Defending Yourself questions

Laurenspencer's Avatar
In a situation if you are blamed for something you did not do , do you defend yourself or walk away ?? I have always walked away due to Im chicken shit** when it comes to drama and I wont win lot parking lot argument or fight lol.
Usually when one is blamed for something its something small , Im being blamed for something HUGE. I know this is not the best place to get advice for this issue , but its not like I can put this question on social media . I always feel that karma gets people who intently do these things , but it seems this person never suffers consequences and comes out smelling like a rose every time
CatMan4u's Avatar
Sorry Lauren for your troubles sometimes I stay quiet and sometimes I say my piece honestly but bluntly then simply move on my peace of mind is more important
WMJ4657's Avatar
Some have defenders they constantly bully into covering for them! I have even heard of freebies being tossed their way to say & print the right thing. But then again maybe we not talking about the same things 🤷♂️
I have found that sometimes I'm the karma that these folks deserve. Pick the battles carefully. If its a worthy cause at least you can hold your head high even if you're on the losing end knowing you stood up for what's right.
Opinions are like assholes everyone has one. No way I would try to throw an opinion on your situation because it's unique. But if it was me I would weigh risk/ reward for doing it. But I'm a firm believer in Karma.
farmncityboy's Avatar
In a situation if you are blamed for something you did not do , do you defend yourself or walk away ?? I have always walked away due to Im chicken shit** when it comes to drama and I wont win lot parking lot argument or fight lol.
Usually when one is blamed for something its something small , Im being blamed for something HUGE. I know this is not the best place to get advice for this issue , but its not like I can put this question on social media . I always feel that karma gets people who intently do these things , but it seems this person never suffers consequences and comes out smelling like a rose every time Originally Posted by Laurenspencer
My thoughts are to let it die down before you do or say something you can't take back. You know if you're right or not! The others will always choose sides that they think are right, whether its true or not.
Laurenspencer's Avatar
Sorry Lauren for your troubles sometimes I stay quiet and sometimes I say my piece honestly but bluntly then simply move on my peace of mind is more important Originally Posted by CatMan4u
I would be lying if I said it did not bother me as I am only human , but I know in my heart I did not do anything wrong , Its not in my nature to be unkind or hurt others emotionally . I did lose my patience yesterday and acted off emotions and that's the only thing that is bothersome to me . This person that completely wronged me , knew how to push my buttons , I have to give it to them there a master at being vindictive , something I want to never learn . The hobby is about being discrete and loyal and most of all trust , not to be bullied. This world is so stressful , a hobby is a outlet for all of us to escape from the mundane and ground hog day and to explore the extraordinary
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  • 05-07-2021, 03:17 PM
In a situation if you are blamed for something you did not do , do you defend yourself or walk away ?? I have always walked away due to Im chicken shit** when it comes to drama and I wont win lot parking lot argument or fight lol.
Usually when one is blamed for something its something small , Im being blamed for something HUGE. I know this is not the best place to get advice for this issue , but its not like I can put this question on social media . I always feel that karma gets people who intently do these things , but it seems this person never suffers consequences and comes out smelling like a rose every time Originally Posted by Laurenspencer
I find the best way to deal with these situations is to come back around to it long after the person thinks it has gone away that way they cannot link what is happening to them to you. I play a slow game of revenge that is calculated and planned properly.
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Very interesting
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I would be lying if I said it did not bother me as I am only human , but I know in my heart I did not do anything wrong , Its not in my nature to be unkind or hurt others emotionally . I did lose my patience yesterday and acted off emotions and that's the only thing that is bothersome to me . This person that completely wronged me , knew how to push my buttons , I have to give it to them there a master at being vindictive , something I want to never learn . The hobby is about being discrete and loyal and most of all trust , not to be bullied. This world is so stressful , a hobby is a outlet for all of us to escape from the mundane and ground hog day and to explore the extraordinary Originally Posted by Laurenspencer
I can relate to this post
I'm sorry you're going through that .
Best wishes ❤
CatMan4u's Avatar
Lauren you have my respect everyone losses their cool at some point I know I don't seem to word things correctly but I have a good heart
tuckahoe's Avatar
Everyone has a limit as to how much they can take from professional bullies. A member has been absent a few days, though probably is in "Invisible Mode". Yes, this should be a discrete and safe outlet for members!! It should not be for one to be Napoleon. It is disturbing for one member to constantly make charges against others with little to no repercussions. Hopefully, most can see who has a good heart.
Laurenspencer's Avatar
I can relate to this post
I'm sorry you're going through that .
Best wishes ❤ Originally Posted by hot summer
Thank you so much for you kind words it truly lifts my spirit I don't ever want to be in these shoes again. Sometimes we learn lessons the hard way in life and I definitely did .I wont repeat history. Im not sure if you are in NWA or Central but Im back in forth and would love to meet you I don't know many of the ladies and having a good solid group of friends would be lovely xx Lauren
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