of a session is a must because there is an unwritten rule that you don't discuss activities before the session, so if you would like a session to go a particular way both parties should to convey that to the other so that most everything is understood. A provider might have a set menu, but communication will be your greatest asset if you want her to be YMMV with you and customize your session. Now I know some just like a smash and dash, but that takes communication too.

threAD Originally Posted by NorthWood

Marie......

I am on the list.....

Northwood get a job so you can experience some of the fun.......

Communication definitely helps! I have an "after you've been screened" form on my website that I encourage my clients to fill out and send in before our meeting. It gives them a chance to tell me any specific fantasies they may have, preferred lingerie, drink preference etc... Some guys don't use it, some do, but the bottom line is that the option is available for my clients.

Communication definitely helps! I have an "after you've been screened" form on my website that I encourage my clients to fill out and send in before our meeting. It gives them a chance to tell me any specific fantasies they may have, preferred lingerie, drink preference etc... Some guys don't use it, some do, but the bottom line is that the option is available for my clients. Originally Posted by Valerie

Which is why you do so well love :-)

BTW, Val...since we're gonna fuck next weekend...should I fill out the form??? I mean: PLEASE, CAN I "fill out your form?"

LOL...sorry, not-so-shameless plug!

Back on topic...bad Yummy, bad Bad BAD!!!

I would love, love to sign up for this ride...........

But..... I know for a fact, I would fall off at the first turn....

I am, looking forward to the pictures you ladies post.


I have to be there for one, or the other.... not both...... hehehee!

I wholeheartedly agree with your statements above. That I can learn from. I need to be more forward on what I want. The problem with me is I tend to shy away from explaining my requests or wants prior to the appointment. Are all providers open to these requests via email, phone, text when setting up an appointment? Or is it best to wait till you get through the door and after the first kiss?

Is this a hint?

It's a valid point. I think in my case it's still a matter of developing expectations/preferences and how to express them clearly. I do think some people just have trouble discussing sex in general (inside and outside of hobby).

I wholeheartedly agree with your statements above. That I can learn from. I need to be more forward on what I want. The problem with me is I tend to shy away from explaining my requests or wants prior to the appointment. Are all providers open to these requests via email, phone, text when setting up an appointment? Or is it best to wait till you get through the door and after the first kiss? Originally Posted by R4

That's why I like P411. There is a questionnaire and separate section were clients write anything they want about themselves. This often gives great insight into what the client is looking for. This combined with light conversation at the beginning of a session can be all that is needed to assess a client's needs.

Sometimes I will simply ask what a gentleman enjoyed about my reading my reviews. I also enjoy getting emails that respectfully express a gentleman's interests. I don't feel that text is the appropriate place to discuss activities. Furthermore I do not like to discuss activities prior to screening.

I totally agree communication is very important, if there is something you want me to do ask me, please tell me your wants and desires...I am here to please you..and if I'm doing something you don't like please let me know, I don't know if you don't tell me...

Which is why you do so well love :-)

BTW, Val...since we're gonna fuck next weekend...should I fill out the form??? I mean: PLEASE, CAN I "fill out your form?"

LOL...sorry, not-so-shameless plug!

Back on topic...bad Yummy, bad Bad BAD!!! Originally Posted by YummyMarie

Bwahaha...you could do, but I doubt we'll have any trouble in that department

Communication is the key to just about everything or every type of relstionship .

Communication is the key to just about everything or every type of relationship . Originally Posted by Nicky.Vixenn

I agree, however especially in the hobby world where a "service" is involved and "customer satisfaction". Some gents want to cut the chit chat, I however know it's crucial for a great session. Even if I have been with the gent a few times before, I still feel the need to communicate. For this reason, I dislike 30 minute sessions at times.

I agree, however especially in the hobby world where a "service" is involved and "customer satisfaction". Some gents want to cut the chit chat, I however know it's crucial for a great session. Even if I have been with the gent a few times before, I still feel the need to communicate. For this reason, I dislike 30 minute sessions at times. Originally Posted by Eva Damita

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