Any advice for me?
I am an older virgin who was raised in a fundamentalist religious community and am looking to loose my virginity. I would like my first experience to be with a truly attractive and confident woman, which at my age pretty much rules out getting it for free via a hookup.
I visited a house in NV but walked when I heard the prices. I figured I'd just use a local escort for a tenth of the cost. I live in Dallas, shouldn't be a problem, right? But the issue is finding the right provider. There is no way to know if I will "click" with a provider before cash is expected. Most of the best reviewed providers don't want to be bothered with newbies.
From what I have read about hobbying on the RB forum, it is a sorted business with a lot of scams and mutual disrespect -- not exactly sexy good times. So now I'm not sure which direction to go in.
I tried to set up a lunch date without the proverbial desert with a local independent provider, thinking that that might be a way to ease into it, but she flaked on me. All of which leads me to think that providers really prefer to just do their thing, get the money, and avoid anything personal. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
But if I'm going to waste money on "dates," I might as well waste money in a legal brothel. Which got me thinking about another trip to NV. The advantage of a brothel is: I get to look at and interact a little with the providers before committing to anything. I have learned from my last trip there and would be a wiser man this time. (e.g. Don't make a deposit on an appointment with a provider who you have not seen.) But due to my inexperience and age I'm not sure I can get wood in that environment -- a seedy trailer park in the desert with ugly red rooms, dirty bed spreads, a shift manager who looks like a Russian truck driver, the idea gnawing away in the back of my head that I just gave two grand to someone who (justifiably) thinks I'm a loser and stupid to-boot.
Because I'm a virgin, my sexuality is stuck in High School and my fantasies very naive. I would be willing to pay for an attractive women to take me through the steps that I should have gone through years ago -- flirting, cuddling, being seen together in public, public displays of affection, etc. The sorts of things normal people go through as their sexuality develops in their teenage years. In fact, as I stated before, I'm not sure I can get wood without spending some extra time. But providers want Johns not boyfriends.
The public image of sex workers is of women who seduce young men, leading them astray with flattery, stroking their ego, pretending to be their girlfriends in order to relieve them of their money. But I have found that not to be the case at all. I wish the scene was that sinful and idyllic.