Are you a married provider? How does he feel?

Are you married and a provider as well? Well I have a question for you...How does your husband feel about your chosen profession? Were you a provider when you guys met? Was he cool at first then change his attitude towards it or you?
I'm asking BC I am married (one year now) and was a provider when we met. I told him I was going to quit when we got married but we have fallen on very hard times so I had no other choice but to start in the business again.
Anyone have some input? Would you allow your wife/husband to put food on the table if that was the last resort?

Well...how I discovered backpage was from a cousin they came to dinner one thanksgiving and was using the computer to get her itinerary for the next week. Her job as a sales rep for a medical supply company required her to travel. After she left and I got on the computer when I logged in her backpage ad came up along with her touring schedule.
She kept it away from home and thats how they survived the job her husband had was very low paying and they were on hard times before she took that job. He stayed at home and took care of the kids. .needless to say I haven't ever let her know I know the truth or anything about her job.
I do know they had some relationship issues during those years but was able to work through them. My guess is it was something he would have rather she not do but had to to survive.
As for me.. If it was us and my wife offered to do this out of necessity I would say i would like to think I wiuld understand. Its like my visits. I visit to improve my quality of life and hopefully the one I visit with.
I wont see someone that is being used or made to for someone elses benefit.
In the process my quality of life has improved i have made some good friends and I haven't lost any of the love and admiration I have for my wife I wish I didn't have to but then I know its the only way if I still want to feel adequate as a man.
I would keep it away from home. You really dont want to have some guy cornering you at home or razzing your husband over your skills. it would have to be her decision and he shouldn't travel with that would be hard for anyone to have that constant reminder.I hope that helps a little. Some guys aren't understanding though good luck sweetie.

Thank you!

No but, I did meet a man in this business, he knew exactly what I did. He saw gals like me when he was single. We never did a visit like that we met at a M&G. We dated for five years.

I quit the business and didn't look back during our time together but, he held it against me the five years we were together. It was part of our demise.

He just could not get over it. Every fight we got into it came up even though our fight had Nothing to do with it. It wore on me... I accepted his past and he just could not mine.

Overall he was a good man but we were just not meant to be.

While not a hubby its what it was like for me in that relationship, we were at one point going to get married..

wife knew i saw girls in the service. knew she saw some couples while i was gone. we saw local girls and escorts as a couple sometimes. had no relationships no bareback rule. if she wanted to escort that would be fine. dated escorts and stippers before. no problems.

I have known several providers who were married. In each case the spouse knew. In one case I even met the spouse. They all said that there were rough patches, and all agreed that it's better if they don't talk about it when she comes home.

I've never been married or even engaged so I don't know how I'd react to that. I can't imagine I'd be ok with it. I'm old fashioned when it comes to marriage. I view it as a life long commitment with someone you truly love and adore. I know unforeseen circumstances can change things but that's how I look at it. I can't imagine sharing the woman I love with other men. That would likely rip me to pieces. Your situation is unique in that your husband knew you had previously been an escort. He may be better equipped to deal with it. Hope it works out for both of you.

Are you married and a provider as well? Well I have a question for you...How does your husband feel about your chosen profession? Were you a provider when you guys met? Was he cool at first then change his attitude towards it or you?
I'm asking BC I am married (one year now) and was a provider when we met. I told him I was going to quit when we got married but we have fallen on very hard times so I had no other choice but to start in the business again.
Anyone have some input? Would you allow your wife/husband to put food on the table if that was the last resort? Originally Posted by brooklyn25

The relationship will get strained. You must put your husband first. You will need to make him feel like the most important fucktard ever to be put on this earth. You will need to take care of him, put your makeup on, and dress up, and fuck his brains out.

You must put your husband first. You will need to make him feel like the most important fucktard ever to be put on this earth. You will need to take care of him, put your makeup on, and dress up, and fuck his brains out. Originally Posted by pyramider

Uhh point of order...that's something any woman should do for her partner no matter what.

Corollary: It's the partner's job to make her feel special, appreciated, and beautiful.

On-topic: If I was married and my partner needed or even just plain wanted to escort to fund their shopping I'd tell them to go for it. Of course I'm a deviant and the idea of my partner bringing others pleasure would be a turn on....so I'm pretty biased.

I could never deal with the guys my wife was with before she was with me (wife was first chick I was ever with).

No way, under any circumstances could I stomach her being a provider, no matter how tough the times.

Uhh point of order...that's something any woman should do for her partner no matter what.

Corollary: It's the partner's job to make her feel special, appreciated, and beautiful. Originally Posted by SA Angel

It's a two way street. When it becomes a one way street that where the problems bubble up.

I don't know if your in true despair you will do just about anything...

My wife would go ballistic if she "knew". She knows, and is trying to fix the problem, but it is to late.

Your fella should become productive. Not being productive is a choice. It is likely that he will allow you to do it, and not say anything if it isn't in his face. Don't hurt him, and it will be ok.

The service that you provide is valuable to society, and useful to you. If you need to do this to pay bills, and you are personally comfortable with it, use you skills and don't look back. In all seriousness, why would somebody work 40 hours a week to receive the rewards that working 4 hours a week would provide. The 40 hr/week job is far more damaging to your family than this.

Brooklyn perhaps you should give Maggie McNeill a shout. She has extensive knowledge of this because when she was married for a time she had to return to work as an escort to help out. However that was for a short time when she was married. She has an interesting cross section of experiences that could be beneficial to you.

You are so right! Thanks!