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Kendall Kain
Interesting topic. Clearly, I'm really new here. An old fart but new to hobbying. Can someone hip me to the proper reference "etiquette"? I'm eager to learn all the proper things to do while minimally stepping on my anatomy. Originally Posted by burrows.aaron
Kendall- I understand your frustration. He could've asked if it was ok to share your phone # and everything would've been fine.
Burrows.Aaron- I always look for a lady's ad/profile when someone tells me they're going to use her as a reference. It's safer than to take a number a gent used which could be a fake $20 track phone. Most of us wouldn't just call that number blindly. I always at least google it to see if it takes me back to a lady's website or ad.
So in short-- linking to a girls website/showcase is easiest. That way we can figure out how she prefers to be contacted. Originally Posted by CompanionSofia
So many more members, the more idiots we have. Discretion has been largely lost now.This guy who I didn't know from Adam sent me a private message complimenting one of my reviews and saying he wanted to see the provider BCD. But then the idiot had the lack of discretion to ask me for my phone number so that he could use me as a reference. For all I know he could have been another Jack the Ripper. Of course, I didn't give it to him, but I did text the provider and tell her to watch out if this nutcase tried to use me as a reference because I didn't know who in the hell he was.
Unless you have her express permission, you do not give out any information to a buddy to call or another provider for a reference that she does not post publicly.
I think I need to start a hobby school.
An eight week provider boot camp.
and a hobbyist Associates degree program 2 semesters long. Additional classes for a bachelors, masters, and a PhD[ track.
Then and only then would someone be allowed full access to all of Eccie's forums.
Of course, some of these guys won't even shell out for a membership here or P411 and complain when it poses a problem or an incident. This used to be a gentleman's game. The streetwalkers were for the cheap johns. Now "Escort" boards have turned into cyber Walmarts of sex. smh Originally Posted by Glenn Quagmire
I sent a P411 screening request and got confirmation from the provider through a private message that I had passed. We scheduled, but while driving to the appointment she had the audacity to send a text asking for names and phone numbers of 3 providers as references. I pulled over to the side of the road and texted her that no way was I going to give her 3 numbers of my favorite providers without notifying them first.This is one thing you guys should ALWAYS check for. Make sure the lady has at least taken a peek at your profile. The system tells you if she did. Idealistically, she should have read it thoroughly and if you fully filled it out, she'll have an idea of your likes and dislikes... but we all know this isn't a perfect world. But at the very least, she should have at least checked your OK's.
There was not enough time to do this. I asked her if the appointment was still on because I wasn't driving 45 minutes unless she confirmed. She didn't respond after 15 minutes, so I started driving back home. Fifteen minutes later she texts asking me to come anyway. I damn sure didn't. Turns out she never even accessed my P411 profile. Originally Posted by MobyDick100